Cuckold thoughts and porn addiction. Please HELP. Literally dying for help ...

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saand420

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This may be a slightly long read but it’s because i want to let you know all the details as I’m in DIRE NEED for HELP. So I’m a brown guy around 22, Pretty muscular and a handsome dude. I’ve never had any issues flirting with and picking up girls. In fact they’ve even admitted to me that I was intimidatingly attractive. However for the last couple years (not many chances to get laid) I’ve been into watching cuckold porn which gives me peak erections.

A year ago I had a relationship with a nice girl who loved me with everything. Because of me being used to cuckold porn, I wasn’t able to get peak erections during sex like before but still managed well and she even claimed that I was amazing and her best in bed right from our first hook up. I have strict parents and they had made me travel away and live with them for a while because of my partying and sexual encounters. And on top of that It was also difficult to get back as the pandemic made International traveling harder. We continued dating long distance for a year until she couldn’t handle anymore with me being unable to head back. So we broke it off peacefully and I even realized I was with her for the emotional support she gave me during this depressing period (parents, etc) rather than fully being in love with her.

Now I am finally about to leave my parents place after securing a job and am happy about it. But the issue was that during these 6 months after breakup, I can’t stop masturbating to thoughts of her with other men. Moreover living with such controlling parents I haven’t been able to hook up or rebound with anyone else either. Meanwhile she’s hooked up with tons of dudes and I can’t stop picturing it when I masturbate. I started watching small penis Cuckold porn (sph) even when I’m pretty hung and have been called the biggest they’ve had by multiple lovers. My mind has become disgraceful and I cry when I’m in my senses!!! Now that I’m finally leaving my parents, I am afraid how my sexual encounters in the future would be as what really turns me on now are cuckold thoughts about her or in general. I am sure I’ll be able to pickup women but am utterly scared about how I’ll perform sexually as it’s been over a year without intercourse.

Also when I don’t masturbate for 3 days, I feel great erections during normal masturbations (imagining real life girls, celebrities, watching the usual normal porn etc) and don’t need cuckold porn/thoughts for my peak erections. So I guess the answer is to abstain from masturbating till my mind gets back to being turned on by usual things. But my issue is that the depression and boredom from living here forces me to masturbate for relief. Please please provide me with ways to abstain even during this boredom. And i hope there is a surefire way I can get rid of these thoughts?

I thank you for patiently listening to my dilemma. I would be so grateful if you could offer advice on reprogramming my brain and not get distracted by cuckold thoughts. I absolutely despise them and I cry looking at how physically, I am attractive, muscular, good in bed and endowed but still my mind is reduced to these trains of thoughts.

PS, Asian parents are a pain, especially when you lag behind a year in education. Thus the reason for them to keep me at home without distractions till I graduate and secure a job. Pretty depressing year and a half but I’m looking forward to the next phase of life soon when I can be independent
 
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Look, I really can't relate much to your case, I also have a not very pleasant history with porn addiction, just like you, I want to quit with all my might, and I've also been desperately begging for help, I know what It feels like begging for help with tears in your eyes and morale on the ground and that no one comes to help you.

So it was until my life was too precious to waste masturbating or watching porn, life is too precious to waste on something so insignificant.

I would advise you to install porn blockers on your phone or computer, as for your thoughts, try to find a hobby that keeps you distracted and with clear thoughts outside of your addiction, for example, music, series, video games, relationships with friends etc. .

convince yourself to give up pornography, there is more enjoyment in other leisure activities that do not involve ponography.


Remember, the most important thing is not to give up, no matter how many times you fail, I wish you the best on your journey,

I wish you luck
 
Spiritual Redemption said:
Hello brother.

I identify a lot with your story. I see a lot of myself in you and what I was going through 3-4 years ago. I am not a psychologist or a professional by any means, but I have been in a similar space as you, so I can share what I've learnt and how I've managed to heal...

