Could it be the fapping that has caused all of this?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by papaG, May 4, 2017.

  1. papaG

    papaG Fapstronaut

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    So I started fapping before I could gather the courage to approach chicks, but its like the fapping overtook that. I fapped first at 15 and 11 years later I still put the lotion in motion...last time was 2 days ago.
    So could all the fapping have caused me to develop this weird fear of getting into a relationship or is it because I get this panic attacks and sweat all over esp my hands and feet ot could it be the fact that I weigh 200lbs at 5' 11'' at 26?
    I kinda also have this fear of getting in a relationship and failing miserably when it comes to sex....yep, im still a virgin. Some girl we used to flirt got wind of that and offered to "help", but I never took up the offer cause she's been around many guys plus my folks loathe her. She is pretty and all, but she's been passed around.
    Oh yeah, my eyesight is also gettin weaker by the day (though it doesnt affect me much), I get tired very easily, I have become such a big cry baby and I boil with rage sometimes.
    Maybe its all the fapping. I have never admitted this, but Im clueless when it comes to approaching chicks...do you like pick her amongst the many girls and be like "I choose thee to love and wed blablabla"
    And how do I detox from all the fapping? I cant sleep without either fapping or thinking of doing it. I cant stay nude without thinking of pulling one out. N thn there is the P...it felt like this yummy topping to the fap pizza...I need help guys...Do I need to get addiction counselling??
     
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  2. QCA

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    Regarding approaching women...there is an old Dale Carnegie maxim "be genuinely interested in people." It is good advice. Talk to people as human beings. Ask them questions. Develop a sincere interest in their ideas as you talk with them. If the other person reciprocates you have the beginning of a relationship.

    Regarding addiction counseling...have you tried stopping the behavior?
     
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  3. papaG

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    Touche. So...develop an interest...instantly or after some time?
    Im on Nofap cause I wanna quit PMO, this time for good.
     
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  4. QCA

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    I think of it more as be sincerely interested in oeople when you talk with them. Focus the conversation on them. Really listen. Ask them questions that sort of thing. The pace of things evolves as it will.
     
  5. Mark Gld

    Mark Gld New Fapstronaut

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    It appears you are mostly affected by the fear of rejection.
    It appears that you are mostly affected by fear. Fear of rejection. And fapping is just the way to shut this feeling up... for a while.
    Why don't you turn the tables around? Why wouldn't you try and make rejection your goal? I'm not talking about getting in bed with the girl and fail, start with something small, like asking awkward questions or touching, or put yourself in weird situations? But ultimately put your mind set to failure! You've been preparing yourself for it for a long time after all! Let's see how real failure feels like, not imaginary one!
    Good luck, buddy! ;)
     
  6. papaG

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    I dont fear rejection....I hate rejection. Especially being the YES man i used to be. Thanks for the tips buddy.:)
     
  7. QCA

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    I suspect real failure will feel not as good as success. But I guess we could test it.
     
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  8. Faptain_Harris

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    First of all, concerning the girl that offered the help? I would've taken her up on it. She's been passed around, sure. But she seemed sweet and offering to help. You wouldn't be taking advantage of her or anything since she offered to help. I would just use protection and don't fall in love. She's a self proclaimed practice girl and nothing more.

    And on your comment about being a crybaby and boiling with rage, I know what you mean. I'm not a doctor, so I don't KNOW what's happening, but I'll tell you what I think.

    It's probably just hormones being out of balance. Think about it. Semen is your life force Your seed, and your sexual energy. Not just sexual energy as in wanting to get laid, but it's a man's source of motivation, creativity, drive, and attraction.

    I haven't experienced this myself because I'm only on day 11, but I've read so many stories about guys finally being successful with women after nofap. It could be that a man with a full sack emits more pheromones than a guy with an empty one. Makes sense in a biological way. Think about it, even the most radical, frustrated, man hating-pant suit feminist is going to find an alpha male athlete more attractive than an omega male that plays computer games with Dorito crumbs on his man tits.

    Anyway, I think it's just your hormones are out of balance. People like us wasted their seed on a towel too much and our body tries to compensate somehow thus our bodies are out of homeostasis.

