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Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Halibut, Apr 15, 2019.

  1. SelfLoathingMillennial

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    Day 9 for me today. Got really tempted yesterday. It always gets tough for me around day 10 or so.
     
  2. SelfLoathingMillennial

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    Hello friends. I relapsed on day 9 due to edging. The site I used to frequent releases new videos every Friday so I find myself more curious than aroused. This leads to temptation and edging. Any recommendations on how to beat this?

    Thanks in advance!
     
  3. Journey to Resilience

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    Does prayer and affirmations count as meditation? @Halibut
     
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  4. SelfLoathingMillennial

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    And recommendations for prayerful meditation for starters? Any apps?
     
  5. Legit1

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    Checking in on day 44. Just when I thought I had a break from all these mood swings -- they return back. I thought I was feeling okay this morning, but I guess my brain has launched some more setbacks. 2 other pimples popped up, a rash full of circles popped up in my left wrist, and now the tiredness and feeling like trash has been set up. God I hate feeling like this... it's like I can't catch a break. And I know some of these symptoms are from NoFap because the idea of 'porn watching' has been popping up randomly since some hours ago. I'm not caving in or anything, but I felt like sharing to let you guys know where I'm at.

    Edit: The rash spot can be from a minor healing crisis since I'm detoxifying my body with herbs, just to fortify a bit of myself inside and all. Also just took another cold shower just to stabilize myself which worked greatly! I only take one cold shower, skip a day, and then take another cold shower the following day. Felt like I needed this one even though I took one yesterday
     
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  6. Halibut

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    Block the site! If it is creating frequent relapses and edging you have to think is going on this site worth it?

    This is the reason I had to get rid of instagram and snapchat , access to reddit ect
     
  7. Halibut

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    They count as a meditative practice rather than a meditation - which is not to say they are not extremely useful!

    Meditation is a mind settling practice where you reduce the 'busy mind' and relax into a state where you brain waves become alpha waves - which are the waves produced when you sleep and therefore you are in deep rest

    Affirmations and prayer are an active thinking process, which can help reduce stress and are therefore meditative but not meditation - if that makes any sense haha?

    But affirmations and prayer are very powerful tools for promoting self-esteem, motivation and happiness - and something I want to get back into - especially affirmations as its sets your intent for the day
     
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  8. Halibut

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    Day 30 boys!!

    UPDATED LEADERBOARD
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    @Legit1 (44) :emoji_medal:
    3| @Halibut (30)
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    5| @GKDOES (20)
    6| @Misha4blues97 (14)
    7| @Accountability Bud (13)
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    9| @L1ster (1)
    10| @Journey to Resilience (1)
    11| @Misty1984 (1)
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    13| @SelfLoathingMillennial
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    14| @31Jan2020 (?)

    *NO NUT MARCH CHALLENGE*

    Last man standing - relapse and you are out

    1| @Narzisse
    2| @Legit1
    3| @Halibut
    4| @pourover24
    5| @GKDOES
    6| @Misha4blues97
    7| @Accountability Bud
    8| @Vitabella
    9| @31Jan2020
    10| @FeelDark
     
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  9. Legit1

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    Day 46. So I've been feeling a bit better today, but one thing I've noticed is that I get short term, strong urges. I guess they're short term because I immediately dismiss them since I know they're pure deceit. Either way, I won't relapse because I know at the other side of a relapse lays regret, frustration, and just pure negativity.

    I used to think 'Hey, let's do 90 days and then relapse' but I now don't have that mindset anymore, I just want to keep on going until I feel a lot has changed and I'm a different person. If it takes a year or so, so be it. Better to start now than later.
     
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  10. Halibut

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    Day 33

    I have been doing ok, very much into the complacent mindset kinda time frame - where you begin to forget why you are doing this in the first place

    I think it is because my moods are balancing out and I am starting to feel normal that I forget what the first week of a streak is like and the horrible withdrawals.

    I have noticed more benefits though - conversations are better, virtually little anxiety/ overthinking, struck up a conversation with a girl in a shop just because I could - speaking about myself without being asked

    Hope you guys are getting on well - no nut march is still ago!
     
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  11. Halibut

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    These urges are insanely hard to deal with when they come - I know exactly what you are talking about @Legit1

    They have me crossing my legs! But getting out the house and away from the triggers and just like that they are gone - I have a feeling that these urges will come and go indefinitely and its learning how to deal with them which will be the deal breaker!
     
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  12. Halibut

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    Hey @pourover24 congrats on making 1 month!!