My friend, if you desire to change, I have given you more than enough to set you on the right path. I am here for support at any time if you need. Send me a personal message. If you're really struggling and in pain, and you really desire to heal and change, I'm even willing to speak to you over the phone. I know the journey can seem scary, but it begins with the first step. Don't give up, you can do this! I promise you it gets better. I am now barely ever plagued with those old thoughts, and if they come, I have people around me to help me, and I can move through them quickly. I am a different person, and my whole life is a different universe compared to what it used to be. This whole process wasn't easy, it took time, and it took a lot of effort, but it was so worth it. Good luck my friend.
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My brother @Spiritual Redemption, first off, I am at an absolute loss for words over your genuine, detailed, and most of all caring response to my situation. I am so thankful for the time you spent.

I had enough of my depression and this addiction and made the account today just to post this and hear some thoughts for some mental alleviation. However, your response has done more than just that. Also I am overwhelmed with the number of responses I have received so quick. Had no clue or expectation for people to respond to me so caringly, but this forum proved me wrong. I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart.

I am touched by the experiences you have gone through and by the way you have turned it all around. Your thoughts on keeping my mind flexible and susceptible to good change and growth will be forever resonating in my mind now, not just in this context, but in all aspects of life. It makes so much sense to me that I am worsening it for myself by making myself rigid and creating boundaries that often when I step out of it, I feel devastated and that feeds unnecessary attention to those thoughts. That, I hope to rectify and cease giving unwanted time and attention to insignificant thoughts. I understand that I am young and this is just a hiccup in my journey. However like you rightly pointed out, it is by no means a process to see fast results... I will persevere over time with all the resources you have bombarded me with.

This mental depression is what is aggravating my pornography habits and I am happy that I will soon be away from the sources of my depression and be independent. In essence, my mental dilemma is due to my overcontrolling and over expecting parents (whom I admit to have disappointed but in no means in a disastrous way, basically delayed a year and half in graduating..). While my peers with lesser accolades and potential are able to enjoy life but responsibly, I am hindered from even doing that and that hurt my mental health a lot (for exmple: having the occasional drink with friends is a huge no, going out at night with friends is always looked upon with doubt, and my opportunities to meet girls are limited). But thats the issue in the society of my culture, where parents have expectations to uphold family standards in the face of society. I wont let that bring me down with the help of your advice on my mentality, and I will be independent financially soon anyway. Knowing my potential and my new found inspiration, thanks to you, I am sure i will overcome that mental state, which in turn exacerbated my sexual thoughts. (yes, what you put into perspective is so helpful in assisting in all walks of life and not just this sexual context).

I am an avid gymmer (upto 5-6 times a week) but it was mainly an outlet for me to bust the stress and tension this last year, with the physical aesthetics and benefits being just a bonus. I will definitely add to my routine, meditation and yoga in the mornings to keep my mind relieved and away from distracting thoughts. (mornings were times that I succumb to masturbation, as during evenings my self esteem felt higher after gym etc.). My social life has been dry over here (I am not where most of my friends are, and also my parents doubt my activities outside) and that has been a pain but hopefully it will be fine when I fly out this country and begin my job. Social life definitely will improve my mental state, thoughts and addictions, Im sure, like you said.

Venting onto paper and journaling my emotions sounds like a great outlet too. I will definitely begin that. I have watched quite a few videos on porn rewiring your brain, on the benefits of abstinence, and read multiple suggestions and advice from people on other forums. However nothing was as riveting to me to enforce a major change. But your personal anecdote of relating to me, and then your success beyond that is truly inspiring.. And your concerned reply and considerate thoughts from this community undoubtedly touched my heart. I shall keep referring to your advice and the helpful videos/resources youve attached thru my journey.

