Omg yes those things I can definitely say I and lots of SOs have experienced.... we ask or they get caught and promise things will change only to continue lying and using.... that was one of the worst parts of my relationship was it was so bad then there were those moments where I was like This is why I stay and then its gone.... luckily we are out of that now but jeez it was bad when we were there.... lots of addicts use gaslighting to control their partners because they want their addiction yet they also want their partner.... this is why I always tell partners that they should never tolerate living with an Actice Addict.... a recovering addict is a much different story, but active addicts that are in denial.... that is a recipe for disaster and pain
Humiliate my husband? Oh you poor dear. Is that what you got out of that? smh! context! My sincerest apologies need4realchg. Your argument and discussion has plenty of merit. Thank you for sharing.
Honestly, it's the most discussed thread I have ever started It's either a touchy subject, or a necessary one. Thank you for your contribution!
I just ran across this article and it reminded me of this thread. Just putting it here as food for thought. https://www.btr.org/how-abusive-men...book_page&utm_medium=Betrayal Trauma Recovery