Curing my Erectile Dysfunction (27yo)

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  1. Oliver Gunter

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    My whole life I've had relatively little contact to girls. One of the rare occasions, when I had a girl at home, was when I was 19. I can still remember the rock hard boner I had when we were just sitting next to each other, still dressed, and our legs were touching. It was even a little embarrassing, how easy I got an erection.

    Now at 27, I wanted to restart my sexlife, so I installed Tinder. Through watching porn I have developed a MILF kink, so I figured why not try to hook up with real MILFs. I then had a match with a really hot 52 year old woman and we decided to meet in her house. We started kissing and undressing each other but something was odd. I didn't get a boner. I decided to go down on her and licked her for 15 minutes. Still no boner. She then gave me a blowjob and I managed to ejaculate, but I didn't get hard enough to penetrate her.
    2 months later I had my next Tinder date with a hot 36 year old woman. We met at her house and started kissing on the couch. Again, I had troubles getting a boner, even though I always dreamed of these situations. I did manage to get hard after a while but when I tried to penetrate her it got soft again. We then tried for hours but my penis didn't get stiff again.
    Just recently I had my third Tinder date, this time with a 37 year old foreigner lady on holiday. We met at a spa and started getting closer to each other in the water. I did finger her and she tried to give me a handjob. I would have loved to take her to the changing rooms to make out, but I didn't get hard at all so it was useless to try.

    Before these 3 dates, I didn't even notice something was wrong. Now, when I masturbate I can still get hard, but I notice that it gets soft after a minute or two and I have to watch more porn to get it hard again. I live very healthy and do a lot of sport, so I can't imagine health being the reason for my problem. I thought of trying ED meds, but then realized that in my country it is difficult to get ED meds at a reasonable price. This lead me to further research my problems and stumble upon Nofap, and now I'm here. I figured I try a 90 days reboot. Hopefully this will bring back my rockhard boners from my youth. I'd love to meet again with the 52 yo goddess but I'm too afraid of failure right now.

    Did anybody else experience anything like me? Should I concentrate on girls my age or maybe even younger girls? Should I just order cheap ED meds from abroad? Can Nofap help me?

    Thanks in advance! Glad to be part of this now :)
     
  2. virgin guy23

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    I will reply to you tomorrow bro, interesting story
     
  3. AnthonyyVibess

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    I'll reply now lol. 90 days is the goal shoot for it, BUT don't stop there. slip-ups are slip-ups they happen BUT AVOID them and stay strong. Everybody's situation is different. I had PIED (porn-induced ED), but I'm claiming that I'm recovering well and working on performance anxiety. I'm around your age, a bit younger, but me and my gf had sex recently twice and i realized that i could've went multiple rounds. I got morning wood coming back home from staying with her for some time. I do recommend working on genuine connections with females. Even if it's female friends you aren't having sex with. As for age, you like what you like lol milfs aren't really my thing but if you're not as attracted to females your age then why go for females your age? Shoot for what you are naturally attracted to. I also recommend meditating bc negative thoughts and performance anxiety hit me hard. I always guessing if I would get hard and as a result I was never really in the moment. My gf made me super comfortable and assured me of a lot of things. I ended up getting confidence in that moment and wanted to take initiative. Anyway, take from that this, let your past failures be that, past failures. They don't define the next moment you come across or the one you're taking part in at whatever moment. All of sudden you can suffer PIED and then BOOM you're enjoying an intimate moment.
     
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  4. Oliver Gunter

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    Thanks a lot for your message, Anthony! It gives me new perspectives and hope. I chose to go for milfs not only because I'm attracted to them, but also because there are usually no strings attached and I felt the need to get some experience before looking for genuine connections. For a relationship or friendship I would actually prefer girls my age, but I'm also kind of afraid of showing my weakness to them. It's good to hear that a genuine connection can actually help me with ED and performance anxiety. Also, I'm going to add meditation to my daily routine. I definitely have to strengthen my mind.
    Congratulations on your gf and your recent success in bed! How long have you been rebooting now? How long have you been together?
     
