Dating apps

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Hitto, Oct 11, 2017.

  1. Hitto

    Hitto Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys I need your help I'm debating going back on tinder for the past two weekends I went back on it but I felt really shallow for using and got almost a similar rush when I use to watch porn but not as intense lol I'm going on 180 days and before that was off of it for like 3 months. I wanna start dating or having more interactions with women but I don't want just a quick fix or casual sex I feel very conflicted as to what to do lol I have used tinder in the past but with no success I asked one girl out gave her my number but she said she didn't want to keep someone's number if the date didn't go well so I asked her and she gave a very tentative answer I logged out and a couples of days later I saw that she wanted to go to thru with the date but at the point it was too late and I didn't want to go out on a date unless it was definite and she had my number lol I still struggle with finding women to talk to unless I go out with friends and some are in relationships and don't always go out when I hit them up or just flake so right now I don't know what to do should I just keep doing what I was doing before any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
     
  2. Karimtolstoi

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    I might not help you but I would recommend you to move from tinder and the like cause women there are overloaded woth male requests. So statically speaking there is little chance to take conversation with someone and if you do it you cant easily know why she is looking for. Sometimes women in those apps are just looking for validation from unknown people while they have an intimate life with someone else.
     
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  3. Opportunity For Better

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    Dating apps--and especially Tinder--are dopamine-factories, because it's a near-endless source of novelty. Swipe, swipe, swipe--it's woman after woman after woman. Plus you're on the hunt for the ones that show more cleavage or whatever to stimulate your sexual arousal, which offers more dopamine.

    I think it's a major obstacle for anyone who wants to reset. If you want female interaction, join a hobby group or a site like Meetup and go hang out with them as a friend.
     
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  4. Hitto

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    I have seen that some do seek validation on that site and most of the convos do go nowhere but I guess it's not worth the hassle thank you
     
  5. Hitto

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    You're right I did feel very shallow while using it and the endless swipe is no different from porn I went without for 3 months and was fine so I'll try something new I never thought of trying meetup.com on the hobby aspect that I'm still working on something so I guess I should expand myself to different things thanks bro I'll figure it out even though my brain wants to tell me otherwise lol but in my heart and soul and from the help of the man above anything is possible
     
  6. lamstronger

    lamstronger Fapstronaut

    At a moment of weakness I created tinder for like the thousandth time. Atm I talking to a really nice girl I met there, so I don't know, if this works, i won't use it again. As an introverted person with headphones on all the time, I don't get to talk to girls that much:D
     
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  7. Hitto

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    I notice I'm introverted in some aspects but often I realize that some of the women on these apps are bored and just need attention and validation lol like I've been getting a lot of matches in the past and none would respond or the conversation goes nowhere I would rather be able to read the persons body language so I know I'm not wasting my time lol
     
  8. I met my girlfriend on Tinder. And I can honestly say that it's probably not the best platform to meet women but it definitely works. My rule of thumb is, if a girl is reluctant to give me her phone number especially after talking for a few days I would cut her off immediately. The last thing you wanna do is cater to this women for her emotional needs but she doesn't want to actually meet up. If you pull back and talk to other broads, you will realize that she might actually give you her number because you probably stand out from all the other dudes she talks to.
     
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  9. so true
     

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