Cupid's Poisoned Arrow

The title of this thread is actually the title of a book written by the legendary Gary Wilson's wife Marnia Robinson.

So, who has read it (I have) and what are your thoughts on it?

Little video with Marnia (lots of great info on her site too http://reuniting.info) and a fapstronaut asking about the book, Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships,



Also what are your thoughts on how porn viewing and ejaculation/orgasm through masturbation or sex affect the brain?

 

David J. Ley I'M CALLIN YOU OUT, COME AND GET SOME OF THIS!



DEBUNKING DAVID J. LEY'S THE MYTH OF SEX ADDICTION

 

http://yourbrainonporn.com/cambridge-university-brain-scans-find-porn-addiction


http://www.reuniting.info/orgasms_hidden_cycle

"You're finished...but your brain has just begun.
Orgasm feels great, and if climax were the end of the story, partners would project the good feelings generated in the bedroom onto one another—and effortlessly dote on each other forever. Few do.

One challenge is that orgasm—especially that "I'm definitely done!" feeling after sex—isn't an isolated event. It's the beginning of a much longer cycle, which often includes subconscious neurochemical signals of discontent that tarnish lovers' perceptions of each other. Consider this verse from the ancientGreek Anthology, which long ago captured the essence of the Coolidge Effect:

Once plighted, no men would go whoring,
They'd stay with the one they adore,
If women were half as alluring
After the act as before!

If you are familiar with the work of Masters & Johnson, you probably think of the "cycle of orgasm" as a brief series of observable genitalevents: arousal, plateau, climax and refractory period. The experience of orgasm, however, is produced in a primitive part of the brain. Without these neurochemical fireworks, the Big "O" wouldn't feel like an orgasm regardless of what happens in your genitals.

But assuming you're not trying to patent the next billion-dollar sexual enhancement drug, why do you care about the neurochemical aspects of orgasm? Here are two reasons:

1. Neurochemical events can have powerful effects on your behavior, mood and perceptions without your awareness. You probably don't think of sexual arousal as correlating with rising dopamine, or orgasm as equating with surges of endorphins, adrenaline and so forth. Chances are you also don't think of your feelings over the days after orgasm as being linked to a cascade of neurochemical events (fluctuating dopamine and prolactin levels, testosterone receptor declines, etc.).

2. There is growing evidence (details in The Passion Cycle) that this complex neurochemical sequence after orgasm is much longer than the physical events after climax. It may even continue for up to two weeks after you roll over and snore, or look around for more. During this slow, somewhat erratic, return to neurochemical homeostasis after orgasm, it's not unusual to experience intermittent sensations of lack, neediness, irritability, intense horniness and so forth. Most people climax again before the brain brings itself back to homeostasis. Interestingly, evidence suggests that the more thoroughly you sexually satiate yourself—that is, the more intense or numerous your orgasms—the more acute the overall effects on your outlook. For example, it has been observed that the more orgasms women have over a 30-day period, the more unattractive they perceive pictures of unknown men.

The point is that orgasm may innocently be influencing your subsequent moods, cravings, choices, and perceptions—and for longer than you would imagine possible. This hidden cycle and the subtle feelings it brings up are likely to be a factor in the Coolidge Effect. Scientists already know that, after sex, dropping dopamine (the signal for "less rewarding") plays a role in habituation between mates, just a spike of dopamine ("rewarding!") plays a role in the neurochemically induced attraction to novel partners."

 

SO how do we avoid the above effects (other than celibacy)? Allow this video to shed more light if this topic is of interest and new to you,

BEYOND ORGASM

 

If this thread intrigues you at all, delve deeper my friends:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/s/ref=is_s?k=taoist+sex

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/s/ref=is_s?k=karezza

 

IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE HUMAN DIGNITY TO LOOK AT A BEAUTIFUL FEMALE WITHOUT HAVING FILTHY THOUGHTS STEP AWAY FROM THIS THREAD, NOW (but please know I believe you do have the innate dignity buried inside your heart but it has been covered by filth and bad habits and I hope you can embrace it one day, then come back and enjoy this song of wisdom):

 

For the ladies and femstronauts, any wives of addicted fapstronauts, this link is for you, may you and your spouse both heal from his or her addiction,

https://bloomforwomen.com/pages/index.php

'Bloom helps women who have experienced betrayal to heal, strengthen, and grow past the broken trust and trauma, all with professional support, educational resources, and an empathetic community.'

 

TRIGGER WARNING THIS SONG FEATURES 2 MEN FIST FIGHTING WITHOUT SHIRTS ON:


What is love? Why does most of mainstream society nowadays view the pinnacle of sensual love as a 'mind blowing' orgasm?

