Coping Techniques

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  1. Seeking Help

    Seeking Help Fapstronaut

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    Looking for any and all advice. What do you do when you get that urge. How do you find the strength to just not go there. Been home alone today and it's been seriously difficult. Dont know what to do
     
  2. Hros

    Hros Fapstronaut

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    First of all, keep busy. It's not just about distracting yourself from PMO but about bettering yourself in general. While addicted, you essentially wasted yourself away. Now it's time to get back to living like a normal person - and that's by doing positive things.
    Secondly, it's important to learn to control your thoughts. I use the 5-seconds rule: Whenever you have PMO-related thoughts, you have up to 5 seconds to think about something else. With time you can bring that down to 3 or 2 seconds.
    Thirdly, about urges - there are two things I usually do when I have urges: a. I take a 20-40 minute walk to clear my head. b. The 10-minute rule: Whenever you have urges, instead of telling yourself "No.", tell yourself "Yes, but in 10 minutes." Then, before the time is up, remind yourself why you started rebooting in the first place, how much better your life will be if you don't relapse, how much happier you'll be with yourself, etc.
    Good luck!
     
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  3. Seeking Help

    Seeking Help Fapstronaut

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    Thankyou, I've quit alcohol, cigarettes, meat and diary and taken up a regular exercise program, all to my benefit and without too much trouble but porn , its really got me and I'm struggling to see how I can ever get free of it
     
  4. HelplessPleaseHelp?

    HelplessPleaseHelp? Fapstronaut

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    Hey man, I would say to stay sane. Stay focused on your job. While making yourself to do stuff you become stronger. Like the fellow above said, it is important to be on the move. Don't let yourself drown into thoughts. Thoughts can come and go and your mission my friend is to learn how to live with it.
     
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  5. Seeking Help

    Seeking Help Fapstronaut

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    Thankyou, I need to.keep checking in and get the support and motivation that this site is so good at offering
     
  6. drac16

    drac16 Fapstronaut

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    I try to set my mind on something that overpowers the lustful thoughts. There are mental images that can overpower sexual images. When I'm experiencing desires to look at pornography and masturbate, I try to think about something inspiring, like the allies in World War 2 as they storm the beaches of Normandy.
     
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  7. Endless Pursuit

    Endless Pursuit New Fapstronaut

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    drac16...thanks for the awesome suggestion of inspiration using the WW2 Normandy Beach to keep the focus
     
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