But of course, overall the main short term goal to see my long term results is to abstain from masturbating. It feels like a tough ask when it is one of my only means of brainwashed "pleasure", but with the inspiration I've received from you and this support from the nofap community (to my honest surprise), I am sure I will persevere. Staying active on this forum through my new changes and journey seems like a huge plus now to me. Thank you so much for helping me begin to instill these ideas in me.

Cheers sir. Cant thank you enough my brother
 
saand420 said:
This may be a slightly long read but it’s because i want to let you know all the details as I’m in DIRE NEED for HELP. So I’m a brown guy around 22, Pretty muscular and a handsome dude. I’ve never had any issues flirting with and picking up girls. In fact they’ve even admitted to me that I was intimidatingly attractive. However for the last couple years (not many chances to get laid) I’ve been into watching cuckold porn which gives me peak erections.

A year ago I had a relationship with a nice girl who loved me with everything. Because of me being used to cuckold porn, I wasn’t able to get peak erections during sex like before but still managed well and she even claimed that I was amazing and her best in bed right from our first hook up. I have strict parents and they had made me travel away and live with them for a while because of my partying and sexual encounters. And on top of that It was also difficult to get back as the pandemic made International traveling harder. We continued dating long distance for a year until she couldn’t handle anymore with me being unable to head back. So we broke it off peacefully and I even realized I was with her for the emotional support she gave me during this depressing period (parents, etc) rather than fully being in love with her.

Now I am finally about to leave my parents place after securing a job and am happy about it. But the issue was that during these 6 months after breakup, I can’t stop masturbating to thoughts of her with other men. Moreover living with such controlling parents I haven’t been able to hook up or rebound with anyone else either. Meanwhile she’s hooked up with tons of dudes and I can’t stop picturing it when I masturbate. I started watching small penis Cuckold porn (sph) even when I’m pretty hung and have been called the biggest they’ve had by multiple lovers. My mind has become disgraceful and I cry when I’m in my senses!!! Now that I’m finally leaving my parents, I am afraid how my sexual encounters in the future would be as what really turns me on now are cuckold thoughts about her or in general. I am sure I’ll be able to pickup women but am utterly scared about how I’ll perform sexually as it’s been over a year without intercourse.

Also when I don’t masturbate for 3 days, I feel great erections during normal masturbations (imagining real life girls, celebrities, watching the usual normal porn etc) and don’t need cuckold porn/thoughts for my peak erections. So I guess the answer is to abstain from masturbating till my mind gets back to being turned on by usual things. But my issue is that the depression and boredom from living here forces me to masturbate for relief. Please please provide me with ways to abstain even during this boredom. And i hope there is a surefire way I can get rid of these thoughts?

I thank you for patiently listening to my dilemma. I would be so grateful if you could offer advice on reprogramming my brain and not get distracted by cuckold thoughts. I absolutely despise them and I cry looking at how physically, I am attractive, muscular, good in bed and endowed but still my mind is reduced to these trains of thoughts.

PS, Asian parents are a pain, especially when you lag behind a year in education. Thus the reason for them to keep me at home without distractions till I graduate and secure a job. Pretty depressing year and a half but I’m looking forward to the next phase of life soon when I can be independent
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First of all congratulations on getting your own place, that's a huge accomplishment!

Dude, we all get caught up on our exes from time to time, your heavy porn consumption mixed with the feelings and memories of your ex sound like they have intertwined. Like every heavy porn user, the more you consume, the more depraved the material gets to get the same hit.

You said after 3 days you can start to get off to attractive girls and celebrities which is a great sign. I would urge you to get on a streak, if your brain is resetting that well within 3 days, imagine what benefits you can get from 30 days, or even more. When we are stuck in a pmo cycle, it's so easy to convince ourselves that no woman would ever want to get with us so I may as well just stick with the porn. I promise you dude, get on a good streak, start building some confidence and get started on some healthy habits and you will shocked by how many women take more interest in you.

I would say to you, pick up some habits, boredom is the main factor to relapsing, it helps cover up the feelings of sadness, loneliness, or anything negative. Start to practice meditation to help you connect with your pattern of thought. Read up on some coping techniques you can use when the urges present themselves (and they will arise).

