Comparing Myself To A Nuisance Fly

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It's been more humid than usual in my part of the world. As a result, there's been an uptick in nuisance flies. I searched for ways to get rid of them and I came across an article which provided a recipe of sorts, ingredients to be mixed into a substance that will attract and ultimately trap them. I couldn't help but see this as something of an analogy to an addict and his addiction.

Flies have basically no self control or restraint when being lured by something sweet and aromatic. In a similar way, many of us, as sufferers with addictive tendencies, can't seem to stay away from that which harms us. We exhibit similarly poor decision making ability despite being far more evolutionarily advanced. Why? P/M/O has spelled the demise of many aspects of the lives of most guys here and yet we do little to do what it'd take to prevent making a habit of relapsing.

A simple fruit fly smells a delicious snack, not a trap. In a similar way, a simple man is fooled; he sees stress relief or pleasure in p/m/o.
 
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A W A K E said:
It's been more humid than usual in my part of the world. As a result, there's been an uptick in nuisance flies. I searched for ways to get rid of them and I came across an article which provided a recipe of sorts, ingredients to be mixed into a substance that will attract and ultimately trap them. I couldn't help but see this as something of an analogy to an addict and his addiction.

Flies have basically no self control or restraint when being lured by something sweet and aromatic. In a similar way, many of us, as sufferers with addictive tendencies, can't seem to stay away from that which harms us. We exhibit similarly poor decision making ability despite being far more evolutionarily advanced. Why? P/M/O has spelled the demise of many aspects of the lives of most guys here and yet we do little to do what it'd take to prevent making a habit of relapsing.

A simple fruit fly smells a delicious snack, not a trap. In a similar way, a simple man is fooled; he sees stress relief or pleasure in p/m/o.
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The need to feel truly alive overrides willpower, intellectual arguments etc. We have lost/forgotten something dear to us and are trying to recover it. Unfortunately, due to ignorance, we are searching for this feeling in harmful ways. Add to that the force of habit and we have a recipe for pmo madness.

So, why not try asking ourselves, "How can I feel alive without indulging in pmo?"
 
Icewarrior said:
The need to feel truly alive overrides willpower, intellectual arguments etc. We have lost/forgotten something dear to us and are trying to recover it. Unfortunately, due to ignorance, we are searching for this feeling in harmful ways. Add to that the force of habit and we have a recipe for pmo madness.

So, why not try asking ourselves, "How can I feel alive without indulging in pmo?"
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Yeah, well, I know that I'm as lost as anyone. Something, whether it's p/m/o as I suspect or otherwise, has ruined my health and I've been leading a very subpar life as a result. To say I'm down about that fact would be an extreme understatement. Regardless of what's going on with me, my dependence on porn and masturbation to get through the day isn't exactly helping me get ahead.
 
A W A K E said:
Yeah, well, I know that I'm as lost as anyone. Something, whether it's p/m/o as I suspect or otherwise, has ruined my health and I've been leading a very subpar life as a result. To say I'm down about that fact would be an extreme understatement. Regardless of what's going on with me, my dependence on porn and masturbation to get through the day isn't exactly helping me get ahead.
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We can reclaim our health. We can also find our way back home. It takes work. Every single day. Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and honestly say "I am a man of patience, persistence and faith?"
 
Icewarrior said:
We can reclaim our health. We can also find our way back home. It takes work. Every single day. Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and honestly say "I am a man of patience, persistence and faith?"
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I do believe recovery is possible. I just think it'll be a process that won't be short, simple or straight forward. I'm going on day 5 of abstinence – my longest streak in a few weeks – and the good thing is that I'm as repulsed by p/m/o as I've ever been. But drug addicts have surely felt the same before more relapses, right? I don't know. I just need to stop running away from my problems and do better.
 
The more I head on my recovery journey, the more I see the damage porn has caused in my life. Recovery is definitely possible, and I’ve also realized this will be the most difficult thing to quit, I’ve never experienced something so powerful, pure addiction.

It makes you think in a way you’re slave to porn, but we just gotta break the chains.
 
Yeah I don’t mind

Porn effects me in my day to day life in so many ways, for example my everyday drive is lacking because porn drains it, and I would never have realized this if I didn’t start trying to quit, cause a few days away from PMO and I start feeling completely different.

Another thing is my general happiness, the amount of fun I have doing the little things like hanging out with my friends, spending time with my gf, hitting the gym, playing sports, the little things become much more fun when you aren’t blasting your brain with dopamine overloads to porn. While on porn I am basically a zombie and I never realized that.

My confidence as a man goes up, because it takes discipline to beat an addiction, and pushing through only makes me feel stronger and not controlled.

My normal sexual drive returns strong, I start to feel very attracted to my gf and also other women in general, this sexual energy can be used for a lot of things.

I feel more at peace with myself, where as before I was super hyper sexualized. I was a pervert without realizing it, while quitting porn I have come to realize that my mind is over the top sexual, and I don’t like it that way.

I would spend hours edging and binging to porn, now that I go days without it, I have all that time to do things that are actually beneficial to myself.

I always thought I was very lacking in emotions, but when I reduce porn heavily my emotions start to become stronger, my feelings of love for my gf grows, my connections with my friends become deeper, I can feel sadness and anger, I can feel happiness, I start to feel emotions again.

When addicted to porn, I wake up like shit every day, when I’m going for a few days without it, I start waking up feeling good and energized and ready for the day.

When I go a few days without porn, I can actually feel my penis coming back to life, whereas before it’s dead and only rises up for porn.

There’s so much more, but porn really messes with you in so many ways, and the more I go on my journey, the more I can see porn is the cause for a lot of things I would never have thought it was causing.
 
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