Hi! So I managed to create many date oportunities with females from Tinder. Ive been to lets say 15 dates since this new year. Many times, I did not feel much attraction to them, but sometimes I did, and I was never able to seal the deal. Im 36yo. Now... last two girls told me the same thing, and I guess this is the reason behind my low success rate /its not only sex/ One I was interrested in slightly, other I was not interrested but it doesnt matter. One told me she want to feel the man really wants her. 2nd wrote to me that "im used to to guys being more vigorous than you and you did not communicate the msg well enough". I asked"you mean I should be more direct in letting you know I like you, and more vigorous to initialize some physical contact? She said: Vigorous - maybe more like audacious more like effusive. And yes, pretty much that. NOW On my dates, I take it like this... I want to have good time, we walk places, we talk... I feel COMPLETELY at ease, and confident, Im not scared, nothing like that. I hold conversations effortlessly, and there no cringe to that. It flows from start to end, always. And my dates flow as well. I know in that, Im really good. BUT I think I leave this impression on girls, like this two said to me. I think its BECAUSE To me, it never worked to show much interrest in the girls, than they lost interrest in me. So I just show MYSELF, how I am etc, and see if they want next date, and they most likely DO NOT. LOL!!!!!!!!!!! Also she wrote: Im just confused when I have a man who does not show some over confidence. Cause if you were that kind of a guy I would have been straightforward with you and be pretty bossy or whatever but since you are not, it confuses me a little. I wrote: Im pretty confident about myself, but I dont want a sex on a 1st date, thats why I did not force it upon you, but thanks for letting me know. She: I dont accept sex on a 1st date, you misunderstood or I was not clear enough... Bla bla, but u get the idea, I hope. Anyway, She wanted to see me and talk about it in person, very swiftly, and I refused because NOW I dont want to and want to think about it more. So I said we can meet during the week because reasons. Whatever. She will meet me, so I can dig more info from her But do you guys and girls have any opinion on this? Im pretty upset honestly. And I just want to call this dating BS over, but I will not. Just theres so much I would like to say about it, but I will not make this thread too loong and too many topics. Lets do it, thanks!