Committed AP Group With Leaderboard

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Halibut, Apr 15, 2019.

  1. pourover24

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    Moving along - had some tough urges yesterday but was able to fight through it. Last week, I had some pretty crusty days in terms of motivation and feeling alive, but I think that had to have something to do with withdrawals.

    Lately, I've been feeling the need to be really intentional in developing a daily routine for myself. I work from home, and my editing work has slowed down a touch but will pick back up soon. In the meantime, I've been meaning to get rolling on a new venture but often find myself unable to buckle down and maximize my time. When I'm struggling with motivation, I often begin to struggle with urges as well.
     
  2. Halibut

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    Amazing self-analysis @L1ster :emoji_clap:

    I tried writing down my feelings in an app called Daylio - it helps you track what activities you do in a day and track your moods.

    You can see trends in your moods such as when I have relapsed I see a reduction in my mood for like the next 3 days - going from a 7+ on average to like a 5 'meh' mood.

    I will also get into the habit of writing affirmations every morning on what I want to achieve in the day, how I will not relapse to pmo and reasons why - only very brief like taking 5 mins in the morning.

    Meditation has also been a saint for me recently - I read the book BLISS MORE by light, which has helped my develop a more relaxing practice. Essentially this book takes the stereotype cross legged, straight backed - really uncomfortable and difficult meditation to something that people actually want to do

    I have noticed from this about being able to deal with stress and urges better outside of the meditation
     
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  3. pourover24

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    Doing well, but my mood is in the tank and I've been very tired the last couple of days. I'm pretty discouraged about this - I know part of it has to do with going through some withdrawals - but there are other parts too.

    I think I put a lot of pressure on myself to perform as well, in my job and other side ventures. Sometimes, I truly don't know how to slow down, though I feel I used to be better at this.

    Great to read your thoughts @L1ster. Good to hear you're keeping on @Halibut! That app sounds interesting.
     
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  4. Journey to Resilience

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    2-26-20: Day 1
    • I relapsed quite a bit these past few days, but made it through my first day today. Although I did have urges, I talked myself out of them.
    • I have also been wondering: What if I see quitting PM as a “game” instead of a battle? I am saying this because it might be a lot less stressful on me if I change my mindset.
    • There was this old NoFap video I watched and it had a lot of really good tips. If it is allowed, can I link it?
     
  5. Halibut

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    By all means @Journey to Resilience , that sounds useful

    Day 23

    It is around this time that I get complacent - the whole nofap journey gets put to the side line, its gets easier to think - I deserve just a peak right?

    I have been getting urges in the evenings when I find myself alone and nothing really to do

    It pretty much boils down to having a wrong relationship with boredom.

    Its ok to be bored, being bored encourages creativity - but we have so many things to prevent us being bored - phones, social media...pmo...

    got 4 12hour shifts coming up so that should prevent me from having much alone bored time!
     
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  6. Journey to Resilience

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    This is the link I was talking about:
     
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  7. Legit1

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    Wow... so the last 5 days I've had the worst withdrawals, most of them were mentally withdrawals which are the worst. I was feeling irritability, lots of frustration, times where I can't think straight, black circles under eyes, mood swings, anxiety, some depression, and even broke down once because I just felt so frustrated. The one thing I can't understand is that I don't even know why I'm frustrated, but I just felt in my body that I'm very frustrated. I know that sounds weird, but that's the best way I can describe it.

    Today I feel somewhat better but I'll be damned if I go back to those withdrawals today or soon enough. I don't want to feel like trash, because it really pushes me to the brink of wanting to punch the wall. The whole time as I was negative, the thought of relapsing would pop up, but I always shoved it away so easily because I know I'm being deceived, and that in the end I'm just going to feel worse.

    Currently at day 37. Going to forget those bad days and focus on this day.
     
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  8. Journey to Resilience

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    2-27-20: Day 2
    • Had less urges than normal. I was mostly working that day.
    • I just found out that Terry Crews (,the Old Spice guy,) had a porn addiction! Needless to say, I was really surprised and thought he'd be the last person to go through that kind of hardship. I know there's videos of him recording his progress and giving advice. If I find them, I will certainly link them here!
     
  9. Journey to Resilience

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    Keep up the good work! You're doing a whole lot better than I am. 38 days is waaaay out of my reach at the moment.
     
  10. Halibut

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    *LEADERBOARD HAS BEEN UPDATED*

    Day 25

    Feeling good, starting to see more of the benefits that I saw in the first week come back - like my hormones are settling out

    -More confidence
    -More relaxed
    -Less over-thinking

    Also question for the group:

    *Who would be interested in doing a No Nut March challenge?*

    I have set up another leader board on the OP, so everyone can be involved regardless of how many days you currently have

    It will be a last man standing format: If you relapse you are removed from the March leaderboard

    The normal day-counter leaderboard will stay the same

    A bit short notice, march obviously starting tomorrow so I can set up the leaderboard with all group members names
    - just let me know if you dont want to be on it.

    If it is popular enough then we can have monthly challenges

    My thinking is the more reasons why not to relapse the better and to appeal to our innate competitive natures!!

