DATING IN 20'S VS 30',40's......................

jackcruiser800

jackcruiser800

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hey guys , i am 22 and very much confused that should i start my dating journey or not as i am preparing for jobs.

Guys can you tell me pls whats dating in your 30's and 40's is like and how much different is it from the 20's, so i can get to know about the future and take necessary actions .
I think i am holding back dating excusing time only for career .
I would appreciate every reply from every aged guys as it would open me to newer perspectives . I am very much in need for your thoughts guys :-)
 
Well the older u get the harder it might get to meet the women u want,what is left are single moms, women with baggage damaged emotionally etc. Older woman want stability, so u gotta have a carreer and money like car and home. If u are rich doesnt matter what age u are u will always find women, just look at jeff bezos, trump and successfull actors etc. Read rationale male book, women at different age want different things.
 
nfpexperiment said:
Build ur career and some success, keep ur body and mind fit, this is better than being a brokie and out of shape obese.
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I am now tired of only focusing on career. I don't want to be lonely forever. As i am 22 already i don't have a single relationship in my life . I don't care about my career i just want a gf . I want to be loved too.
 
nfpexperiment said:
Well the older u get the harder it might get to meet the women u want,what is left are single moms, women with baggage damaged emotionally etc. Older woman want stability, so u gotta have a carreer and money like car and home. If u are rich doesnt matter what age u are u will always find women, just look at jeff bezos, trump and successfull actors etc. Read rationale male book, women at different age want different things.
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So i should try to date as much girls as possible then ,,ok thx man bout that book this may change my life
 
It is so much different that I cannot even grasp it. When I was 22 I was straggling to date after many many attempts I finally had one girlfriend for a short time who was very low quality (I mean not just look, but also education/family/backround/inteligence) and I was totally excited that I made it finally.
Fast forward 12 years, I am dating (read fucking) now 4 top woman at the same time (only if my libido would be better to make it easier to juggle them).

But how it ends up really depend on you. If you just keep playing computer games at home, with shitty job, not very social, with deteriorated appearance your opportunities will be about the same.
However if you sort your education, career, you keep fit, that will all add to your confidence + bonus if start to identify your weaknesses and work on them, miracles will happen on the dating market.
 
It's nice that you're asking the question. I may come back and write more later, but the first thing that comes to mind is just what are you like and what are you looking for personally? Aside from age there are other things, and a market framework is not the only way to look at it. At the end of the day there are just individual differences, not everything can be generalized or reduced to a handful of criteria.

The fact that you're asking for different perspectives is great though just one part of it. On this forum a lot of people seem to be keen on approaching things from a certain kind of system perspective, but the thing with that is if you meet someone that can't be explained or processed from that perspective you will either not be able to make sense of it, and more importantly how they might fit or not in terms of a relationship. Even if that is enough to make sense of most people it kind of pretty much rules out the more extraordinary people, or if there's some part of them that can be measured that way people might end up focusing on that and miss who the rest of the person is and not be able to appreciate them.

And, people may essentially be doing that to themselves and not be able to appreciate all of who they themselves are. There may be "success" in the "game" but it may pretty much be unsatisfying at the end of the day, which just makes people want more.

And, wanting more is rather close to addiction in the first place.
 
JustinX said:
It is so much different that I cannot even grasp it. When I was 22 I was straggling to date after many many attempts I finally had one girlfriend for a short time who was very low quality (I mean not just look, but also education/family/backround/inteligence) and I was totally excited that I made it finally.
Fast forward 12 years, I am dating (read fucking) now 4 top woman at the same time (only if my libido would be better to make it easier to juggle them).

But how it ends up really depend on you. If you just keep playing computer games at home, with shitty job, not very social, with deteriorated appearance your opportunities will be about the same.
However if you sort your education, career, you keep fit, that will all add to your confidence + bonus if start to identify your weaknesses and work on them, miracles will happen on the dating market.
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Thank you for motivational words.
Hey bro btw in our 30s do we have the energy like we had in our 20s? I even wonder what would happen to my testosterone,libido levels at my 30s,and 40s. That is why i am also stressed out so much on making as much gfs in my 20s.
 
DeepRecovery said:
It's nice that you're asking the question. I may come back and write more later, but the first thing that comes to mind is just what are you like and what are you looking for personally? Aside from age there are other things, and a market framework is not the only way to look at it. At the end of the day there are just individual differences, not everything can be generalized or reduced to a handful of criteria.

The fact that you're asking for different perspectives is great though just one part of it. On this forum a lot of people seem to be keen on approaching things from a certain kind of system perspective, but the thing with that is if you meet someone that can't be explained or processed from that perspective you will either not be able to make sense of it, and more importantly how they might fit or not in terms of a relationship. Even if that is enough to make sense of most people it kind of pretty much rules out the more extraordinary people, or if there's some part of them that can be measured that way people might end up focusing on that and miss who the rest of the person is and not be able to appreciate them.

And, people may essentially be doing that to themselves and not be able to appreciate all of who they themselves are. There may be "success" in the "game" but it may pretty much be unsatisfying at the end of the day, which just makes people want more.

And, wanting more is rather close to addiction in the first place.
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Thank for those words .
So i should do what i want right now right?
 
jackcruiser800 said:
Thank for those words .
So i should do what i want right now right?
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Well, yes but with a very important caveat: Also know why you want what you want, and as much as possible the person you're dating. Not only do we each continue to grow, at a certain point the partnership has a life of its own too, and it only makes sense to have a handle on ourselves so as to know how the relationship itself is progressing.
 
jackcruiser800 said:
Hey bro btw in our 30s do we have the energy like we had in our 20s? I even wonder what would happen to my testosterone,libido levels at my 30s,and 40s. That is why i am also stressed out so much on making as much gfs in my 20s.
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They’ll probably stay at good levels if you eat well and stay fit. That’s the key. They may drop a bit but it won’t hold you back.
 
jackcruiser800 said:
Thank you for motivational words.
Hey bro btw in our 30s do we have the energy like we had in our 20s? I even wonder what would happen to my testosterone,libido levels at my 30s,and 40s. That is why i am also stressed out so much on making as much gfs in my 20s.
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I would say that my testosterone level is as high as ever was, definitely much higher then when I was 20 (not sure if it is really true but it definitely feels like it).
Libido hard to say because it has been crippled by porn. If I am off of the PMO it is damn high. If I am on PMO is damn low.
 
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