college, and new to dating? what country are you from saudi arabia? most of the females l know have been smashing since middle school. colleges are hard to do if youre not a student there. if youre a student there, it's easy. ive asked for directions and females will ask for my socials after some small talk. i remember asking 2 college students for directions and both were very friendly to me. college students are very tribal, so if youre not one of them, they will not welcome you with open arms. i also remember talking to a student a few blocks away from campus. at this time, i was not a student. when she asked me if i was a student, and i said no. that was the end of the conversation. i was also talking to a couple of students and asked them about this, and they told me they were much more defensive towards those who arent students at their college
cold approach is usually a pua thing. i know about 10 guys who do cold approaches, and none of them really have any friends, and it seems like thats the ONLY option they have. i dont see it as a healthy thing because what ends up hapening, at least with the guys i know is, they get rejected by a bunch of females and end up having lower self esteem, and some of them end up hating females due to getting rejected so much. there are some guys who end up desensitizing themselves. this ends up distancing the pua from the community they live in, because in order for them to continue cold approaches, they have to desensitize themselves, which ends up making them seem inconsiderate. if you pay attention to guys who are popular with not only females but men too, theyre normally quite in tune with how people feel, and will modify their behavior based on how their colleagues are. this is also closely tied with eq. l know a guy who gets lots of females. hes actually a pretty flawed person, but one thing l noticed about him is he's constantly reading a females body language, when interacting with her, and he proceeds based on how the female acts. problem with the vast majority of pua is, they are blocking out any signals and body language the female is sending because in order for him to continue cold approach, he has to block off all signals in order to desensitize himself. this is why most pua dont succeed
if you really pay attention to female behavior, you;ll notice that females would rather go back to guys they knew in high school rather than give a random guy on the street a chance, even though the random guy may be a better fit. people look to what is familiar to them and dont like walking into the unknown. even when i was in college, i knew alot of guys who would just date females they knew from hs rather than meet new females at college. also you look at the expat community too. you look at the white females who live in japan but they are almost always dating white guys. so they go out of their way to find these guys who theyre familiar with rather than date a local guy who is much more easily accessible
that result is about the same for 99%. alot of guys dont understand that getting a number doesnt necesarily result in a date. in many ways approaching, getting a number, and no response is worse than getting no number because youve wasting your time and effort, and got your hopes up for nothing
humans are also tribal, so we've been conditioned over thousands of years to mate with specific people among very specific groups, and it would almost always be frowned upon for you to step out of those boundaries set by your tribe
the reality of it is, the older you are, the harder it becomes, and the smaller your audience becomes. l talk to alot of young females and l always ask them their age range and it usually is about 5 yrs older, and the maximum is usually 30. there will always be females who dont mind middle age men, but l think thats very niche. you also have to remember that in the back of peoples minds will always be reproduction. when a female looks at you, shes programed to think, will this man bring me healthy offspring, and middle age men do not. same reason men generally are not interested in middle age females. if you look it up, mens sperm actually start to have problems after 25
l ask alot of attractive females this very question, and alot of them tell men to say "l think youre pretty, you mind if l get your number". this actually only takes 10 seconds. l know lots of guys who talk to females for 10 minutes. then l ask them if he got a number, and he says no. so lm honstly wondering what was the point of him wasting 10 minutes talking to a female who wasnt intersted in dating him. alot of these guys will say things like "i enjoy the conversations". but if youre a man that spends 10 minutes of your time, or even 1 minute of your time talking to someone who isnt interested then it really shows that youre a low value man with no dignity, and that your time isnt worth a whole lot. lts a bit like being a salesman. a good salesman wont waste his time talking to customers who wont buy anything. as soon as someone walks in a store, he can gauge if theyre going to buy anything
females are dating, just not dating you. look it up. only about 32% of young females are single. now bear in mind, this includes ugly females too. you can guarantee that with attractive females, it's going to be much lower, where you will see upwards of 80% of females are NOT single. and amongst college females it will be even higher simply because theyre always going to be around eligible young men.
im not saying youre doing cold approach is your only option, but the vast majority of guys i know who do cold approach have no options. i know a guy whos been going to college for 9yrs, yet has 0 friends from college. he works at an amazon warehouse and also has no friends from there. it's mostly cause he acts wierd and is shunned by his peers, so it forces him to do cold approach where he also finds no success. and i think here is the million dollar question. if youre not popular with your classmates, neighbors, or coworkers, then why would you be with random females in a park? and to be honest, if a female is willing to date some random guy from a park, what does that say about the female? is she high value? and if so, whys she dating a random guy from a park?
that approach just sounds like a pushy salesman. do u think if you walk into a best buy intending on buying a toaster, and the salesman keeps telling you to buy the blue tooth headset that youll buy it? if a female tells you that she has a boyfriend, or she has to go, and you interprete that as interest, isnt that just being delusional? no more nice guy, just delusional guy?
again. im not saying that its impossible. if youre dating 19 yr olds then more power to you. im just saying that a mans chances starts to go down and he is inevitably going to face more obstacles at 30 than he is at 20 if he is cold approaching with recited lines. this is given that all things are the same and you are doing the same work out routine. i tell u. just the receding hairline alone is going to work against you. females can still go for old men but as i said, the vast majority of females are going to have an ideal male in their mind of what they want, and it;s usually young guys. just like you are focused on 19-25yr olds. this doesnt mean you wont bang a middle age chic, but you are focused on 19-25yr olds. also, most attractive females report less men approaching them after 25, why? because theyre not as attractive as they were when they were 20. same goes for men, and men too lose their looks. when youre doing a cold approach, all you can see is the females looks, and at the same time, all they can see is your looks, so the both of you only have looks to go off of, and for the vast majority of men, their looks are not going to be as good at 30 as compared to 20. and i say that the female will mostly only have looks to go off of because there isnt that much you can say in 1 minute to really make a female like you. certainly it's possible, but the liklihood is low. now keep in mind, even if a well adjusted, mentally healthy, good looking guy was doing cold approaches, his yeild would be low for the stated reasons above. now the avg pua is usually mentally ill, not handsome, and unpopular. so why would his yeild be high?