In summary, get on a streak, pick up some healthy habits, hit the gym harder than you ever have and your life will change so much for the better. You've got this soldier!
 
hello, this is a new user "saeed" , this is my day 0 .
my main problem is that idk what makes me addicted to watch porn, I hate the porn, I hate these ladies but for some reason i don't know i still watch , do it , regret and get back for that circle many times till i fall asleep, sometimes i face that for day or two tops bur i always get fail ......
what makes me feel more sad and sorry for my self is when i talk to my gf we do it about once a week ,
" just talk and sometimes she asks me to send some photos for mine .... this is bad :("
these days is the worst in my life. i has been 4 years of that addiction
 
linalufis said:
I don't believe in the existence of porn addiction at all.
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You are very welcome to your opinion, however, there's a great book called 'Your Brain on Porn' by Gary Wilson.

I suggest you do some more research on the subject, the effects porn has on your brain are very similar to hard drugs, if someone is consuming multiple times per day, you can see why that behaviour can become an addiction.
 
TrentBenjamin said:
You are very welcome to your opinion, however, there's a great book called 'Your Brain on Porn' by Gary Wilson.

I suggest you do some more research on the subject, the effects porn has on your brain are very similar to hard drugs, if someone is consuming multiple times per day, you can see why that behaviour can become an addiction.
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I never watched P everyday

I realized i had addiction when i wanted to stop watching it for good but always came back once or twice a month

Addiction can also mean wanting to stop but wont
 
saand420 said:
This may be a slightly long read but it’s because i want to let you know all the details as I’m in DIRE NEED for HELP. So I’m a brown guy around 22, Pretty muscular and a handsome dude. I’ve never had any issues flirting with and picking up girls. In fact they’ve even admitted to me that I was intimidatingly attractive. However for the last couple years (not many chances to get laid) I’ve been into watching cuckold porn which gives me peak erections.

A year ago I had a relationship with a nice girl who loved me with everything. Because of me being used to cuckold porn, I wasn’t able to get peak erections during sex like before but still managed well and she even claimed that I was amazing and her best in bed right from our first hook up. I have strict parents and they had made me travel away and live with them for a while because of my partying and sexual encounters. And on top of that It was also difficult to get back as the pandemic made International traveling harder. We continued dating long distance for a year until she couldn’t handle anymore with me being unable to head back. So we broke it off peacefully and I even realized I was with her for the emotional support she gave me during this depressing period (parents, etc) rather than fully being in love with her.

Now I am finally about to leave my parents place after securing a job and am happy about it. But the issue was that during these 6 months after breakup, I can’t stop masturbating to thoughts of her with other men. Moreover living with such controlling parents I haven’t been able to hook up or rebound with anyone else either. Meanwhile she’s hooked up with tons of dudes and I can’t stop picturing it when I masturbate. I started watching small penis Cuckold porn (sph) even when I’m pretty hung and have been called the biggest they’ve had by multiple lovers. My mind has become disgraceful and I cry when I’m in my senses!!! Now that I’m finally leaving my parents, I am afraid how my sexual encounters in the future would be as what really turns me on now are cuckold thoughts about her or in general. I am sure I’ll be able to pickup women but am utterly scared about how I’ll perform sexually as it’s been over a year without intercourse.

Also when I don’t masturbate for 3 days, I feel great erections during normal masturbations (imagining real life girls, celebrities, watching the usual normal porn etc) and don’t need cuckold porn/thoughts for my peak erections. So I guess the answer is to abstain from masturbating till my mind gets back to being turned on by usual things. But my issue is that the depression and boredom from living here forces me to masturbate for relief. Please please provide me with ways to abstain even during this boredom. And i hope there is a surefire way I can get rid of these thoughts?

