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Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Halibut, Apr 15, 2019.
I have read the rules and would like to become an AP
It's been a good week. Although urges come and go and are strong, the benefits of abstaining are also strong. Over the last three days, people randomly smiled at me in the street. Store clerks bantered with me. Conversation with strangers came easily. This must be what "normal" people experience. I'm starting to like it.
It is tempting to compare oneself with the YouTuber who posts videos titled "Amazing Superpowers Revealed: Three Years of NoFap!" Mere mortals like me have to be satisfied with just using porn and masturbating less than we used to, never mind getting months of sobriety on the very first try. Every day away from PMO feels like waking a little more from an unpleasant dream.
Thanks to everyone who posts here. Even though I don't post as much as I should, hopping on and reading updates gives me just a little bit of strength to carry on.
Thanks for leading this merry band of misfits, Halibut. For myself, I'll just be happy to have any achievement at all!
I am 24M living in North America. Like you, I have been trying NOFAP for years now with low success. Now I am ready to go full force, meditating and exercising daily but I also need an AP/s. I've read the rules, please add me to the group.
My pleasure @Pashka, thanks for being a big contributor to the group and sharing your experiences! You are on 5 days and that is 5 whole days of achievement matey!
Glad to hear you are having some positive experiences, I have noticed similiar things. People are starting converstations with me and smiling. Greeting me in the street and that. I feel a big part of it is what is being shown through my body language. Before i was filled with shame and disgust with myself and I bet somehow this showed through and an air of anxiety.
Its great to record these positive things you are finding so that you can look at them when you are tempted to relapse
Hi guys, just checking in.
So I am only a few days in but so far it is going well. For the first time I have discovered that not thinking of sex with girls really helps (Duh! no idea how I didn't make this connection previously).
I am trying to stay productive and put my time and energy into creating the life I want. Doing this really makes it hard ot feel bored.
I know it is early days and I haven't hit any real challenges yet.
Hey lads, checkin in. All is going well ^_^
The need to relapse has just arrived about 15 minutes ago. I feel right now that I can't see progress yet, but it's weird... Today I felt okay in the morning and was feeling good that NoFap works, but it's the afternoon right now and I now feel like this journey is soooooo slow. Pretty sure my brain right now is putting me some stress combined with urges to relapse, but I won't do it though.
I want to make this new streak my highest one to finally see how NoFap will change me. Because I'm the only one who could see how much I will change when I go over 90 days. The urge and mood swings can stay there for as long as they want, but this guy isn't going to budge and relapse!
- There are good days and bad days, and on the bad days your brain will try to persuade you that you have made no progress and never will.
Love that quote ^^^
Feeling so weak right now. Taking care of three kids all day for the past three days has destroyed me, energy-wise. I’m exhausted and alone, and just want to do something to numb me - which has often been the condition for relapse. As I said in my previous posts though, I will not give into these urges - no matter how intense they are.
Having to admit to this group that I simply caved in is motivation enough. I don’t want to give in, and I simply won’t.
Thanks again to @Dronse72 for your response. I wasn’t sure how much detail to share, but it felt good to lay out my situation for you guys, so that some other humans in the world would know my situation immediately and would therefore also know if I chose to relapse. I absolutely understand how quickly YouTube can pull you down that path - so great work for realizing it and stepping off the situation.
Stay strong @pourover24, we are pretty much at the same point in this streak by number of days and we are making it to a month damn it!
You have a lot on your plate with your work and kids and you are an inspiration!
Had a bad moment last night where I was alone on the laptop in the kitchen and had a blank google browser open - I was really wanting to act out and type in some 'terms'.
Fortunately nothing was typed but it shows how much the brain associates the internet browser with the dirty habit.
How everyone is doing?
I was busy with some offline stuff so couldn't participate.
As for me, urges are bit under control.
hey @28yrsold, welcome back
Day 5 - Today I'm feeling better actually. The urges and stress didn't beat me into relapsing yesterday. This morning I've noticed my skin is looking better in terms of looking clear and brown. My skin before NoFap was horrible! It looked pale, had acne scars on both cheeks, somewhat also looked bloated, and eyes looked tired all the time. No matter how good I would hide my depression and anxiety by always seeming optimistic and happy, instead I actually always felt dead inside. Just today it seems I'm getting my glow back which is what I've craved for so damn long! I would use a natural face wash and moisturize afterwards as well, but my skin never looked like it was improving. And when using these products while doing NoFap, I've seen them finally working!
I've been on NoFap for 6 months and about half that time I've never really seen progress even when going to 30 days. But I figured that it was my 2nd addiction that has been delaying my progress. I finally cut that 2nd addiction out and the benefits of NoFap have been showing up more quickly. Best of luck, guys! Keep it up!
Oh, and one more thing, I'll share my overall success story when I go over 30 days again. I'll talk about it in good detail in hopes to get even the lowest person on this group back up.
@Halibut You are the MAN! I was feeling pretty tempted just now - this is my last night alone before my wife comes home - what a terrible time it would be to cave in. I got on here and saw your comment and that was all it took to regain my resolve and say "no way". Haha, we are getting to one month, damn right!!
Nice work turning away from the tempting moment yourself. Believe me, I know exactly what you're talking about. It shows tremendous progress that you simply turned away from it. Nice work man - keep going strong brother!
Glad to hear you are still with me mate Thats what we are hear for!
Just about to reset my counter. Today I wasn't well and spent most of the day in bed, made it hard not to slip up with M and O.
I am counting on no PMO but really no P and much less M is a win for me. But I will start again.
Another week passed.
This week was interesting. Had my first day (ever) where it didnt even enter my mind.
But in the same week, had really strong urges on another day. However I was waiting for a friend and bored which is probably why it entered my mind, so i just nagged him instead so all good! ha (If only he knew!)
They say it takes 60 days to break a habit, and 60 to make a new one.......we're getting there so hopefully....
Well done for being honest brother.
Situations like that are going to be harder than being at work or some such for sure. Perhaps next time, make it the living room you slob in rather than the bedroom? Might help?
Fell off the wagon badly last night, and needless to say I’m feeling pretty low. The chaser effect was strong, and I ended up binging for hours on P. I feel so damn helpless against this toxic behavior. I compare it to a heroin or crack addiction. I think, “I’ll just have a little”, but it always spirals out of control in an instant. I reset my counter, and I’m going to dust myself off, and get back on the wagon. 50 days wasn’t bad, but I can do better..