Dating an older woman

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by wethebest, Oct 14, 2018.

  1. wethebest

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    So I will not bore you w details. But I ran into this gal who I'm talking to. It's not serious, bc we haven't seen each other that much and were talking to eachother.

    A cretain series of events came to light in which she would be older. Basically I'm in college and she graduated from ucla or someplace on the west coast somewhat recently. Doing rough calculations, she would be 24-ish and I'm 21. The oldest girl I've dated was like 1.5-2 yrs older.

    Keep in mind that I don't have anything against this, but I feel like it's a different playing ground. Like for example, she's older. Does she like to drink and go out or smoke weed? From what I've talked to her so far we got lots in common and flirt/talk often.

    Some people are telling me it's strange, red flags, etc. Some are saying to smash&bail. But I'm going on a date w her, we seem to have a good deal in common. And I'm trying to stop this, but I find myself thinking about her throughout the day. Does anybody have experience? Bc I also feel like it could be just like dating some girl my age, w/o the drama/hoe-ish behavior
     
  2. wethebest

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    Another example, she's older. On our date would we do seperate checks or old fashioned me pay (I don't have an issue w either). It's just a different culture
     
  3. Burrich1

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    Bro, 3 or 4 years makes absolutely no difference in as far as you guys being from a different culture once your in your 20’s. For the most part, You guys both grew up listening to the same music on the radio, the same movies, witnessed the same events in the news. You will have no problem making small talk and finding common ground in your conversations. Now as far as going Dutch or you paying, you younger kids have totally different rules about that. I would offer and if she declines it, no worries. Pretty much any girl I’ve met under 32 though prefers to pay her own way, but that’s just this old mans experience.
     
  4. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Oldest gal I dated was 15 years my senior. I enjoyed it.
     
  5. 4DCreator

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    You pay for both ..There is no problem to date a bit older woman if you don't feel like it is your mother :D Also before you go on any dating study please "narcissistic peronality disordered woman" before you get caught into some sexual daemon ..That's much more dangerous evil than fapping and porn. Trust me. Poeple with addictive personality, as we fappers are, are most likely to attract some evil woman with this sad and dangerous disorder! Good luck to you
     
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  6. Jason_Tesla_19

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    3 years is nothing. It might seem like a lot now, but it's not.

    Also, someone being 24ish doesn't mean they won't have drama or hoe-ish behavior. Even a woman at 34 could have drama or hoe-ish behavior, and someone a couple years younger than you might not have drama or hoe-ish behavior. It depends on the woman in question. Just because someone is older than you doesn't mean they're more mature than you, and just because someone is younger than you doesn't mean they're less mature than you.
     
  7. Meditation Monk

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    Lmao, you call that old? Sorry but it doesn't count. It is only 3 years apart. I am 29 years old and I never dated before or been in relationships, and you know what? I am cool with that. I have my own set of problems to deal with IMO and dating doesn't do for me. I do not want to discuss topics I already know about such as the weather, what kind of food you like, etc. I am more of an introvert and laid back person and I have always enjoyed the solitude. If you REALLY want to date older women I suggest you sign up on eharmony. lol. But anyways, I wish you good luck in your relationship.
     
  8. Toomuchh

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    T.T this makes me feel old. If you like her, her age shouldn't matter. 3 years isn't a big age difference.
     
  9. torrace

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    My wife is 3 years my senior. Honestly when I am with her, I don't feel the age gap. If both of you can get along and there's mutual feelings, I would recommend for you to go for it. Unless you have serious reservations about age then best for you just to let it go.
     
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  10. Srisurya

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    suffered from a narcissist gf of 1 year relationship and now i am recovering from it. been 9 months from breakup. still rebuilding what all lost. worst trama bond.
     
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  11. 4DCreator

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    I feel for you man. I was in such a relationship for nearly 7 years. Already 2 years free but trauma bond is still around 90 percent..mostly because of porn and fapping.
     
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  12. lamstronger

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    I have the same issue now. I'm 22 and started to like this 25 year old. Don't know how should I pursue this.
     
  13. RamboErecto

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    Dating a girl older than you? sweet man
     
  14. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Hot older milf chics are not sexually starving, thats for sure.
     
  15. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Yeah, the milf bartender I know whose husband of 20 years left her already has a new boyfriend.
     
  16. RamboErecto

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    Even if not a milf, still nice.

    Sweet man, sweet
     
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  17. Castielle

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    Same, almost. I dated a guy 14 years older than me once. He was closer to my mom's age than mine. But if everything else was great, then I wouldnt have cared at all about that.
     
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  18. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Seriously milfs don't have any problems catching men. You'd have to be queer to say no.
     
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  19. MetaGame

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    Age has little to do with maturity especially these days. I think you will find that a few years of college are just that. The older u get is the more these tiny years dont matter. My gf is 26 and acts like a 19 year old. I am 30 and i act like I am 35 so ... Dont over think it. Enjoy ur date. Sure women a little older may have a bit more baggage but they can also have more strength and experience. Don't be afraid to step up to the plate and deal with reasonable stuff but if u see any red flags then re-evaluate or discuss it with her.

    She might be thinking maybe ur too young and will act like a kid or do something immature like 'smash and bail'. Smash and bail is a dumb college idea and does not work out as intended in like the history of douche guys lol so gl .
     
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  20. ForABetterLife20

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    Take all this advice seriously. I got nothing to add.
    My gf is more than a year and a half older than I, but it just doesn't matter. Just keep your head on your shoulders.
     
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