Curvy Girls = PMO ?

Mister Fire

Mister Fire

Fapstronaut
I’ve noticed that when I was on my NoFap streak I couldn’t look at curvy women without getting a boner + sweaty palms + dry mouth + heartbeat racing, similar to what I’would’ve had with p subs (or porn).So I stopped looking at them.Now what the fuck does that mean? That curvy chicks are a bad thing for a NoFapper? Or is it just that these reactions were porn induced/ that I was just triggered because of my fetishes including those kind of chicks and shit ? Confused.Want answers from someone who has mastered NoFap and/or experienced something similar.
 
Mister Fire said:
I’ve noticed that when I was on my NoFap streak I couldn’t look at curvy women without getting a boner + sweaty palms + dry mouth + heartbeat racing, similar to what I’would’ve had with p subs (or porn).So I stopped looking at them.Now what the fuck does that mean? That curvy chicks are a bad thing for a Fapstronaut? Or is it just that these reactions were porn induced/ that I was just triggered because of my fetishes including those kind of chicks and shit ? Confused.Want answers from someone who has mastered NoFap and/or experienced something similar.
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I think that actual sexual attraction exists outside of a type of porn induced fetish. I think you will be ok, your body is just responding to the opposite sex. It might be uncomfortable at times. Nofap will increase libido so the discomfort might be worse.
 
Max Fisher said:
I think that actual sexual attraction exists outside of a type of porn induced fetish. I think you will be ok, your body is just responding to the opposite sex. It might be uncomfortable at times. Nofap will increase libido so the discomfort might be worse.
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I’ve had a long enough streak to differentiate my authentic libido from my PMO lust.What I’m sayin’ is that the type of attraction I felt for this body type was similar to PMO while for other body types, it wasn’t.And now what you seem to say is that the “PMO lust” I feel for curvy bodies = my authentic libido ? That it’s normal that I feel an “uncomfortable” arousal with that ?
 
Mister Fire said:
I’ve had a long enough streak to differentiate my authentic libido from my PMO lust.What I’m sayin’ is that the type of attraction I felt for this body type was similar to PMO while for other body types, it wasn’t.And now what you seem to say is that the “PMO lust” I feel for curvy bodies = my authentic libido ? That it’s normal that I feel an “uncomfortable” arousal with that ?
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That's interesting. Only you know how you feel. If you need to avoid certain body types then that might be the answer. Is there a practical way to do this? If not the next best thing might be to work through the issues that induce that lust. I dont have solid "do this" type advice for this problem.
 
Max Fisher said:
That's interesting. Only you know how you feel. If you need to avoid certain body types then that might be the answer. Is there a practical way to do this? If not the next best thing might be to work through the issues that induce that lust. I dont have solid "do this" type advice for this problem.
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Except I think that libido works the same in all men ‘cause it’s just fucking nature.Therefore, since you don’t seem to have the same issue as me, I wanna know how well you’ve mastered NoFap.What is your current streak and what is your highest one?
 
Mister Fire said:
Except I think that libido works the same in all men ‘cause it’s just fucking nature.Therefore, since you don’t seem to have the same issue as me, I wanna know how well you’ve mastered NoFap.What is your current streak and what is your highest one?
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I havent mastered NoFap. My current streak is 70 days and my highest is 75. I dont know why you are getting defensive. I am very attracted to curvy women. I dont feel like its PMO lust, but it does feel overwhelming at times and distracting. The physical reactions you are describing are not something I have felt around women with body types I am strongly attracted to. To me they seem more like stress of some kind. I dont even get those reactions with porn. Maybe its anxiety...I'm not sure.
 
I don't see why being sexually aroused, even to a high degree, to curvy women is a problem. What is a problem if you feel anxiety along with your arousal, because that's not pleasant and bad for your health in the long term, cause I've heard there's lots of them sexy foxes out there. I'd say you experience anxiety (especially referring to the fast heartbeat and sweaty palm, dry mouth) because you associate that intense arousal with relapsing. And that makes you scared of yourself.