    Save your semen for a woman. You'll also notice that when you fap every day, your orgasms are meh and you only get a 10 second dopamine high but if you wait a couple of weeks and let a lady do it, your load is going to give her a black eye and travel up and short out the ceiling fan.
     
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  9. QCA

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    All fun and games until you try it with the ceiling fan in operation.
     
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  10. Faptain_Harris

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    Lol be looking like Spider-Man swung in and shot his web everywhere trying to catch Doc-Oc.
     
  11. papaG

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    Hahaha protection is key...but we ended up having a bad fight...n it was all about money (though I try n tell her its her constant request for favours)...so I think that ship already sailed.
    I have fapped like a gazzilion times since I posted this. I feel so angry man...like that guy from the angry birds the movie. Last fap was today in the morning. I almost got late for work working on my junk.
    Let me ask though...do men who fap complain more...is it estrogen taking over or something?
     
  12. hollyman

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    Brace yourself bro, if u wana start this NoFap,,u must have very strong comitment and motivation...

    I sugest you read the succes story of nofap, maybe you can find story that similiar like you, and how they conquer it, how its benefit him
     
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  13. superninjared

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    If I were in your situation I would cut out the fapping right now and hit the gym hard, probably get a personal trainer as well sorry to be so blunt. All this fapping is just going to make you less and less manly and girls will feel less attracted to you because you are going to be giving off this weak low energy. Trust me girls can sense it they know which guys are powerful and which ones are weak.

    Combine working out and diet with personal development and your confidence will drastically improve. Stop the fapping immediately the more you do it the more pathetic you are going to feel. It’s draining your energy, costing you sleep and determinately bad for your overall health in the long run.
     
  14. papaG

    papaG Fapstronaut

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    But I cant..fap feel so good...Im afraid of sex cause 1. I weigh like a walrus and have you seen the athletic bodies around. 2. Still a virgin. 3. Mine is not a kitana, its a dagger..:(
     
  15. superninjared

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    Sorry but those are just excuses you can do anything you set your mind to. Even people who are overweight have sex there is a fetish for everyone. You said you had an opportunity to get laid which your turned down. So again you are making excuses. Stop comparing yourself to other people anyone can get laid its just mind-set. Sign up to a gym and get a PT if you are insecure with your weight then that is one less excuse you can use against yourself. Well no surprise that your sword lost its sharpness PIED will do that to you. Stop the fapping and get your edge back.

    So what if fapping feels good I will admit yes its an awesome experience. But you know what in the long run its just going to mess you up so bad that people think you are a loser or retarded. It’s not worth it, the real thing is better than P.
     
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  16. jarvyjarvison

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    Okay, okay. There's a couple things going on here. Number one, you think stopping fapping will solve your problem with women. No, the reason you're not getting laid is not because of fapping. You're not a virgin because you fap. You fap because you're a virgin. Number two, your standards are too high. You have a woman throwing herself at you and you turn her down? Even if it would've been pathetic pity sex, it would have been real sex with a real woman. C'mon dude! Number three, and this ties into point two, your views about sex have been warped by pornography. You're not going to look perfect like in the porno's. Your lover isn't going to look perfect. You may have to have sex with an ugly girl if you're ugly but that's just reality. If you wanna hottie, you've gotta make yourself hot. You want your dick to grow? Lose weight. It's not that it's small; it's just buried under a layer of suprapubic fat.

    Yes, you need to quit the PMO but it's not going to solve all your problems. You're going to have to make a real effort here. The easy option is PMO and that's not an option anymore. Go for the hard option. You can do it!
     
  17. papaG

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    Weight loss....I don't even know where to start. As for PMO...I try hard...
     
  18. superninjared

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    I already told you where to start you are just hiding away because you are so insecure about your appearance that you are probably too scared to set foot in a gym. Well everyone has to start somewhere, we can tell you what to do all day but if you refuse to take action then nothing will change.

    In the meantime, why don’t you look into diets and exercise that should get you started on the right path…
     
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  19. John84

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    It seems its women who do the choosing. They love to chase a man and feel like they have win them.They can't chase if you pick them, when that happens you become like clinger guy they friendzone.
     
    Last edited: May 31, 2017
  20. dopecry

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    You just asked what i wanted to ask . I am following this post.
     
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