    Also - this is the 1000'th post on the group!

    Leaderboard update:

    1| @Narzisse (121) :emoji_trophy:
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    @Legit1 (47) :emoji_medal:
    3| @Halibut (33)
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    4| @pourover24 (31)
    5| @GKDOES (23)
    6| @Misha4blues97 (17)
    7| @Accountability Bud (17)
    8| @Vitabella (16)
    9| @L1ster (5)
    10| @Misty1984 (5)
    11| @FeelDark (4)
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    @SelfLoathingMillennial (4)
    13| @Journey to Resilience (1)
    14| @31Jan2020 (?)
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    *NO NUT MARCH CHALLENGE*

    Last man standing - relapse and you are out

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    2| @Legit1
    3| @Halibut
    4| @pourover24
    5| @GKDOES
    6| @Misha4blues97
    7| @Accountability Bud
    8| @Vitabella
     
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  13. pourover24

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    @Halibut: Thanks so much man. It has been a journey - but continuing the fight each day. Congrats to you as well man - looking strong!
     
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  14. pourover24

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    @L1ster: Keep fighting man - I know how difficult those urges can be. I also know how tough it can be to be home alone a lot - as I am in the same situation for 3-4 hours almost every workday. What works for you to get past the urges?
     
  15. Legit1

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    Day 48... damn... I've been feeling the benefits increasing little by little, but at the cost of urges and increased sensitivity. Not going to lie, but I feel uncomfortable being at this kind of a level... the increased sensitivity just adds fuel to the urges. I won't relapse or anything just yet, because I honestly don't want to go back to my past self, but I have to remain strong as possible and get through this.

    This war that's going on against this addiction takes place mostly in our brains, and the range of its artillery is so wide and unpredictable. We just have to keep on pushing and finish this day today!
     
  16. Legit1

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    @L1ster Thanks for sharing about that Coomer meme and all. I searched it up more throughout the day and it was enough to calm these urges and frustration I was building up. Then took a cold shower to further destroy the urges and frustration.
     
  17. Journey to Resilience

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    Day 2: 3-11-20
    • Will finish Day 2 in a few hours.
    • The night was a bit tough, but a NoFap video helped me through. I'll link it below.
    • I am feeling better now. I still managed to get decent sleep oddly enough.
     
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  18. Halibut

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    Had some great check ins over the last couple of days - good work

    Checking in myself on Day 36

    My mood swings have levelled out considerably, I havent felt the depressed suicidal low that I was experiencing at the first couple of weeks - after like a week long binge.

    I am getting urges, but they energise me (although they make me bounce around the room and i cant sit still!)

    In my sex life, my pied is pretty much gone, the only side effect I am seeing is that I am that sensitive that I cant last as long aha!

    Seeing some real good progress on the leaderboard - keep it up!

    *JUST A FRIENDLY REMINDER - If we haven't heard from you on the group for over a month then you shall be removed to allow the spot for a more active member*

    LEADERBOARD UPDATE
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    @Legit1 (50) :emoji_medal:
    3| @Halibut (36)
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    4| @pourover24 (33)
    5| @GKDOES (26)
    6| @Misha4blues97 (20)
    7| @Accountability Bud (19)
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    @SelfLoathingMillennial (7)
    11| @FeelDark (7)
    12|@Misty1984 (1)
    13| @Journey to Resilience (1)
    14| @31Jan2020 (?)
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    *NO NUT MARCH CHALLENGE*

    Last man standing - relapse and you are out

    1| @Narzisse
    2| @Legit1
    3| @Halibut
    4| @pourover24
    5| @GKDOES
    6| @Misha4blues97
    7| @Accountability Bud
    8| @Vitabella
     
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  19. Legit1

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    Checking in on day 50. I'm sure some noticeable changes are around the corner, which I think is the reason the last 3 days I've been feeling up and down so frequently. I feel like my eyes are tired even though I'm getting good sleep every night, they also feel somewhat heavy like if I stood awake all night long.

    Yesterday I was feeling frustration inside of me, and it was noticeable to the point I took a cold shower in order to calm myself down. Man... I honestly feel this fighting against myself really takes some energy out of me. Been fighting urges and these mood swings so much I feel like I'm losing... Yesterday I was getting close to start the process towards relapse... it really has gotten that bad. Urges + frustration is one nasty combo to fight against
     
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  20. FeelDark

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    Sorry guys, I relapse 2 days ago. The urges come so hard and I'm not in the mood, I'll just start over.

    Btw, I joined the gym and started kick-boxing, hope this will help.
     
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