Dangers of fantasising about her

I've encountered this a few times in the past year or so.

I'll meet a girl whilst rebooting, and in between dates, I'll substitute my P habit by thinking of her in a sexual way, which has lead to a relapse.

I can be blind to realise that though my intentions are just and I'm respectful of the woman in my fantasy, considering her pleasure, it lead to further frustration during times when we must remove temptation from our thoughts.

I believe that to truly be in touch with your intimate thoughts, as I combat my on/off performance anxiety, one must remove all temptation from their path, so as to not confuse our minds with varying types of arousal.

If humans could only have sex on particular days of the year, and the options of consuming sexual media, novels and whatnot were not available, we would not have an issue of understanding our feelings, bodies, while interconnected with our minds so much.

It's because sex is everywhere in society that we are faced with more temptation to have it on our minds, which can control us.

 

I didn't mean literally.

What I was getting at was, if, as humans, sex was something that we didn't have the option of thinking about more than necessary, then we wouldn't have a problem with how we frame it in our lives.

Thus, by not thinking about it too much, we can help combat our minds pollution via various forms of media that all scream for you to think about sex, even if for a brief moment.

I actually believe that I have a safeguard that prevents me from getting too deep with media, but its the temptation that is the hardest to resist, as I know how easy and accessible it is to PMO.

Think about it.

Our ancestors didn't have this much access to sexually provocative materials. It's messed us up.