Sex in my marriage was pretty much always disappointing too-like the proverbial frog in the pot of boiling water, I too didn't notice how bad it got until it was suffocatingly obvious (2 years with no sex obvious). For me, I held on so tightly to who my husband was when we married, that I refused to believe that he became who he did. It's really inhumane. Porn robs a woman of being desired-it robs us of our femininity and our sensuality until we basically become blow up dolls for a man to use while he fantasizes about someone else. It's insanity.