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Hello, i want to be an AP and I have read the rules.

 

Hello, I want to be an AP and I have read the rules.
I am 30 living in US. I am new to the site as of yesterday. Looked at it many times the past couple years but just joined. I posted long short story of myself and problem with porn addiction in the introduction section if you want to read that or i can post more about myself here. Love to join this group if you have room. RTBFOP = Ready to be free of PORN I am ready as are all of you since you are here.

 

Hello,
I have read the rules and would like to become an AP.
I am a 54 year old male living in the U.S. who has struggled on and off with PMO since I was 13. 12-step recovery groups and spiritual practice helped somewhat. The addiction abated these last couple years which lulled me into a false sense of confidence. Due to recent life changes, I recently relapsed to numb my feelings. Things got worse, of course. My physical and mental health suffered. A number of mistakes at work cost me my job.
Finding this site just yesterday gave me some hope. I am hoping to encourage, and get encouragement from, people who can relate to my story and share our fight together.

 

I'm a 21 year old uni student. Started M in the middle of 2016 and I've been trying to stop since 2017. Recently, I've been into P but not that much. Thankfully I'm not addicted to it. I just want to get this M away from my life and I want to see how long I can last. My goal is to stop it completely.

 

Halibut, I would like to join the group. Is there still room? I've read the rules and have my counter set. Thanks!

 

@Halibut thank you for setting up this group and letting me join. This is one of the many sources Im using to help me stay on track.
Other things Im trying :
1.Exercise starting small went for a sort walk/run a couple days ago. Went for a bike ride today. Im working into this starting slow. Plan to start going to the gym a couple times a week along with starting to either run or ride bike to work at least once a week. Yes it sucks now but along with keeping me from PMO it will get me in better shape never a bad thing.

2. Writing down my thoughts/ journal. Every morning first thing I do is take five minutes and just write whatever is on my mind. Whether its how I'm feeling then how I felt yesterday thoughts about the day. I just let it flow. I sit and type now because I can type faster than write. But if you have problems with computers then maybe just get a pen and notebook.

3. Eating better/ Cooking meals. This takes time keeps me busy and also makes me eat healthier. I enjoy to cook just for the longest time would be PMOing and eating junk food. IF you dont cook now give it a try. Start small it can easily fill an hour or better of time everyday.

4. Everyday I make a small list of things Im going to accomplish that day. Just little things.
Ex. My list today. Trim trees in yard. Go for bike ride. Post on NOFAP. I think having this list keeps me occupied and seeing the list completed by spending my time constructively instead of wasting it on PMO helps me get through the day.

I guess my biggest thing is fill my day and free time with positive activities. PMO is a bad habit/addiction one way to fight that replace it with new positive constructive habits.

How about everyone else. Whats in your toolbox keeping you on track. ???

 

Hey guys my tracker says the days ive gone without pm but i have done no pmo how do i get my tracker to say orgasm as well like some guys on here have there tracker saying all three and thats what i need mine to say because i havent pmoed

 

person ass tracker needs to give me credit i deserve lol

 

Someone who has been here longer than me might have a better idea but if you go to the top of the page where HOME FORUMS GROUPS SUPPORT SITE tabs are there is UPDATE DAY COUNTER. IF you click on that there is a slide bar to make selection. Does your say PMO or just PM. If is just set at PM you might have to slide it over to read PMO then reupdate the day your started??? Maybe someone else will chime in to verify.

 

cool yea i just want to see the fact that im doing this hard mode because that was always my goall.

 

The thing is i plan on going atleast 90 days without pmo and i plan on never whatching porn or masturbating again. All my sexual experinces from now on are gonna be from girls. I have a feeling im gonna start having wet dreams at some point so would that count as an orgasm relapse?

 

@Halibut: Thanks for letting me join.

A bit about my journey. It's been four years now of off and on struggle with PMO. I'm 32 and married with three kids. I haven't been able to put together a streak of longer than 30 days since I started looking at porn around 4 years ago, which has been incredibly frustrating.

Oftentimes, I will do well for 1-3 weeks, and then some combination of stress, intense urges, random free time to myself, and whatever else results in a relapse. I want porn and masturbation to be totally gone. I don't expect to not be tempted by it anymore, but I really need to have a sustained period of time (forever) where it doesn't happen.

I work in front of a computer, as a freelance video editor, and I work from home. Therefore, I've had to try very hard to make it hard to find porn. I've used various tech solutions to help (an app called "Freedom" has been and still is a huge asset). But, there are other methods that I've been able to use to look at porn despite the tools that I have. I will exploit these methods when I'm in a period of intense urges. I think my next step needs to be learning to deal with the withdrawal symptoms that tend to begin around a week or so after my most recent episode with porn. I think accountability and being able to chat with others through the struggles will be helpful.

I feel like I go through a lot of hours and days in my life that isn't impacted by porn. I feel like I lead a fairly good and normal life - I don't feel like porn dominates me or my existence. But I feel like it occupies a space. I feel like it robs my relationship with my wife. It makes me feel like I'm failing as a father. It robs me of motivation, and it keeps me from enjoying so many beautiful moments. When porn takes over, usually for a day every couple weeks, it is terrible - but obviously, there is still a part of me that wants it - otherwise, I wouldn't ever do it.

There have been times where I've felt like its almost over - but I just haven't been able to get there. I'm hoping that with this group of people, it will be the extra piece that is needed to push through the hard times.