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Concerns about checking out Girls

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by psy001, Jun 10, 2015.

  1. Jun 10, 2015 #1
    psy001

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    I see a lot of ppl on NoFap talking about P addiction and checking out (objectifying). Internet P or High-Speed Internet P came into my life at the age of 19. Before that i was looking at pictures of naked woman or woman having sex. But i can not say that i was addicted to it. I remember also that i was always checking out girls at school or my teachers. What i want to say ( my opinion ) is that checking out girls is in our nature and that is where P addiction is based on. I'm just wondering that trying to eliminate this (checking out girls), is in a way something that is opposed to our nature and i wonder if it's possible. I see older ppl who can not be addicted to PMO checking out preety girls. I'm just wondering and i would like to hear some other opinions on that.
     
    psy001, Jun 10, 2015
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  2. Jun 10, 2015 #2
    Knight Solaire

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    Objectifying women is something that people have always done. It is not in our nature. It is said to be normal because a lot of people have always done it. It didn't come from watching porn or being addicted to PMO, but porn does reinforce it.

    I would also like to mention that you don't actually know if any of those older men or women are addicted to PMO. Even though many, many people objectify because that is the way men have always treated women. The bible also reinforces the idea that women are inferior to men. It is not in our nature to see women as inferior, we just always have so justify it because we don't want to change.

    Porn of any kind, including prostitution and magazines, has been around for a very long time.
     
    Knight Solaire, Jun 10, 2015
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  3. Jun 10, 2015 #3
    Limeaid

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    Looking at and noticing a pretty girl is in your nature. Just as it is in my nature to look at and notice a pretty guy. Objectifying comes in when you continually look at and gawk at a person or start sexually fantasizing about them.

    Some of it is uncontrollable (nature) and some of it isn't (learned behavior).
     
    Limeaid, Jun 10, 2015
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  4. Jun 11, 2015 #4
    Steel Fury

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    I like this. I also heard an idea to stop objectifying. Commit yourself to giving one dollar to EVERY girl you gawk at. Trust me, after the first couple, you'll soon get out of that habit.
     
    Steel Fury, Jun 11, 2015
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  5. Jun 11, 2015 #5
    BlueNotes

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    I acknowledge an attractive girl, but I move on quickly. Before I would stare and fantasize and even go out of my way to get a better look. All that did was make me wanna either just have sex with her(objectify) or watch some porn with a girl with very similar features. Objectifying/fantasizing about a girl does absolutely nothing for you. You are much better off acknowledging she's attractive and just go on with your life. Another tip, keep things shoulders up. When I see a good looking woman, I keep my eyes shoulders up and don't look at her goods. It's not easy at first, but with practice, it just becomes how you start doing things.
     
    BlueNotes, Jun 11, 2015
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