I thank you for patiently listening to my dilemma. I would be so grateful if you could offer advice on reprogramming my brain and not get distracted by cuckold thoughts. I absolutely despise them and I cry looking at how physically, I am attractive, muscular, good in bed and endowed but still my mind is reduced to these trains of thoughts.

PS, Asian parents are a pain, especially when you lag behind a year in education. Thus the reason for them to keep me at home without distractions till I graduate and secure a job. Pretty depressing year and a half but I’m looking forward to the next phase of life soon when I can be independent
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Exercise, socializing, and spending the least amount of time in the places you PMO are the best ways to adhere to your reboot in my experience. Exercise makes you physically tired, takes your mind off compulsive thoughts when you train intensely, and recycles blood from your penis, balls, and pelvic area, reducing blue balls and physical arousal side effects. Socializing distracts you and calms the parts of your brain that desire connection and affection. You also release hormones that reduce dopamine flow. Spending time in areas where you do not PMO or cannot PMO helped me immensely during my first reboot. I was in school at the time, and would wake up at 7am, leave my dorm at 7:30am, spend the entire day either in class or in the library working (I would bring all my books and food for the entire day), get back home at 8-9PM, talk with my roommates for an hour, then sleep. Spend as much time at school or work as you can if you can't spend extra time with friends. I realize Covid has made this hard, so you have to improvise. If your bedroom is your normal place for PMO, don't do work in there or just stay out of there the entire day. Stay in open parts of the house all day if you need to, even sleep on the couch if you feel the need to PMO at night. The first 2-3 weeks are the toughest, so as long as you get it right the first time, consider this a temporary solution.

Getting rid of the cuckold thoughts will take more time. But you can reduce their effect on you and how often they come up. To reduce their effect on you, you just have to accept for the time being that this is what turns you on. Sounds paradoxical, but just here me out. I was deep in sissy porn, which is very relatable to cuckold porn. Nothing turned me on more than the thought of getting tied up, forcibly dressed like a slut, getting my penis locked in a cage, and then anally savaged by numerous men FOR YEARS. These thoughts never left my mind and were so incredibly terrible. For the duration of my reboot though, I just had to accept "Hey maybe this is who I am and this is what I like". Now you shouldn't ENGAGE in these activities, but when the thoughts come, you just have to learn to brush them off. Remembering that time a few months ago where I crossdressed and stuck a vibrator in my ass for hours? Hilarious. PMO to forced feminization hentai for months? Wow what a weird phase. Thinking of giving a blowjob to a guy at work who was mean to me? Sheesh. You just gotta take it for the time being and brush off the thoughts. Maybe they're what you want, but right now you're rebooting and can't deal with those thoughts. Do your reboot, and then deal with your cuckolding thoughts.

Dealing with intrusive thoughts about porn is tough, but dealing with the same type of thoughts with people you know can be even worse. I'm truly sorry things didn't work out with your girl, especially during this tough time. In terms of having a relationship with her, right now is the time to pick up and move on. Due to simply geography there is no way a relationship could happen, so scrub that entire notion from your mind.

On the account that you can't stop thinking of her having sex with a lot of guys, that's just the reality you need to deal with. People have sex. People you're into have more sex because you're into them and they're probably good looking. It's how the world works. Wish her well, and move on with your life. There is no possibility her having sex with other guys affects your life, so you really should not care. I apologize if this sounds rough and mean, but it's really good to move on here. The more you focus on yourself, your needs, and your relationships, the less you will care about her. Hey you never know, this could strengthen your relationship! For a while I was hooking up with this Tinder girl, but stopped when she told me she was hooking up with other guys multiple times a week (sometimes rather close to our times together). I got upset, stopped talking to her for a while, and couldn't stop thinking about her with all these other dudes. I just had to let go, think "She's having a great time with other people, I shouldn't be upset", and focused on hanging with the boys for a while. Months later she responded to a snapstory of me at a bar and told me to come over, and we were even better FWBs for the next few months! Take this as a positive experience for you to work on yourself in other areas of your life, and wish her well with all her human dildos. You'll feel much better about everything
 
saand420 said:
This may be a slightly long read but it’s because i want to let you know all the details as I’m in DIRE NEED for HELP. So I’m a brown guy around 22, Pretty muscular and a handsome dude. I’ve never had any issues flirting with and picking up girls. In fact they’ve even admitted to me that I was intimidatingly attractive. However for the last couple years (not many chances to get laid) I’ve been into watching cuckold porn which gives me peak erections.

