Dating is not worth it(opinion)

Its Ok man, rejection is part of life.

 

In my opinion one of the most important things in NoFap is to avoid the negativity spiral, ie a situation where negativity piles on top of negativity and you start to feel worse and worse. The feelings of rejection and loneliness are a big part of this, it hurts to be alone, God knows I can relate, but you cant allow yourself to wallow in these feelings otherwise you will get pulled in by the current. Keep your mind and body occupied, stop beating yourself up over the past, and focus on making the future a better place than the present.

 

Good for you, its important to feel happy in yourself before you try to pursue a relationship.

 

I’m female and while you may not believe it dating sucks for us too. We get rejected we get used, we get dumped and heart broken, but that’s all part of life and the more you live life the better you will understand it. My first heartbreak was in college and it felt like the end of the world, surely it would never get better. But it did. The happiness that love brings you is worth the potential pain but you do have to risk yourself to gain a reward. Get your reboot done, get your mind in check and then get back out there. Don’t let fear of pain mean you let your life pass you by. There is a partner out there for you but if you are not looking you will never find her. And it may mean going on many many horrible dates but if that’s what it takes go for it.

 

I don't date at the moment, because I don't believe that a relationship is something that makes me happy. I am talking to girls, I don't care if they reject me or not, I guess being an introvert and going to the gym made me immune to peoples' opinion

 

I think that’s perfectly okay, and don’t let people tell you otherwise. I was single for a large part of my life, and those were some of the best times. But people would constantly try to marry me off of judge me for not having a partner. Do what makes you happy.

 

I’m at a crossroads myself. Dating is easy. Finding the one is hard. The process wears you out. It becomes another job. I don’t want to be celibate my whole life but I’m not destroying my sense of self worth and esteem for anybody. I’d rather be celibate and happy than married and miserable.

 

I’ve been celibate since college in terms of penetrative intercourse. I have orgasmed via manual release via myself as well as women. No oral. I’ve used my fingers to pleasure women. I believe penetrative intercourse should be reserved for married couples. Taking showers, sleeping nude together, etc are all fine to me. Might seem crazy to some.

 

By manual I mean HJ

 

ive decided to go MGTOW (man gone their own way no point bothering yourself with women who age like meat while men age like wine. The MGTOW philosophy demands that i improve myself as a man acheive the greatest possible goals acheivable have sex with as many women as i choose on my own terms. because success brings women. money brings ladies. so why waste your time chasing them when you can put your effort in acquiring resources to enable women chase you

 

I have that problem too but life begins out of your comfort zone very cliche and I'm learning different things and trying different things learning more about myself and who I am you can't really be hung up on what others think it's a waste of emotional energy

 

lol same here but I have been gonna to the gym for years NoFap really skyrocketed said attitude

 

I find dating useless. Going to pick up women on the street is needy and superficial in my opinion. Dating on tinder is horrible. Don't be a pussy addicted Mofo. Be your own boss. Don't show any interest in women, and don't have any interest in women. Then women will have interest in you.

 

My philosophy is that someone rejects me for the same reason I reject someone else. They wouldn't be a good match for me.

Introvert pride! I also feel that a relationship with an extrovert would be harder since they don't understand our need for recharge time.