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Cuck fetish problems (triggers)

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by JayMack, Oct 13, 2018.

  1. JayMack

    JayMack Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys,

    I’m concerned about the impact that the cuck fetish has had on me. I used to be very sexually active, but since this has set in, it’s changed the way that I think about things and see the world. I’m hopeful that this will be reset by rebooting... but I’m concerned about my ability to have a seccessful relationship going forward. Has anyone been able to overcome this?

    Also, the whole “alpha” vs “beta” things is messing with my mind. The idea that women seek out the “bad boy” for fun and then settle down with the “nice guy” is one that bothers me, and I don’t particularly want to be either of them. I get that this addiction very much makes you a beta, but once you get over it, are we doomed into the dichotomous choice of being a player/fuck boy and the “nice guy” who a girl settles down with once they have fun with the former?

    Thanks.
     
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  2. Meditation Monk

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    Interesting view, since I saw the psychologist video on youtube about why nice guys get addicted to porn. also, I would give you some tip and advice that will save you a lot of headache in the long run, go for a relationship that a lady will love you for who you are, and not for your money or for power or for political reasons. Because that is when divorce will likely happen when you "LEAST" expect it. out of the blue sky. And as for my side, I will always remain a beta player and give in to my urges because of the stress that I am going through and at the moment and talking about it doesn't help. I have been through some of those "talking" moments in my younger years and I found that they did not help me. SO, in the end I decided to give in to my urges and I found them a stress relief and it even helps me with my sleep and those anxious thoughts that keep up the whole night. You do not want to end up in jail for paying child support payments and for the police to take your mugshot do you? Do yourself a favor and live your life in how you think best. Even if you have to give in to urges like me as a stress relief and a sleep relief. Sleep is very important for everyone, and it is very healthy to sleep at night. Get at least eight to nine hours of sleep each night.
     
  3. JayMack

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    What video was that?
     
  4. Meditation Monk

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    go to youtube and type in the words "why nice guys get addicted to porn." a couple different videos will pop on the screen and it will be a psychologist with a pink or purple sweater speaking from his office door. He is young in his years and he sort of just shave off his beard. It is that one.
     
  5. Once you get through some of this, on your way to being more stable and grounded, things like this will begin to fade. I'm not sure if the occasional thought might not pass through from time to time, but you will be better equipped to notice it and move past it. Things like this will have less of a hold on you.
     
  6. Davidphd1866

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    Alas, I DO feel that it is the natural inclination for the female to seek the alpha male for sex and the beta male for companionship. I am not sure what sort of advice I would give because of that, but I think it's helpful to work with Nature vs against it.
     
  7. Meditation Monk

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    I am a beta male. Never been in relationships with women before. Just fantasy ones. lol. And you know what? I am cool with it. Women aren't worth it in the end anyway.
     
  8. JayMack

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    Not a fan of MGTOW. Or of meekly submitting to my current state of being — that’s why I’m here. NoFap would be wise to keep a wall of separation between themselves and MGTOW.
     
  9. I don't feel you are doomed to anything. I hope you start to notice changes in your mind soon. But it does take some time.
     
  10. Meditation Monk

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    Everyone is different bro. Just because you do not agree with me doesn't mean we have to be on the same page. There are different opinions, different values, different ideas. I am going my own way and you are going your own way. That is why america is a free country. To a limit of course. lol.
     
  11. Meditation Monk

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    okay, thanks for clarifying that, but sometimes things don't work out the way I want them to be. Just like him.
     
  12. Trust in nofap. Dedicate the next year to it. See what happens. If your life gets better. You've got your answer
     
  13. WasZeusWrong?

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    Hi, guys. I'd like to add just one thought to the many good ones already here, about the creation of porn. To step up their game, porn producers have to create conflict, the same way every TV show and movie uses conflict to create tension and retain viewers. So we see men dominating women and vice versa, but the alpha vs. beta men fighting over the woman as a prize -- what better (and easy) setup for a writer/producer? I think it can help sometimes to see porn as a product, and we have to remember it's fake, just like superhero movies. What I'm poorly trying to say is that the alpha-beta roles are largely a "trick" and it might help to separate fact from fiction. Just a thought . . .
     
  14. Great observation.
     

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