  5. AnthonyyVibess

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    Thank you ! And i definitely understand sort of lol, before gettin with my gf i was trying to hookup with this 27 year old, which is older than I’d typically date bc the same rules apply usually the larger the age difference the more ppl are just looking for fun. I cut it off bc it felt like it was getting serious. she didn’t want to have sex until she was comfortable with me and i didn’t want to lead her on especially when she had kids and thought i could be someone significant. I’ve been rebooting for about a year now! I’ve never hit 90 days. My longest was maybe 30. And that was in the beginning. I’m between 20 and 30 now i think. And we’ve been talking for almost 2 months lol that’s why i said one day you could be suffering PIED and then BOOM you’re enjoying an intimate moment. I stopped keeping track of my streak bc i just want to be done with porn idc abt days anymore i don’t even see porn as this life-ruiner lol a sin in my life yes but to the general public not a life-ruiner it’s just one of those drugs that some ppl escape and others get hooked for the worse. Starting out you should definitely keep track of your progress though, take note of the changes! Even the little ones (happiness, productivity, etc.) familiarize yourself with the fact that porn-free living is a better way of living and you’ll do better. And pls do add that meditation! I even found myself breathing and letting my mind escape when me and my gf tried for the successful time and i like to think it helped lol
     
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  6. Oliver Gunter

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    Thanks for taking the time to help me! I'm usually not very outspoken about my problems and tend to solve them on my own, but for this specific one it really helps getting some advice. I also read one of your posts in another thread. You are a blessing for this community!
     
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  7. AnthonyyVibess

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    Thanks again my guy ! N I’m the same way Oliver lol and the different nofap communities have been a blessing ik they’ll be the same for you too! Message me anytime bro and may you get everything out of this community you need and want
     
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  9. virgin guy23

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    As I said bro, now I'm back to give you my opinion about your whole journey..
    being an 27yo guy is quite.. weird to have a desire in having sex with a 52yo woman.. Just saying, I'm not judging you, everyone has their own pleasures.
    You are quite of a man telling this thing.. most of the dudes never say they lick their partner&escort they find on internet.. it's like a fear for them to reveal the truth..
    I'm really sorry this date didn't worked out either.. I wish I can have sex with a lovely 25-35yo woman.. with experience in all of this topic.
    I am almost 20yo.. without 1month and I can tell you that happened to me also... My penis isn't that hard how it was when I was 17years old... It is hard but not at my full potential.. you get it.. that's why I started this program also (3DAYS IN, you can check my thread on my profile, I post updates every night) I can tell .. being as a virgin probably my brain&penis started to feel bored about pornography/instagram models and that's why my penis could be a little clumsy.. when I will have the chance to have real sex with a girl I guess my penis will be up for hours.
    You have to stick up with this program as long as you can and your penis will be repaired and functional100% . You are 27yo guy.. not +45 , your penis can be restored without using any ED meds...
    you can try some girls with the age of 18-25 not for some LONG term relationships.. only for sex.. to see how your penis will react when you are having sex with a girl and not a woman. Your brain has some weak perceptions about model woman of your life and that's why you can't fully experience real sex.. I'm guessing in past you loved MILF category but in real life you can't have SEX with a 52yo woman.. not even 36.. maybe it's TEMPORARY maybe it's not... I'm telling you.. you may think you love MILF's but you can only have sex with girls around your age...
    God bless you bro and let updates here! Keep your chin up!
     
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  10. LiquidNitro

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    Bro there is something I wish to highlight on this: even I am a huge fan of the MILF category when it comes to porn. However, my hookups with MILFs went the exact same way as it did with you - it may be due to performance anxiety, not too sure. However, when I did hookup with a good friend of mine from uni (she was around my age), things were different. My hard on wasn't 100% but I could definitely say it was way better than my experiences with MILFs and as a result the whole experience was better.

    Rather than being in fear of your performance in bed, how about you actually get a girlfriend ... cause it might really help when you have someone who could understand you, and it is not all about sex in a relationship ... idk your personal preference but I think this might help.
     