A year ago I had a relationship with a nice girl who loved me with everything. Because of me being used to cuckold porn, I wasn’t able to get peak erections during sex like before but still managed well and she even claimed that I was amazing and her best in bed right from our first hook up. I have strict parents and they had made me travel away and live with them for a while because of my partying and sexual encounters. And on top of that It was also difficult to get back as the pandemic made International traveling harder. We continued dating long distance for a year until she couldn’t handle anymore with me being unable to head back. So we broke it off peacefully and I even realized I was with her for the emotional support she gave me during this depressing period (parents, etc) rather than fully being in love with her.

Now I am finally about to leave my parents place after securing a job and am happy about it. But the issue was that during these 6 months after breakup, I can’t stop masturbating to thoughts of her with other men. Moreover living with such controlling parents I haven’t been able to hook up or rebound with anyone else either. Meanwhile she’s hooked up with tons of dudes and I can’t stop picturing it when I masturbate. I started watching small penis Cuckold porn (sph) even when I’m pretty hung and have been called the biggest they’ve had by multiple lovers. My mind has become disgraceful and I cry when I’m in my senses!!! Now that I’m finally leaving my parents, I am afraid how my sexual encounters in the future would be as what really turns me on now are cuckold thoughts about her or in general. I am sure I’ll be able to pickup women but am utterly scared about how I’ll perform sexually as it’s been over a year without intercourse.

Also when I don’t masturbate for 3 days, I feel great erections during normal masturbations (imagining real life girls, celebrities, watching the usual normal porn etc) and don’t need cuckold porn/thoughts for my peak erections. So I guess the answer is to abstain from masturbating till my mind gets back to being turned on by usual things. But my issue is that the depression and boredom from living here forces me to masturbate for relief. Please please provide me with ways to abstain even during this boredom. And i hope there is a surefire way I can get rid of these thoughts?

I thank you for patiently listening to my dilemma. I would be so grateful if you could offer advice on reprogramming my brain and not get distracted by cuckold thoughts. I absolutely despise them and I cry looking at how physically, I am attractive, muscular, good in bed and endowed but still my mind is reduced to these trains of thoughts.

PS, Asian parents are a pain, especially when you lag behind a year in education. Thus the reason for them to keep me at home without distractions till I graduate and secure a job. Pretty depressing year and a half but I’m looking forward to the next phase of life soon when I can be independent
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sup buddy..

been there, done that. 90 days hardmode will fix ya. make a concious effort to think about something else when these pop-up.

make a list why you wanna stop PMO.

pray to God.

exercise, cold showers..

it's a phase, with nofap and a bit of persistance it'll pass.
 
saand420 said:
My brother @Spiritual Redemption, first off, I am at an absolute loss for words over your genuine, detailed, and most of all caring response to my situation. I am so thankful for the time you spent.

I had enough of my depression and this addiction and made the account today just to post this and hear some thoughts for some mental alleviation. However, your response has done more than just that. Also I am overwhelmed with the number of responses I have received so quick. Had no clue or expectation for people to respond to me so caringly, but this forum proved me wrong. I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart.

