Committing to nofap

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by DudeOnMission, Aug 25, 2020.

  1. DudeOnMission

    DudeOnMission Fapstronaut

    I've been fighting porn addiction for two decades with highs and lows throughout. My half-assed attempts have led to the brink of divorce many times and this time she might actually pull the trigger. Whether i manage to save my marriage or not i can't go on longer this. I've been stupid thinking i could be beat this on my own and thinking that just masturbating without porn was harmless.
    I've tried the reboot before many times and what I've learned is every time i make it to 2 or 3 weeks i crash. Reading the beginner's guide helped, i saw that after 14 to 21 days (2 or 3 weeks) dopamine sensitivity starts to come back and emotion cease to be numb. Thats why i always falter! I've always used masturbation to numb my feelings and hide from my pain.
    Anyway, this day 3 of my reboot. I've already used the breath holding trick to stave off urges and I'm getting back onto mediation. In addition to some hard core ass kissing to my wife i just might be able to come put the other side of this victorious. I'm scared.
    Every time, every every every time, i do really well life gets good snd i feel like I've left porn behind me and then maybe a couple weeks later or couple months or in this most recent case over a year later...
    It's gotten so bad i really don't know of i can tell my wife I'm getting betterbecause I've lost so much faith in myself.
    But i am a stubborn s.o.b. so here i am. I'm going hard mode full 90 days. I'm also on the lookout for any of those fancy breathing exercises that help you release poison and trauma from your past.
    I know you have to really believe on yourself and FEEL it when you envision yourself a man of success, porn free.
    Sorry i don't know if i included all the parts I'm supposed to in the "newbie" section first post, i just kinda vented.
    Anyway wish me luck! And i will be here rooting for you
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  2. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

    Please, start studying carefully what's happening in your mind >

    First time without porn will be stressful , but if you resist , in some months you will feel reborn.

    If the first times a person relapse easly, it's okay.
    The streaks becomes even longer , day by day.
    Don't porn anymore, it's better to struggle and at the last to relapse than to look at porn.
    No more instagram pictures of models. No more erotic imagines , erotic stories or erotic asmr.
    If you experience ''flatline'' and low libido , resist.
    We should improve in all area of our life, just being dissatisfied or stressed makes us relapse.

    An effective weapon to overcome urges and thoughts : mindfulness.
    The brain will try to win you and to get some triggers for the seek of dopamine. Resist
  3. Joshua31

    Joshua31 Fapstronaut

    Good luck man! Hope we can quit this thing together.
  4. Hello there... :)
    Welcome to the community :)

  5. DudeOnMission

    DudeOnMission Fapstronaut

  6. Robbiebob

    Robbiebob Fapstronaut

    Welcome my friend & you are on the right track on being here, I'm a married man myself & like you this has been a thorn in my life since my teens...
    Remember... Your not alone & great people to help... Rob
  7. DudeOnMission

    DudeOnMission Fapstronaut


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