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  11. Oliver Gunter

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    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this, @virgin guy23 and @LiquidNitro !
    It's good for me to hear that even younger guys experience the same symptoms. This reassures me even more, that it's a porn and masturbation problem.
    You guys are probably right. I should date women my age or younger. I'm not into hooking up with them because that would probably turn into drama. I probably just want a girlfriend but at the same time I have my problems with it:
    (1) the fear of committing to a girl that might turn out not to be my soulmate
    (2) the fear of losing my freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want
    (3) I still live at home with my parents which has a lot of pros including financial freedom, a big garden and always some company. But it's difficult for relationships and I would move away once I'm in a serious relationship.

    Having said that I met a wonderful 19 yo girl in summer through a hobby. I usually don't even consider woman below 22 but it was so easy to talk to her and I had a little crush on her (a feeling I didn't have for 8 years). She unfortunately moved away for college, but I will stay in touch with her and see how things go. Maybe next summer we come closer.
     
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  12. virgin guy23

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    be fast bro:)) you have to start calling her.. you know, don't waste time because she can find another one in college.. stay blessed
     
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  13. LiquidNitro

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    Just give it a shot man. Or otherwise, you can always seek for fwb (that is what I had - although I quickly got bored and stopped it). But in all honesty, if you like someone, just go shoot your shot. It is either gonna work out or you will learn a valuable lesson :D
     
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    Hey boys, how are you doing? In the first days I could feel the progress with my PIED problem but now every day feels the same.

    I need your advice: I kept contact with the 19 year old I got a crush on. I'm going to visit the city she moved to next Monday and we decided to meet there. Today she messaged me to ask how my weekend was. When I asked her the same she told me she visited her family, her friends and also her boyfriend. I decided to ignore the boyfriend bomb in my reply. I don't know what to think about it. I still feel like she is interested in me. She uses the heyy with double y and often texts first.
    Any advice is very welcome.
     
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  15. Nofap will help you
    Just Quit Porn
    Porn is biggest cause of Erectile Dysfunction.
    No PMO
    you'll see result in 2/3 months
    On the basis of how much you were addicted to pmo it will take time to heal.
    Avoid social media as much as you can because there will be unwanted pop ups of semi nude models girls always.
    Meditate,Do kegels properly do reverse kegels it will help you for sure
     
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  16. AnthonyyVibess

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    Not the boyfriend bomb lmaooo if you guys are cool like that by all means go n see her. I don’t necessarily have female friends that i would travel long distance to see unless i was trying and capable of getting lucky lol. Plus she has a bf and if there’s chemistry between y’all two and she’s trying to hang out exclusively you probably won’t want her in the long run that’s a red flag my guy. I wouldn’t look too deep into the “heyy” i double my letters sometimes (not “heyy” bc thats more of a female signature). I never look into text signatures bc they’re just that, just a unique style of texting. Lastly, and i mean this . . . date multiple women but only give a title to one. If that’s not your gf then don’t feel like you can’t talk to other women have fun cause she most likely will lol.
     
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    Thank you for replying, Anthony! I feared you would say it's a red flag. I'm visiting my sister too in the city so I didn't tell my crush she's the main reason I'm travelling that far. I like her because I thought she had a really good character. Meeting a guy hundreds of kilometers away from her boyfriend doesn't really confirm my view of her. When I meet her in person it's probably easier to sense what's going on, but I'm already turned off
     
  18. LiquidNitro

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    Sorry bro, that is a huge red flag.

    Simply put, if she can decide to cheat with some other guy when she has a boyfriend, there is nothing stopping her from doing the same when she is in a relationship with you.

    Good luck buddy :)
     
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  19. Oliver Gunter

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    Yes, you are completely right! It's disappointing but I won't deny the truth.
     
  20. Basic Element

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    Hi pal.
    Hope you are doing well, aren't you?
    See a couple responses from you here on the forum. Like the way you are supporting the others.
    Good luck with your struggle against the sickness :)
     
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