I am touched by the experiences you have gone through and by the way you have turned it all around. Your thoughts on keeping my mind flexible and susceptible to good change and growth will be forever resonating in my mind now, not just in this context, but in all aspects of life. It makes so much sense to me that I am worsening it for myself by making myself rigid and creating boundaries that often when I step out of it, I feel devastated and that feeds unnecessary attention to those thoughts. That, I hope to rectify and cease giving unwanted time and attention to insignificant thoughts. I understand that I am young and this is just a hiccup in my journey. However like you rightly pointed out, it is by no means a process to see fast results... I will persevere over time with all the resources you have bombarded me with.

This mental depression is what is aggravating my pornography habits and I am happy that I will soon be away from the sources of my depression and be independent. In essence, my mental dilemma is due to my overcontrolling and over expecting parents (whom I admit to have disappointed but in no means in a disastrous way, basically delayed a year and half in graduating..). While my peers with lesser accolades and potential are able to enjoy life but responsibly, I am hindered from even doing that and that hurt my mental health a lot (for exmple: having the occasional drink with friends is a huge no, going out at night with friends is always looked upon with doubt, and my opportunities to meet girls are limited). But thats the issue in the society of my culture, where parents have expectations to uphold family standards in the face of society. I wont let that bring me down with the help of your advice on my mentality, and I will be independent financially soon anyway. Knowing my potential and my new found inspiration, thanks to you, I am sure i will overcome that mental state, which in turn exacerbated my sexual thoughts. (yes, what you put into perspective is so helpful in assisting in all walks of life and not just this sexual context).

I am an avid gymmer (upto 5-6 times a week) but it was mainly an outlet for me to bust the stress and tension this last year, with the physical aesthetics and benefits being just a bonus. I will definitely add to my routine, meditation and yoga in the mornings to keep my mind relieved and away from distracting thoughts. (mornings were times that I succumb to masturbation, as during evenings my self esteem felt higher after gym etc.). My social life has been dry over here (I am not where most of my friends are, and also my parents doubt my activities outside) and that has been a pain but hopefully it will be fine when I fly out this country and begin my job. Social life definitely will improve my mental state, thoughts and addictions, Im sure, like you said.

Venting onto paper and journaling my emotions sounds like a great outlet too. I will definitely begin that. I have watched quite a few videos on porn rewiring your brain, on the benefits of abstinence, and read multiple suggestions and advice from people on other forums. However nothing was as riveting to me to enforce a major change. But your personal anecdote of relating to me, and then your success beyond that is truly inspiring.. And your concerned reply and considerate thoughts from this community undoubtedly touched my heart. I shall keep referring to your advice and the helpful videos/resources youve attached thru my journey.

But of course, overall the main short term goal to see my long term results is to abstain from masturbating. It feels like a tough ask when it is one of my only means of brainwashed "pleasure", but with the inspiration I've received from you and this support from the nofap community (to my honest surprise), I am sure I will persevere. Staying active on this forum through my new changes and journey seems like a huge plus now to me. Thank you so much for helping me begin to instill these ideas in me.

Cheers sir. Cant thank you enough my brother
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I am sorry it has taken me this long to respond. My brother it is an absolute pleasure to help, and I am humbled by your generous words and that it has left you inspired. You have no idea how much this process helps me to deal with my own difficulties. It would seem that a law of the universe is: "whatever you wish for yourself, give it to another." I was helped out of the darkness, through the kindness and support of others, and if I can repay even a fraction of that debt and of what was so freely given to me, it will have been worthwhile.

You seem to have a lot of self-knowledge, and you sound ready to begin to move forward towards your goals. Remember that action is the key to all of this. Be patient, persevere, and reach out for help. If you need support at any time down the line, reach out to me in a PM. I know that when I started withdrawing off porn and masturbation my brain played all sorts of tricks on me. My worst fears, doubts, insecurities came up, and I thought I was going mad. You'll experience this too, so don't panic. Just ask for help. If you don't give in and push through the pain, on the other side you'll find a breakthrough. The awakening and change I have experienced in my life by pushing through these times is priceless. Good luck my friend, truly, you can do this.
 
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