Cross dresser? I feel like crap..

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Apr 21, 2019.

  1. Hey everyone. This is a problem that recently started out for me. I've recently had a thing "fetish" for Asian cross dresser's and I feel like complete crap. Lately I haven't had luck with any woman and my life is in the gutter I believe. I'm starting to think now that Porn has just completely re-wired me.
    I still love Woman and want to be with one, but my faith and hope are very low at this point. Over the past few months I've lost contact with some of my close "Woman" friends. One actually deleted her facebook. I don't know if it was because of me or just life reasons? But I commented on her update one day and the next day it was gone.
    I'm not really sure what to think of my life now.

    I pray allot and I feel as if I deserve a fun easy going relationship to this day. I listen to subliminal's and twin flame manifestation videos. Maybe that's not enough? All I know is my game and confidence for woman is very low. Any tips or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks Nofap.
     
  2. Reborn16

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    The more you take care of yourself, the more attractive you will become to everyone else.

    Go back to the basics. Why do you watch porn? What feelings or responsibilities are avoided through the use of porn?

    How much better would your life be if you chose to work on yourself, instead of watching porn?

    Make small steps towards that new life vision. Write an essay about it if you have to. Post it on your wall, tick the days on the calendar that you live according to your new life vision.

    Listening to audio tracks may be relaxing, but taking action to change your life will be the most efficient way to feel better.
     
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  3. I will do this. I Pray for a recovery.
     
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  4. 19m

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    i’m the same except i like all as long as they look girly and that not me .
     
  5. 19m

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    does that make us bi? or porn escalation?
     
  6. King Arthur the

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    Hi there I had a similar thing for the past year until last week or so when I destroyed the tight underwear that I had that made me aroused. Best of luck!
     
  7. InnerFaith

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    yes.

    but, porn & mastubation rehab is still very important.. because it is scattering our life.. a sober person can focus much better on the woman he is with.. (or trans woman if he prefer those
     
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  8. Freedom_from_PMO

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    I believe that liking of crossdressers comes from willingness to cheat the system and get "woman" when you can't get any.
     
  9. 19m

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    i do have a hard time at getting women but i can get some . but im very shy and stuff and its hard for me to approach a women because im afarid of rejection
     
  10. 19m

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    how does that make us bi when some of us dont get horny to those people in real life ? ive never gotten an erection to these kind of people face to face
     
  11. 19m

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    i believe its porn escalation
     
  12. Hi I have some similar issues, I'm going to make a post about it.
     
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  13. ClickClickBoom

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    Praying will give you peace of mind but it wont help you get "the girl."
    Take a good hard look at yourself.
    Now what are you able to change for the better? What are you willing to sacrifice? Are you willing to put in the time?
    If so now is a good time to start, lets suppose you want to eat an elefant, how do you do it? The right answer is "one bite at a time" and by that i mean small changes will yield a massive change in the future, all you need to do is be consistente and you need to pick yourself up when you fall.

    Learn from your past mistakes.

    If you can manage that everything will eventually fall to place.

    Best wishes
     
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  14. calisman

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    mine is too a similar case i too has some filthy "fetish" and i think it took over me all these years i'm in that devils hand and i wanna step out of that..
     
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  15. did you see my thread? I know how you feel, ive been trying to overcome it but it seems worse than ever recently
     
  16. calisman

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    is it..i know its worse isnt it but this is the time we have to be strong and get over all the thoughts,it requires more than will power and since it has already rewired our brain we cannot let that take over again...we have to be strong and fight back!!
     
  17. Yeh i'm really trying but the longest i go is a few weeks before i start thinking about it again. I'm starting to worry, what if i can't get out of it.
     
  18. calisman

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    yeh bro its hard meanwhile its not impossible.what we need is just a replacement for its thoughts and clear your mind.I think meditation would help.
     
  19. i follow my religion, but the cravings still keep coming.
     
  20. Even to this day I'm still chatting with them and trying to meet up. It's an impulsive behaviour...
     

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