Dating Advice: Hayley Quinn

I guess you mean good, but I think it would be better to not post dating advices on nofapcom, even if it´s useful per se. Many people, correcting, almost all people here want to take a step back and take a vacation from dating, sex and everything that comes with it. It´s kind of like an advice how to mix your alcohol when you want to get off from the addiction.

 

You are right, I shouldn´t bother giving advice to people who don´t want to listen.

 

Man wtf I can literally fap to the thumbnail of the second vid... triggers please we are trying to do smth here on nofap!

 

You seem frustrated. My methapor wasn´t the best but also not a long shot away from what I wanted to deliver.
As we already determined we disagree on most accounts.
But since you seem like a rather logical individual you may want to reconsider your statement about triggers.
Exposing yourself to the drug, no I am not talking about your videos, will not make things better.

I guess overall understanding of neurological pathways in the brain is needed. It´s pretty simple. The brain uses the pathways that are most enforced and used. The more you use them, the more they become enforced and the longer they needed to fade away. If you try to expose yourself to the triggers, alias some of these neurological pathways, and hope your willpower will withstand, in the best case you achieve nothing and in the worst case a relapse.

Evading the drug you are addicted to is not a bad plan. And triggers do go away, you just need to enforce other pathways inside the brain, other thoughts and thoughtpatterns until they are more prominent than the pornthoughts.

Try to be a bit more understanding of others, not everyone has the same startingpoint as you, others may be worse off, psychologically and in relation to the addiction.

Well, I just wasted some time, as my advice isn´t welcome but don´t worry, I won´t write here again.
Au revoir.

 

Uhm, I don't wanna kill myself, thank you.
I'm a man and I have sexual desires towards women. I'm biologically programmed that way.
I'm no pervert if I want a relationship.
I'm being authentic.
And honest with myself.

I don't see my future girlfriend as a crutch to lean on, in the future, nor do I see her as a distraction from fap.
I see her as the right stuff in my life, when I'm ready.

And I'm pretty ready.

 

Many of us here, myself included, started pmoing because of the lack of success and confidence around women so posting these videos should be the norm and encouraged around here. The opposite of pmoing alone is to interact with real people and to fulfill our sexual needs and desires with a fellow person.

Videos like these are for someone like me who avoided the dating world because of confidence issues that were amplified tremendously with pmo use. While they may not help you they are a major contributor to improving my life and to help me get over this addiction.

Don't like it, don't watch it and I agree about the trigger thing too. I totally get the trigger thing, I do, but at some fucking point we need to stop objectifying women. What I think about when I see women in revealing clothing is that while they may want the attention they sure as fuck didn't dress like that to get random guys to have sexual thoughts about them for their "spank banks" to jerk off to later on. I bet if you told a girl that ("hey I love how low cut that top is, I'm gonna jerk off thinking about those puppies later today") she'd not only be creeped out but might report you to someone depending where it would be at, say work or school.

All about the learning process boys, if some random pic of an attractive girl triggers you it's time to start doing some self reflecting.