College Decisions. Please Help.

Stop thinking about this shit, just start doing. Seriously, go fucking study right now. Come back at the end a day of hard studying then think about what you are going to do.

 

Hey man, I'm here for you if you need someone to reach out to.

I don't know how to be responsible for myself or help with these choices, but I know that you can overcome anything with persistence.
Keep trying at it, even those at the top had to start somewhere, right?

 

First of all, cancel Netflix, uninstall/sell all your games and don't buy/get any new ones.

Could it be an alternative to sell your computer & phone and then get an old phone without internet, then only using the internet in the college library or something like that?

Eventually you'd want to practice resisting temptations, but right now, what might be best is to just minimize temptations as much as possible.

Do things like studying, exercise and house chores before you do anything else. Don't do any web surfing before you have done what you need to do each day.

For the rest of this semester, try getting your grades as good as possible. I would suggest being grateful for your supportive parents and get your act together.

You might slip up from time to time, just get back on the horse and keep going. Every inch in the direction of improvement matters.

Edit: also consider if you're studying the right thing. Do you find it interesting? Is the job market good for what your studying? Are you motivated to pursue a career related to your studies?

 

As difficult as it is and much as school sucks just keep going let your parents pay they are more than happy to they just want to see you finish . Don't worry about what your parent's think just finish . It doesn't make sense to make things more difficult for yourself by paying for it yourself you have not built yourself up yet to do so . Once you finish school you will be ready to help yourself . Leaving school and working and going back and paying for yourself just doesn't work 99 percent of the time . So just stay on the path I know it sucks. Being aware that it does sucks tells you that what you need to do be cause it's uncomfortable in a good way . Being uncomfortable and doing something that is uncomfortable but has good return when your done is a good decision . So let them pay but just do one thing finish that's the only thing you need to do is just finish . Easy decision

 

As far as pmo you will need work on stopping this to because you will need the energy .

 

How would one find out what they like to study, if career builder oriented surveys pointing you in a direction aren't working as well?

 

I would suggest:

1. Research the job market, look at which jobs/fields are in demand now and at prognoses about the future
2. Then consider which ones could be a good fit for you
3. Research the paths of getting a career in those fields. What/how long would you need to study? Do you have the necessary requirements? If not, could you attain the necessary requirements?
4. Then research what working in those fields is like. Also look at what opportunities a career in that field could give, like for example salary and international opportunities.
5. If a particular field seems interesting, you could try it out practically. Follow some simple tutorials or read a book about the subject for example.

Doing this will take time and shouldn't be rushed. Ideally you could schedule some time for doing this research.

I hope this makes sense (English isn't my native language) and that it seems reasonable. This is basically what I did and I landed on studying computer science, which is what I'm currently doing (almost 2 years in now). I think I've made a good choice.

Edit: If you are super passionate about a field and have a talent for it, it might be a good idea to pursue it even if the competition on the job market would be tough. Having researched the job market and your options would be good in any case.

 

Thanks man! This means a lot.

 

I kind of envy how your parents care about you. You should treasure this. Seeing how serious your dad is about this goes a long way of telling how much he loves you and how important you are to him.

Everything my parents ever said or did for me when I had a problem that seriously impaired me and couldn't solve on my own was: "Oh, that sucks. We will always support you." And by supporting me they actually meant telling me:"Oh, that sucks." when I told them about a problem or discussed with them about it.
A few years in, still studying, I am totally estranged from my parents, though we still love each other and, I hope, care for each other on a certain level we don't really talk with each other often anymore. I don't talk with them about problems or issues in my life anymore and they don't ask. Though, I still help them with their's because I want to.

Again, you should really, really treasure your father and him becoming upset about things that are troubling you. This is such a great way to show caring and love.

Now, back to your topic. It heavily depends on what you are studying. Also what type of job would you want to do in case you temporarily drop out from college?

If you study something with a really bad job market you may want to overthink your major.

I am guessing you are from the US and that your tuition fees are heavy, so you should really strive to work in a after-study job that will return the investment.

Other than that, stick to college for now. Try to implement good routines for learning and heavily communicate with your father and parents.
Being accountable to someone is such a great motivation and strategy to deal with study-issues.
Also, make sure to no matter what, not lie. Even if you netflix&chill all day, if at the end of the day your father calls and asks how things went, please don't lie. It will hurt your future progress so much more than when you don't.

If you can't deal with college in this phase of your life right now you can still drop out in half a year or a year. It will not be too late then. Give it your best shot right now, so you don't have to regret anything.
Trust me, I know what I am talking about. Regretting not giving it your best shot is more painful than anything else.