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Dating in general. NoFap or not.

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Solidstate75, Aug 18, 2020.

  1. Solidstate75

    Solidstate75 Fapstronaut

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    So I recently stopped "dating" a woman. We both got a little miffed at each other and had been seeing each other about 6mos and not formally but Im a little older so exclusivity just at my age becomes mentally understood. With that,I feel Ive almost to the point of the spectrum in my life where I will notcare fordating at all anymore. Especially nowadays.
    I think that porn has ruined dating almost more than social media has and that says a lot. What porn doesnt ruin,one only need to get on a site where someones basically conditioned to think that people are like cheap t shirts. Toss them out when your done with them and go to your local cheap store and get another. Better yet,order it online. Younger generations are being lied to and sold short I feel on what they should expect from the world around them. I worry about any society that allows this,cheap,disposable mindset to grow and flourish- and value it-along with commodifying it. It will take very little time before you are a prisoner of your own means much like many of us feel here.

    Ive been around porn,an friends w/ people in that industry for years off and on and I feel the best way to date at times is to not date. To go about my life and focus on enjoying this gift we all have and to improve it myself and be a better person myself. Yet- I am human,I get lonely. Emotional hurt is something Ive known from a young age and is almost like a faceless friend and not in a bad way. Things that help me to achieve my own journeys goals while including this sites goals are no social media,diet,gym regime an being active in general. I live rather spartan but am very functional,oprational and utilitarian. I have ability where some may not. I know the value of this and am thankfull for it. This rantisnt a menvs women or modern day vs older(Im not olld old lol) but rather acritque on a method or tool for interaction and dating. Nowadays it seems you go from one relationship to the next and if you look at it a lot of rootcausescan beseen in social media "campaigns" or nlp style marketing moreso now than ever. Ive almost given up because I feel anyone Id meet would be affected the same whether they know it or not. This has nothing to do w/ your political leanings or non, or faith or non or race or gendor or sexual preference but what can be seen as a divisive tool being used. Not to say good things cant come from it. This site is a great example.
    While I may say/and feel these things I want to say this to the younger ones here as Ive seen a lot of sadness here,and an older me can understand and see it moreso now,to that I say--
    Live. Date and connect!!! Do not rely on a platform. Rely on interaction wherever it may be(keep it healthy) and take the step to be physically social. You are your master. I make it a point to be social outside of work and when I fight my bitterness against dating,or the physical pain that lonlieness brings it inspires me to not give in and give up. Thats very hard at times and Im very outgoing.There was a post on here about lonlieness and dating and I feel that they can be the same but the beauty is recognizing the beauty of our human condition and experience first. We are all human. Have blood,a heart(whether somemay not think so or not lol) breathe air and need water...even the gamers who live off of monsters and cigarettes. Its then and truly then we will be able to really know and value ourselves and others in and around this. It is really just that simple I feel. You are more than an individual in front of a screen. You are more than likes or dislikes and you are more than a commodity. See yourself as such and embrace that power which is rightfully yours.
     

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