Could anyone help?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Richard Pillenger, May 18, 2018.

  1. Richard Pillenger

    Richard Pillenger New Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone, I'm new to the site. In a few months I'll be 19 years old, and I've been watching porn for the past few years. At first I was curious, because no one gave me "the talk," and then seeing all of the beautiful women made me want to keep watching. I've tried to quit on different occasions now, because I want to get back out there on the dating scene. I used porn as an escape from my unsuccessful attempts at relationships, and quitting will probably help with my willingness to meet the one. Like everyone else, I just want to find a girl who will make me happy, and who I can love. Any advise would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
     
  2. TealKoala

    TealKoala Fapstronaut

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    My advice would be to find someone you can be honest and open with about what you are trying to do. You are much more likely to succeed in quitting if you feel accountable to someone else, even if it is just people you don't know on the internet sometimes.
     
  3. elevate

    elevate Fapstronaut

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    Make a habit of doing the scary and difficult things that you know you should be doing to become the person you want to be and have the life that you want.

    That means you'll have to change your perception and reaction towards failure and rejection. That means that you don't escape to porn when things in life don't go your way. Porn is easy, certain, and instant gratification. Reality can be difficult, uncertain, and delayed gratification. You want to choose reality because of the person you want to be and the life that you want to have.
     
  4. Strive to be independently happy, and if you do find someone special, you can give your time, love, and affection to her on top of that strong foundation. Remember that the gorgeous women on your TV or computer screen can't materialize in your bedroom or living room and that your hand that wraps around your penis during fapping will never be a vagina, so you can kiss that fantasy land goodbye once and for all.
     

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