Crush rollercoaster

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by wizard, Dec 11, 2015.

  1. wizard

    wizard Fapstronaut

    So here I go blaming my whole situation on feeling crushy.
    Basically, I have a massive crush (hooray!) so no pmo for several days. Then I don't see my crush or lose the dizzy feeling . . . and back to pmo again.
    Obviously it's the drugs in pmo, which are the same as the drugs in cocaine/heroin/sugar/lust/love/whatever.
    I nearly reached 60 days pmo free. A long time ago though.
    I must get back to that feeling, so much energy, strength, mindfulness and happiness!!

    Just noticed how there is a huge link between me feeling attracted to a girl and pmo.
    I tend to have no trouble whilst I have intense feelings for a girl.
    Maybe the goal is to embrace the feeling I have? She let me know she's not interested, so that's rather pointless?

    Arggghhh crushes suck
  2. avatarivn

    avatarivn Fapstronaut

    (I might be missing the point but) maybe the fact that you relapse when you are not interested in a real girl is a sign that you are going through the reboot process with the wrong mindset (perhaps I am wrong). My point is that one can not depend on external factors to make sustainable change inside, especially when so linked to the healing process.

    I think its important to do this for yourself, regardless of having the possibility of dating someone or not.

    From my personal experience, everytime I was interested in someone, I was never ready to try and ask her out. I pretended I didn't care that much about it, but now I realize that it was my porn addiction what kept me unable to relate with other people and even less with a romantic partner.

    Wish you good luck on the romantic scene.
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  3. wizard

    wizard Fapstronaut

    I appreciate your input! Yeah, I see where you're coming from. I'm not sure that its the wrong mindset, this is just an observation I have made.
    I find it EASIER to stop pmo when I have feelings for a girl.

    So true though, it is important regardless of anyone else.

    Porn and masturbation desensitize us to so much of the world. During my 58 day clean period, I felt so connected to everything and so emotionally available to others,
    I even teared up whilst watching a movie hahaha (I never cry).


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