Crossdressing addiction

Very interesting thread.

I just wanted to add that I'm not sure if it's possible to beat the cross-dressing addiction, as for me it wasn't porn induced.
BUT after more than 100 days of NoFap it's a lot easier to manage it.

My number one advice is that you need to concentrate on your other hobbies, your job, your studies or whatever and think about how you can be the best in these fields.
Now, in contrast, think about the cross-dressing habit, was it ever productive? what you gained from it? was it fun to waste money and time when you could improve other skills that could benefit you now/in the future?

 

Can you elaborate what kind of pain it was?
I always wonder what (was) the cause of my own cross-dressing habit and can't think about anything but that I was afraid to take the responsibility.

As for the suppressing part, well, I guess that it's depends on why you cross-dressed to being with (and our reasons were probably different).
As for me, I wasted many hours cross-dressing instead of doing productive things and living in the real world. So once I started to channel this energy into other areas of my life, things started to change for the better.

I don't really see cross-dressing as problem, but it was a problem for me.
It wasn't really me who wanted it and I always felt shame doing it.
But the biggest problem was that I always felt kind of "drained" after doing it.

 

Forgive me if I sound naïve or just plain ignorant, but what is it about women's clothing draws/drew you in?

I've never understood it, it's just clothing, something that society says women "should" wear, how does the brain make that connection of "oh, I really enjoy this" with something so inconsequential?

 

Not him, but on the physical aspect I liked the texture.
On the physiological aspect I liked to imagine having sex with girls who were dressed in the said clothes.
I also liked (probably still like) to watch pretty/classy women clothes (something that you can rarely see today).

 

Totally related, however I put myself in a worse position. I'm 35 now and still struggling with crossdressing. I crossed the line and went further to act out the fantasy, had sex with boys, several times. It made me confused, for a while I thought I was gay on denial. But I also felt attracted to transexuals and girls, which doesn't happen when you are gay.
Last year reading about transexuals found out the term autoghynefilia, (love yourself as a woman). That resonated in me, kind of clarified my situation.
I started to tracked down my problems and got some conclusions; crossdressing was already an issue before I started P. I still don't know what could be the psychological root for that but I think I kind of imprinted my orgasm linked to crossdressing and I will have to work very hard to rewire that part.
Before POM I actually had sex with girls, I started late, 24 my first time, so don't be hard with yourself, you will do it fine, you found out what your problem is in a early stage.
After escalating into sissy porn and my crossdressing background, found myself trying sex with man to clarify myself. Didn't work, rush while acting out the fantasy, but followed by regret and lot of guilt. Even though, I kept doing it. Then I started to think of myself as probably transexual and began to research about it. But through all this I managed to have romantic relationships and sex with girls, so you can imagine my confusion.
I found all this information about porn and brain plasticity so I know that I caused myself most of my problems but I think I can overcome the situation. Lot of resources and stories that give me hope in this place, so let's not give up.
Also looking for accountability partner with similar issues to talk when needed and go through this.
Stay strong