Do you know what it means to love beyond the flesh? Beyond an outward burst of vital fluids?

Can you think of ways romantic and intimate physical love can be expressed other than expelling your body's most potent lifeforce?

I can think of a dozen or more. I am a natural lover though, who has delved deep into ancient wisdoms after seeing through and debunking all the modern 'medical science' and 'studies' on sex.

Call me a love rebel.

 

Yall must be thinkin this calm character is somethin else, wtf is wrong with him?

I completely understand, but let's keep it civil because I do bite, HARD.





'Porn is just sexual exploitation disguised as entertainment. It strips sex of everything that is awesome about it and turns it into a cheap, hollow counterfeit. Not cool.'

You gots to love yourself before you can truly love someone else, are masturbation and porn helping you love and feel good about your life?

 

http://www.sacred-texts.com/nth/tgr/tgr16.htm

An excerpt from the link (A MUST READ IF YOU HAVEN'T READ NAPOLEAN HILL'S WORK ON SEX TRANSMUTATION),

'THE meaning of the word "transmute" is, in simple language, "the changing, or transferring of one element, or form of energy, into another."

The emotion of sex brings into being a state of mind.

Because of ignorance on the subject, this state of mind is generally associated with the physical, and because of improper influences, to which most people have been subjected, in acquiring knowledge of sex, things essentially physical have highly biased the mind.

The emotion of sex has back of it the possibility of three constructive potentialities, they are:--

1. The perpetuation of mankind.

2. The maintenance of health, (as a therapeutic agency, it has no equal).

3. The transformation of mediocrity into genius through transmutation.

Sex transmutation is simple and easily explained. It means the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression, to thoughts of some other nature.

Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires.

When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it. When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches.

The transmutation of sex energy calls for the exercise of will-power, to be sure, but the reward is worth the effort. The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot, and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of man. If not given this form of outlet, through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels.

A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet. The same is true of the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet.

Fortunate, indeed, is the person who has discovered how to give sex emotion an outlet through some form of creative effort, for he has, by that discovery, lifted himself to the status of a genius.'

Are you trying to practice transmutation as part of your recovery from porn my friends? Channel that sex energy and use it as rocket fuel to launch your ass to Awesometown so to speak?

I sure am




"The Calling"

I am here to show you there is hope in a dying world
(I can hear the calling)
And if you don't believe me you won't even see that what you're living in is hell
You're living in hell
I am here to spread and speak the truth
I am here to heal and do what's right
Dissolving fear, spreading the light
I am here to open and free your mind
Together we travel into realms of evolution
The greatest mystery
We are the fractulated tendrils of this reality
All my will is bent on change
The universe is ours to rearrange
Follow my lead and in fact you'll see
We create our reality

I am here to show there's hope in a dying world
(I can hear the calling)
And I won't stand by
And watch the dream wither and die
This is my destiny in life
I can hear the calling

All my will is bent on change
The universe is ours to rearrange
Follow my lead and in fact you'll see
We create our reality
All my will is bent on change
The universe is ours to rearrange
Follow my lead and in fact you'll see
We create our reality
All my will is bent on change
The universe is ours to rearrange
Follow my lead and in fact you'll see
We create our reality
All my will is bent on change
The universe is ours to rearrange
Follow my lead and in fact you'll see
We create our reality

 

Do you think porn is helping the actors and actresses grow in life? Anyone who has a positive or supportive outlook on porn so to speak, are you growing by viewing pornography? Serious questions you should ask yourself.



Food for thought for straight males in the room:


'You can’t have a real and loving relationship with her while bringing in thousands of other girls on a computer screen.'

 

GOOD DAY MY FRIENDS I HOPE YOU ARE ALL DOING WELL IN YOUR RECOVERY!







'The equation is that simple. Seek real relationships and shun their hollow counterfeits.'

 

How's life treatin yall these days?

Treatin me beautifully, thanks for asking, as the saying goes 'you get what you give'.

This song may be a lil triggerin for underdeveloped minds but enlightening for minds at a decent level of self control ,



'Science and research are showing that viewing pornography can change and rewire how the brain works. For those who watch porn, their perceptions of healthy relationships and sexuality become warped by what they’ve viewed.'

 

Do yall know the difference between lust and love? I have to remind myself every few weeks that is how often I forget

 

Is anyone reading this very post still watching P?

WHY?!

10 EXCUSES THAT WILL KEEP YOU WATCHING PORN