Committed AP Group With Leaderboard

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Halibut, Apr 15, 2019.

  1. mindseyeopen

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    Checkin’ in. So far, so good. I’m on my 6th day, and urges are still low. I know that will change soon.. Anyway, keep at it y’all! Together, may we find success.
     
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  2. bebetter1312

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    Hey guys im on day 5. Been really struggling lately, I keep finding myself googling porn then closing the browser before i hit search. Its really a struggle, Im trying my best to hold off but so far i havent found a substitute for this.

    Some of the things i have done is working out more consistently i try to workout 5 times a week. Ive been eating healthier and losing weight for a while now. I got an app that helps me keep track of my habits. Even the smallest things like flossing or making my bed i keep track of them just to improve my overall life style. Ive started meditation, i try to mediate every morning after getting ready, even if its for 5 minutes. I think it has really helped me clear my head and keep focus.

    Ive been trying to rationalize in my head if its acceptable or not to MO instead of PMO. I know everyone has a different opinion on this. I personally think MO was never an issue for me, it was the compulsive porn watching that really brought me down. Would love to hear all your thoughts on this. So far ive held strong but im scared i might waiver.
     
  3. Pashka

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    Hello pourover24, working in front of a computer, and you are probably alone most of the day, makes it difficult. Are you able to come to this site before you look at porn? Reading members' stories definitely gives me strength in the short time I have been here.
     
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  4. mindseyeopen

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    Just walk away from the computer whenever you can. Keep your mind occupied at all times, and if you think about porn, just visualize putting those thoughts into a black box , and chucking it into space. If you have to be on a computer frequently, keep this site open to remind yourself why you’re doing this. Good luck.
     
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  5. Halibut

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    @RTBFOP Thanks for these awesome ideas. I have used exercise for sure as a means of getting urges out of my head. My worst time is just before going to bed, so I get down and do some press ups. Tbh I have been slacking on the exercise and need to get into it as it is a big urge buster and does amazing things for my mental health.

    I am writing a journal too, it was on paper, but just like yourself I have started typing it up as i can get so much more down.

    My 2 pence is similar to your list of things. I like to create a plan for the next day before I go to bed. I bought a productivity planner off amazon and I find it really useful for filling my time and keeping my mind off pm.

    I am also doing the wim hof method which involves cold showers and deep breathing. It makes me feel awesome for the day and the cold showers destroy any kind of urge!
     
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  6. Halibut

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    Wet dreams are definitely NOT a relapse, it is a natural body function. It shows you are on your way to recovery. Good luck with the hard mode man!
     
  7. Halibut

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    Thanks for sharing @pourover24, I go a similar length of time then begin to struggle, around the 21 day mark. Stress is a big trigger for me, as is boredom. So I have to find things to fill my time, I have a list of things to do on my phone in case I find myself suddenly having some free time, you could make yourself one?

    When those withdrawal symptoms kick in, let us guys support you, we will pretty much all go through it at some point or another.

    Its hard that you work from home, especially sat in front of a computer all day. I work mostly 12hr shifts which gets me out and about for the day and pretty much writes off any pmo.

    Can you work in a space where there is people who can see you? Leave the door open to your office so it isnt private and tempting?
     
  8. Discipline1987

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    @Halibut thank you for creating the group and letting me be a part of it.

    I am 32 from England, I am new to NoFap. I have Thought about quitting Pm for a long time without ever really being dedicated or committed to it.

    However the desire to change is now there and it has become a must as I have realised it is impacting me on many levels. Hope we can all get to our goal and become better versions of ourselves.
     
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  9. Halibut

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    @Discipline1987 Welcome to the group, I wish you all the best with your goal, we are all here to help you out
     
  10. Pashka

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    Checking in today. Just reached Day 3. While I feel a certain strength and energy, the energy is unfocused. The urge to indulge in PMO has hit hard. My wife is home today and I am rather snappish to her.

    This is the part where I usually give in and masturbate to porn in order to make the feelings go away. However, I know if I ride it out, there is a new feeling of well-being on the other side.
     
  11. Discipline1987

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    Pashka stay strong, exactly that my friend. Establish your reasons for doing this and keep them at the forefront of your mind. Giving in will never benefit you in any shape or form or your relationship.
    All the best
     
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  12. Upsyllon03

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    I have read the rules and would like to become an AP
     
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  13. pourover24

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    Tough day today. I got started early by giving in to looking for P on my phone, and it snowballed into viewing images - resulting in PMO later in the day. I was sluggish when I woke up, and almost knew it was going to be a tough day.

    Just being brutally honest, and I'm not proud of this - but I had to put a show on for my kids so I could go to the bathroom and finish myself off - I was dying and figured that I should end it rather than continue to hunt for more P as I burn up on the inside. My wife had taken my daughter to an evening activity. For the better or no? Hard to say. But I'm still not proud of the fact that I did that - it isn't who I want to be.

