Coming out of my Porn Coma (Day 365)

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  1. Covert

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    Congratulation and thank you very much for your Insight
     
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  3. SnowWhite

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    @i_wanna_get_better1

    That's a super perfect postings, thanks so much, I take it as a reference.
    I'm 44 and I have the same insights, like taking responsibility, being my own enemy.

    I have one question: Did you see changes in your relationship? Did you see changes your wife change, also?
    The point is: I live in a relationship since 8 years, and it's like we two have issues, and thus, we are "fitting" in an unhealthy way.

    And whenever I try to stand up on myself, she is stopping me. Because she is fearing that I might become too will run away.
    That makes the reboot very complicated.
    We are both escaping from decisions, both of us are clinging to the other.
    In fact, we have both a sex addition, and you can imagine how our love life is going ;)
    But overall, it's a chaotic mess, and both of us are unhapppy, because we are not able to realize our dreams.
     
  4. metanoia123

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    Thank you so so much for this - I really needed to hear it!
     
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  6. ILoathePorn

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    You are truly an inspiration! I like how you not only told your story but also made a nice concrete list of what to do for a reboot. Keep up the amazing work and I am so happy that you were able to turn your life around for not only your marriage but for your kids as well. Truly amazing! Stay strong!
     
  7. Pottermouth

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    Day 1 here too. Good reading material to start on the road.
     
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  8. martyg

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    I am a new member as of today, iv put off doing this for years in the classic I'm stressed you upset me so I'm going to look at porn because I'm hurt and I'm now realising that is the monster talking. I am in a similar place with my partner she's at her wits end in hurt her so much. Reading your story has really been inspiring I hope that in a years time I can post a similar story keep it up dude!
     
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  9. Jman123

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    Thank you. That line..."finally worthy of Love." got me....that's what I want.
     
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  10. i_wanna_get_better1

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    The random swings of emotion go away after a few months. The intense feelings of anger and self-loathing start to lose their grip. Brain chemistry starts to even out. But there are still day-to-day emotional triggers, but they no longer seem so unbearable. The temptation to self-sooth by using porn is still a daily challenge but I have better coping skills now.
     
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  11. LimitlessTman

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    I had a serious problem with PMO and it was almost exclusively sexy youtube videos and sexy pictures, so I think both are as dangerous if not more than hard core porn. Yes same equivalent as you put it. Have your boyfriend watch "Your Brain on Porn" and or https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
     
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  12. @i_wanna_get_better1 Thank you for this great read and congratulations!! I just recently informed myself about porn after years of fapping and understood that it is an addiction. Your post made glass-clear one more time of many in these last days to me that i can not underestimate this. Thank you so much.
     
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  13. im_alive

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    wish there was a way to double, triple, etc like posts, as I have read the first post in this thread 10 times or more. I learn something else from it every time. Can't wait to be 365 free of this.
     
  14. Bran Cao

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    perfect!friend.
     
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  15. Spirale

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    Thanks for this, i needed this right now. Dont take this the wrong way, but Im 31 and i dont i want to be 42 still facing this addiction. Thats the only way Im heading if i dont start taking this more seriously. So thank you immensely.
     
  16. purifyingmind@02

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    [So here I am on Day 365. Am I cured? Not by a long shot. Every day is still a struggle. I was an addict, and now I am merely an addict in recovery. I will always be an addict in recovery. I will always have to keep my guard up. My brain will not allow me to forget how porn made me feel. Every time I get stressed or anxious I get urges. The monster is in it's cage but I feel his arms reaching through the bars trying to get my attention.] well said and true. Congrats and all the best..........
     
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  17. LimitlessTman

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    I am 41 and I don't want to be 42 and facing this addiction either. The time is now for both of us. I will never have a chance to live my 30s without serving this addiction, but you have it in front of you now. I don't dwell on the past with some great feeling of regret, but I am starting to see a future with no PMO and I am very excited about the next decade of my life. Take control right now. Image the man you want to be and move in that direction, or I can promise you that life won't look much different when you are 40. Just a little gray hair and another 20 pounds to go along with the addiction. We can do this.
     
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  18. Spirale

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    That hits home. Thank you. And I hope the future is everything you want it to be for many decades to come. All the best.
     
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  19. Bran Cao

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    I read it again. Your experience really taught me a lot! Thx!
    All the best.
     
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  20. Congratulations... Reading that what you have written I hope again that it is possible to quit with porn... I'm on NoFap for one month and I hope it will be easier to quit but til then I relapse a few times... Reading your story it helps me to reinforce my motivation and to keep on... Thank you for your writing and your words (English is not my language)
     
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