Well...when my PA through his temper tantrum...I said “sober up, clean up and grow the f*ck up, you’re almost 50yrs old. Then he ran away . I’ve done what you are questioning, sociopath, psychopath, borderline narcissist? Finally I decided it’s his shit to fix and figure out . I just have to look after me and protect my interests. It’s a solid mind f*ck of epic proportions. So sorry you’re going through this.