I think, and I know I'm gonna get yelled at from all sides again for suggesting that but I'll still do it because I know it will work, you should retrain yourself by looking at pictures of curvy women. Obviously not with the intention to pleasure yourself, but to first observe your reactions towards the image and then slowly start to gain control over them. Relax yourself, take small steps. Make your psyche understand that it's ok to feel aroused by hot women and that you're still in control and you're not robbed of your free will. Nothing can force your hand, no matter how hot they look.
If you do that for maybe a minute or so a day you should get gradually get better.
 
ZenAF said:
I don't see why being sexually aroused, even to a high degree, to curvy women is a problem. What is a problem if you feel anxiety along with your arousal, because that's not pleasant and bad for your health in the long term, cause I've heard there's lots of them sexy foxes out there. I'd say you experience anxiety (especially referring to the fast heartbeat and sweaty palm, dry mouth) because you associate that intense arousal with relapsing. And that makes you scared of yourself.

I think, and I know I'm gonna get yelled at from all sides again for suggesting that but I'll still do it because I know it will work, you should retrain yourself by looking at pictures of curvy women. Obviously not with the intention to pleasure yourself, but to first observe your reactions towards the image and then slowly start to gain control over them. Relax yourself, take small steps. Make your psyche understand that it's ok to feel aroused by hot women and that you're still in control and you're not robbed of your free will. Nothing can force your hand, no matter how hot they look.
If you do that for maybe a minute or so a day you should get gradually get better.
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Maybe, except:

1) Then why not "retrain myself" by watching p subs without the "intention to pleasure myself" ? Why would it be different in that case ? Especially if you consider the fact that the arousal I get from those chicks is quite similar to a p sub (like I've mentionned).

2) I truely appreciate the fact that you're tryin' to help me and shit, that's awesome.But I dunno if, regarding this particular issue, I should take advice from someone who still does MO.God knows what you're jerking off to.

3) I don't have a problem with getting aroused by hot women, not even a little.In fact, I like to embrace my sexuality.The problem is that level of arousal which I've only experienced with p subs and curvy chicks for some reason.
 
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Mister Fire said:
Maybe, except:

1) Then why not "retrain myself" by watching p subs without the "intention to pleasure myself" ? Why would it be different in that case ? Especially if you consider the fact that the arousal I get from those chicks is quite similar to a p sub (like I've mentionned).

2) I truely appreciate the fact that you're tryin' to help me and shit, that's awesome.But I dunno if, regarding this particular issue, I should take advice from someone who still does MO.God knows what you're jerking off to.

3) I don't have a problem with getting aroused by hot women, not even a little.In fact, I like to embrace my sexuality.The problem is that level of arousal which I've only experienced with p subs and curvy chicks for some reason.
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I'm not jerking off to anything but my fantasy. And I'm not jerking off much at all anyway cause I'm lucky to be in a good relationship.

The difference between watching porn and looking at a clothed hot girl should be obvious. The ladder you'll find everywhere, walking on the street, printed on big ad-posters at a mall.

Anyways, I understand that you're suspicious of the advice that's given around here. But considering how you react towards me and @Max Fisher I feel like you're a tad too harsh. You're not paying for advice, so even if you'd wish a particular type of addict would respond to you you're not really in the position to ask for that. Of course you can ask question about whoever gives you advice to have a clearer picture, but be careful to dismiss people before you even got to know them.
 
Mister Fire said:
I’ve had a long enough streak to differentiate my authentic libido from my PMO lust.What I’m sayin’ is that the type of attraction I felt for this body type was similar to PMO while for other body types, it wasn’t.And now what you seem to say is that the “PMO lust” I feel for curvy bodies = my authentic libido ? That it’s normal that I feel an “uncomfortable” arousal with that ?
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Hey im new to NoFap and all, but i read the getting started with NoFap guide thoroughly, and i think what youre experiencing is a good thing. That you start to feel the attraction to real people instead of craving pixels on a screen, thats the point of NoFap. Body types that you naturally prefer wouldnt necessarily be porn induced, mainly fetishes and the extremeness of sexual intercourse thag you wish to have with someone are porn induced. Once again im not a professional, but i would go back and read your getting Started with NoFap guide again.
 
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