    It is evening as I write this. First off, I'm very excited to be a part of this community - I'm hopeful that we can accomplish amazing things together that will impact our lives years from now. I personally believe that my victory over this awful part of my life will trace back in part to this group. S/O again to @Halibut for starting this.

    Tonight, I am going to figure out how to block porn at my wifi router level. I have known how important this is for a while, and have been putting it off due to laziness. Given how much time I spend at home, and the sheer number of devices that are connected to the internet - this is an absolute must.

    Not all was a failure today. I got the work done that I needed to. I was on kid duty most of the afternoon (broke up several arguments lol - and had a bit of a heart to heart with my 6 yo son). I also took extra time tonight to cook a really good meal - and my stomach is thanking me now. Ate good food rather than the typical processed stuff that can leave me feeling a bit queezy.

    Tomorrow, I need to be better from the start of the day. I plan to wake up on time (6:15 am) and make a proper breakfast to fuel my day. I plan to get an early start on work and work hard through my allotted time before I take over kid duty from my wife (we both work from home. I want to do something to help my wife tomorrow afternoon - as she is in full-on spring clean mode outside - and would really appreciate it. I want to feel alive tomorrow - shake off the rust - and get ready to kick this habit to the curb.

    Perhaps I will be hit my a major down mood tomorrow - but I hope not. And by a bit later tonight, I hope to have my wifi blocked off from future porn use.

    @Halibut: Thanks for the suggestions! I've thought about moving my office to a better location. A huge problem is when my wife leaves the house and the kids are at school - those alone times are tough. I need to make a plan to possibly get out of the house - but again, the wifi router will help if I can get that solved.
     
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  14. PolarOtter

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    Hi Coffee_lover... I'm thinking this comment was in answer to my question. Thanks. I have tried using those devices in the past.
     
  15. PolarOtter

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    Hey again Coffee_lover. I actually planned to talk with him this past weekend while he was in town, but he was unfortunately under the weather and we never did have the discussion (nor any intimacy)... the latter helped me to carry on with my no pmo I suppose. I was planning to try pleasing him, but not having a release of my own. I will try this out next time we are together.
     
  16. PolarOtter

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    Thanks for welcoming me into the group Halibut! Yes, I am nervous about talking to him about my addiction, but he is aware that I (used to) edge, so maybe this won't be much more bad news... in fact, maybe it will be good news that I made the decision to stop this behavior for us.
     
  17. mindseyeopen

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    Checkin’ in to say keep your heads up. This is a great thing we’re all doing for ourselves, and it’s honestly a relief to know I can pop on here, and vent with some people going through the same thing. This is only a hurdle we all need to jump over. Onwards and upwards.
     
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  18. RTBFOP

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    @pourover24 I cant imagine how working in front of a computer all day. I think you have the right idea find a way to block all the devices you can. Just some insight on this from my experience. I went for a while thinking I could get by with filter or apps to block things. Worked for awhile but failed. So then I put filters/parental controls on my phone and computer. Worked for awhile but soon when the things got bad enough I had the passwords and could go right by whatever I had in place. Did it slow me down yes but didn't stop me. My current attempt I let my girlfriend set the passwords on my phone and my computer. If it blocks something i need to use like NoFap or others she will allow the website. I know this is hard to find someone to do this for you but have you talked to your wife about this and what you're trying to accomplish. She might be a great asset in helping you avoid falling into traps when your working home alone. Let her set the passwords. I can tell you right now I would have to work very hard in order to look at porn right now. Im still early on and haven't had the urges ive had in my previous streaks. But I know when that time comes it will be extremely difficult to go online in any way to find porn. My girlfriend is currently gone for 2 months on a travel assignment and I had to set up a new account on my phone with me as child for her to set the limitations on my phone. And i had her change the password to my old account so i cant just log in and use that like I was before. Crazy yes but it has been a live saver.

    Everyone else hang in there. I know the advice I give above is difficult when you don't have the someone you can share this with. But I encourage you all to find someone. Is it painful and embarrassing yes but I in my last 2 years of fighting this I can tell you I have not been able to do it alone. The little bit of pain and embarrassment will never match up to the rewards of beating the PMO addiction.

    Had busy day and don't have a lot of time here tonight. I will check back tomorrow and try to catch up with everyone else. Keep fighting...
     
  19. SteveUk

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    Totally agree with what you’re saying about blocking things yourself. Slows ya down but doesn’t really work. Had same issues

    Anyways week 1 check in and going ok so far. Found me a great AP in another part of this site and I kinda just know that with his help I’ll beat this thing :D
     
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