Create an action plan to meet a great girl ?

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  1. FHDH

    FHDH Fapstronaut

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    Hi folks ! I hope you're doing well in your nofap strike.

    I'm seriously thinking of implementing in my life a series of things to be able to find a girl that I really like.
    True connection, intimacy, shared interest, and great sex. As for now truly I live in a scarcity mindset with girls, don’t have many friends, i’m kind of a loner. I'm 27 and I'm living the transition between the end of study, less social circles, friends living with girlfriend and finding myself living more on my own, I think i have a nice life and it becoming more interesting with the nofap lifestyle, but still too much into my bubble. Anyway i know what i want and I surely won’t settle with the first girl that i find around the corner.

    The hard thing is in my opinion, is that it requiert consistency in your day to day life and lifestyle choice, in order to find a really cool girl that you love. For ex I can go live and be happy alone in a big forest, but maybe not the best place to be noticed and meeting people. So in a way i’m looking for solid and consistent practice to implement in your day to day life to find a lovely girl. I do believe it’s a number game, and going through rejections is the part of the process, the importance is a clear goal, genuine action and going for it.
    SO my question is what can i implement in my life to find a lovely girl ? And still being focus on my path doing my life and not putting girls on the main point of my attention. I hope i’m clear here.

    I’m open to your suggestions, practices, way of life…and for those asking I do know « Model » from Marc Manson and I think there is awesome answers in this book, i’m going the re-read it soon.

    Thanks you man and I send you peace and courage.
     
  2. p1n1983

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    Become your best version, when a product is good people are more willing to buy it. So be a great catch and woman that are single are going to be more attracted to buy you. Looking at it in that perspective you focus more on the product that the buyer. Once the product is in it's best shape you can think about marketing (aka going out and show the product to the world)
     
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  3. Rev2.0

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    The Manson book is good, I would also highly recommend 3% Man by Corey Wayne. There's a guy called Dan Bacon with a lot of good videos on YouTube too.

    But the bottom line is, the best women will show up in your life when you are the best man you can be. Obviously that includes not jacking it to porn but there's a lot more to it than that. If you have an action plan for that, you don't need one just for getting a girl. In fact trying to do all the right things for the sole goal of getting a girl usually fails spectacularly and I can attest to that from experience.
     
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  4. Here's my two penn'orth:
    You start off by "creating an action plan", "a series of steps to implement" which already sounds like a dumb idea.
    You clearly have no idea how humans work and you probably don't know what you really want.
    The idea itself is probably something someone somewhere told you and you just decided to live by it without giving it a second thought.
    By all means, do whatever you want. In my eyes this is not going to end well. Meaning, you will waste time on some nonsensical bollocks and figure it out too late in life.

    But it's naturally just my opinion so feel free to agree/disagree.
     
  5. LordQuas

    LordQuas Fapstronaut

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    Good one.
    I don't know if he needs an action plan, but he needs to begin somewhere?
    what do you think?
     
  6. FHDH

    FHDH Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your opinion, i’m on the path but it can be lonely sometimes. Also I wrote this post having powerful urge which lead me to feel a little bit desesperate and craving for feminine energy. Few days later I feel better and I more happy creating my path than pursuing girls.
     
  7. FHDH

    FHDH Fapstronaut

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    I totally agree with you to not do things to get a girl. But sometimes I find myself only surrounded by guys in my life and I tell myself that maybe I need to change stuff, to get out of my confort zone.. so in a way in those times I think of making things happen and yes focusing on attracting girls.

    Maybe I need to forget that and focusing more on being the better version of myself..
     
  8. FHDH

    FHDH Fapstronaut

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    I found the way your post is written quite judgmental. I’m a big fan of doing things in my own terms but sometime i find myself isolated and this action plan is just a way to bring more positive action in my life to meet new people. Yes maybe a little bit robotic way of thinking but I want to find solutions. Peace
     
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  9. FellatiousD

    FellatiousD Temporarily Suspended
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    You can offer constructive advice without being toxic. There is no need for that tone.
     
  10. Well he wants a lovely girl. I don't think "planning" is going to get him one.
     
  11. LordQuas

    LordQuas Fapstronaut

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    It's like saying:
    He wants to get rich, planning won't help.
    It's the same thing.
     
  12. Bro are you rich yourself or are you repeating some bollocks you have read somewhere :D
     
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  13. LordQuas

    LordQuas Fapstronaut

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    Not rich, working on it??
     
  14. Welp. Come back once you have made it.
    Because how can you know your advice is worth anything?
     
  15. LordQuas

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    Because when I was younger I had no success with girls, I worked on it and now I have sex with hot girls on a regular basis. I learned how to deal with women, especially hot ones.
     
  16. LordQuas

    LordQuas Fapstronaut

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    Money helps
     
  17. That's not what I am talking about.
     
  18. LordQuas

    LordQuas Fapstronaut

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    What do you want to know?
     
  19. Forget it.
    About girls: even if what you say is indeed true, and even if you could teach me that with 1 sentence, I would still consider the whole thing to be a waste of time and not do it anyway :p
     

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