    Nothing is out of your reach man - keep on fighting!
     
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  11. Journey to Resilience

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    It sounds like a great idea! Count me in!
     
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  12. Legit1

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    I'm up for that challenge as well @Halibut

    So today I've been feeling pretty well. All those negative symptoms really lasted for 7 days! At some moments I would feel a bit better, but then I would go back to feeling like trash some time later.

    Also... this is an unusual withdrawal I've had for the first time yesterday night - but I woke up in the middle of the night with a major 'hard on' accompanied with heavy urges and high sensitivity that lasted for an hour. I still have no idea how something like that happened, but I guess it was my brain's final attempt for now to make me give up and relapse? Because just today I've noticed I finally got that sharp and well-rested look on my face. Honestly, I'm fired up to make the best of March
     
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  13. Halibut

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    *START OF THE NO NUT/ NO PMO MARCH CHALLENGE!*

    Let the games begin!

    No relapsing during March, last man standing - how many of us will be on the board at the end of the month??
    (hopefully all of us!)

    Good luck guys, stay strong, use this competition as another reason why not to relapse!

    Lets make March a PMO- free month!

    Good to see you guys are on board!
     
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  14. Journey to Resilience

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    3-2-20: Day 2
    • Starting No Nut March Challenge. I am excited to participate in my first NoFap challenge. I don't really expect to complete it, but I will be happy if I can at least have a 7-days. Although I will certainly aim for the full challenge.
    • No noteworthy temptations. I was too busy working on something and I also got sick again. @[email protected]
    • I just reconnected with a sponsor from SCA. A sponsor is the equivalent of an Accountability Partner in NoFap, but with a mentor/mentee type of dynamic. The idea is to have both online and physical components to recovery. If you are interested in going to SCA meetings, I will link the website below.
    SCA Main Site:
    https://sca-recovery.org/WP/
    SCA Meetings Search:
    https://sca-recovery.org/WP/meetings/
     
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  15. Halibut

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    Day 28

    Day 3 No Nut March Challenge!

    So far so good in the challenge, yesterday though was rough with mega urges

    I managed to fight through it and felt proud of myself for not giving in!

    Hope you guys are going good - not heard from a few of you in a while!

    @Accountability Bud, @Narzisse, @GKDOES, @SelfLoathingMillennial, @Misha4blues97 @Misty1984 - how you guys doing?

    UPDATED LEADERBOARD 03/03/2020:
    1| @Narzisse (116) :emoji_trophy:
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    @Legit1 (42) :emoji_medal:
    3| @Halibut (28)
    :emoji_military_medal:
    4| @pourover24 (26)
    5| @GKDOES (18)
    6| @Misha4blues97 (12)
    7| @Accountability Bud (11)
    8| @Vitabella (11)
    9| @SelfLoathingMillennial (9)
    10| @L1ster (6)
    11| @Journey to Resilience (2)
    12| @Misty1984 (0)
    13| @31Jan2020 (?)
     
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  16. Legit1

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    Day 42. Urges have been mostly low on this streak. It's mostly the mood swings that have been messing me up, which have always been the worst type of withdrawal I hate while on NoFap. I would rather have urges all day long than to be on these constant mood swings, because I know urges are just signals from my brain to make me want to relapse, but I immediately know that all that is just deceit and not needed.

    Keep on going, guys! We're not going back!
     
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  17. Journey to Resilience

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    3-3-20: Day 0
    • Relapsed recently. Mitigating my thoughts, specifically sexual thoughts, is a weakness of mine I need to work on. Does anyone have tips or suggestions to help control these thoughts? I would be open to cold showers and exercise, but I am currently sick.
    • I just downloaded Daylio. I might look into Loop Habit Tracker too.

    @L1ster
    For me personally, I count a relapse as watching P, completing M, or edging. As long as you aren't doing any of those things, you should be fine. And thank you for suggesting these apps. They look really useful!
     
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  18. Legit1

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    Damn... All I can tell you is that you have to look at your thoughts and urges as your brain pushing you to relapse, so you gotta be tougher and know that you won't let yourself be deceived. Your brain uses so many withdrawals during NoFap it ain't even funny. Urges, mood swings, depression, fatigue, irritability, inability to think straight, etc. The list goes on.

    It's best to get on the high horse as soon as possible and end this addiction once and for all instead of later
     
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  19. Halibut

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    Hey @L1ster, thanks for being accountable to us and being honest about your relapse - it helps to draw a line in the sand and pick yourself up and carry on. There will be a no nut April challenge as well my friend.

    I will have to check out the 'loop habit tracker' and see if it will be more valuable - it sounds very useful! As I get further into this streak I am starting to want to work more on other areas of my life e.g. healthy eating, gym ect - that sounds a perfect app for it
     
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  20. Halibut

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    I cant recommend meditation enough for helping control / divert sexual thoughts. It has been scientifically proven that meditation strengthens the prefrontal cortex of the brain which is responsible for rational thought

    If you dont have much experience with meditation, or you have found it hasnt been useful - give Bliss More a read as it changed my view and experience on meditation completely
     
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