Cured my PIED, but still have femdom fantasy

[pornfree4ever]

So I did 4 months of nofap - hard mode. For the first time in my life, I was able to sustain my erection while wearing a condom during intercourse. After the 4 months of hard mode, I switched to light mode (no porn only). It has been more than 200 days so far of no porn.

I still experience femdom fantasies from time to time. To the extent that I was so close to booking a session with a dominatrix, but thank goodness I did not. Many of the role plays I asked her to perform were inspired by my past experience of porn (e.g. cuckolding).

Is femdom fantasy ever curable? Or is it that some men are just naturally born with submissive side?

 

[Deleted Account]

it may be something you will always have, ever since i hit puberty at 12 i was naturally interested in cross dressing and acting like a girl this was way before porn, mabie my sister forcing me into a dress as a kid did something subconsciously to my mind, not sure. some men are born with female brains, as an infp i for sure was. All you can do is stay away from it, i know having the natural desire for it sucks but its just something some guys like me have to live with, its especially hard for me since i am a christian and my urges do not align with the bible at all, i want to give into my desires all the time, some may tell you since you were born with them that they are ok and fine but i dont think so.

 

[phwrancesco]

First, good job.

Second, i think that starting what you call "soft mode" is a mistake.

You should release your semen only by having sex with girls.

If you do like this i'm sure in 16-18 months you'll forget about your fantasies.

 

[Mordobarn]

@phwrancesco is most likely correct.

A femdom fantasy might be a result of your addiction. Please go no-PM if you can — have stimulation and orgasm only with a sexual partner.

However, femdom could also be a sign of something else. A willing submission to be controlled and forced to do what you don't really want to do, yet you get kicks out of it…

If it's not just your addiction talking, it means that you have some issues that you need to sort out.

I've said this before and I'll say it again…

Addiction is caused by problems, and it worsens existing problems, and it creates new problems.

If you really want to be cured not only of your addiction but also of your other problems, get therapy.

There are many different therapies — counselling, mindfulness, meditation, hypnotherapy, CBT, NLP, matrix imprinting, systemic constellations, and much more. Choose whichever ones happen to suit your character and needs.

I would not be here today had I not had therapy.