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Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Hardmode-Monk, Jun 30, 2019.

  1. Hardmode-Monk

    Hardmode-Monk Fapstronaut

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    I today made it to two weeks hardmode. But then I downloaded grindr. I 2as talking to a trans woman. We agreed to meet up, I then showed up and then purchased a gift card and then I was stood up.

    I then hit up a crossdresser and had sex. I feel very horrible afterward. My sex cravings got so strong that i paid for an uber, got swindled, and i has sex with a crossdresser.

    I honestly feel really stupid for wasting money, time, and I just sent myself back to square one. I just can't seem to deal with these cravings. I consider myself straight, but when I am sexually pent up I then start making decisions I normally don't make.

    Any advice would be helpful. Thanks for reading.
     
  2. Reborn16

    Reborn16 Fapstronaut

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    This is what gets me and many others too. Than pent up sexual energy a few weeks into a reboot.

    First thing, all the advice says to not get too down on yourself after a lapse - it's happened and you just have to take what you can from it.

    I have a pattern of going a few weeks, getting really interested in dating but not getting anywhere, then going to porn to at least get some satisfaction. But this of course gives me brain fog and takes away confidence, meaning I'm even less likely to date girls... A vicious cycle.

    The irony is, despite being on No-'Fap', it's actually a good idea to choose to just masturbate, before things get out of hand (didn't even see that pun coming).

    It is my understanding that this would only be an issue if one was addicted to masturbation as well. But if porn is the real thing you want to get away from - then this is the ideal alternative.

    Think of it this way: Say you fap every 2 weeks. In 90 days that's only 6 times! You'll still get amazing benefits staying on track that way. Then you'll be in a clear mindset to look for a partner that you truly value.
     
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