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Dating older women?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Adopted, Oct 27, 2017.

  1. Adopted

    Adopted Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys

    Needles to say, my favorite porn category was milfs. I always liked older women, their looks, the way they talk and live their life. I always felt comfortable in company of woman in her 30-40 and I believe they liked me too.
    I met this woman recently, on a chatting app in my country. She was talking to me like she was texting her son or whatever. But when she found out I am not a boy" and actually how mature I am, she liked it and by that time, our conversation was more personal.

    Meanwhile I was talking to girl in my age (22) and compared it to the conversation with that older woman (40).

    I found out how nice and pleasant is talking to her and how she attracts me more than girls in my age, I just see them as dubm kids. Older women has some kind of magic inside, which young girls havent

    I never had problems with girls, I have loving family and everything is just fine.

    So why is this happening? Shouldnt I be attracted to girls of my age?
     
  2. FriendlyCanadian

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    Age is just a number when people are adults. Be attracted to who you want to be attracted to.
     
  3. Reborn16

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    I think it's good, have a bit of fun and get some life experience :)

    Older women are usually more relaxed about things like this, and they play less games.
     
  4. mcgrim

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    As stated earlier age is just a number. If you are both compatible and both ok with the age difference then why not.
     
  5. Gotham Outlaw

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    I was in a similar situation. How long since the last time you looked at porn? I noticed that I was finding girls my age attractive again. I still have a preference for older girls, but only 2 or 3 years older. I would also say that calling women our age dumb kids isn't a good mentality to have. I would say their interests are superficial eg Snapchat, Instagram, etc. You may find yourself very attracted to a woman who isn't older, but she presents herself to be mature for her age. I'd like to hear how your perceptions change as you go through your journey.
     
  6. lamstronger

    lamstronger Fapstronaut

    The difference would be too much for me, but it is fine in general. Be with someone, who makes you happy.
     
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  7. Adopted

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    Well, I am going on date with 40 year old woman tomorrow...so..yeah. It'll be fun I guess :D . Wish me luck
     
  8. mcgrim

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  9. That's so funny you say that. Milf porn was my go to category as well from a young age. I even slept with a 46 year old few years ago and i thought she was so hot. My girlfriend says it stems from my "mommy issues" I had a bad relationship with my mom growing up and maybe subconsciously wanted someone to understand me on a deeper level. Older broads can do that for you. Maybe, I'm reaching but either way there's nothing wrong with who you're attracted I'm attracted to women of all ages.
     
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  10. gingeralan

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    just make sure you love the real person there, and it's not just a manifestation of your PMO preferences. If you are just going out with older women to fulfil that MILF fantasy of yours is probably not great. But if you meet her and get along like a house on fire then great.
     
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  11. Adopted

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    update:

    We had a call before our meeting, just to confirm where and when. But then she start talking: Are you sure? Won't you be stressed? We can cancel if you want and so on.

    After that I realized she is saying this, because she's not really into it. So after the call, I just messaged her I understand her feelings and if she's not feeling it, I'm totally ok to cancel it. (Tbh our date idea was kind of sudden and impulsive, so maybe she got scared (= she realized), and she hoped I will cancel it first.)

    I think she liked the feeling of being attractive for young man, all the nice words and so, but that's it.

    She replied "we don't know each other" and "We are probably both looking for something different."

    So I told her the thing I looked for was to meet her and to know her, but what she is looking for is unkown for me.

    All of the sudden, she replied: "Ok, so let's meet."

    At this point, I just lost my interest and told her I wanted to meet her because I find her nice and to spend a good day with her, not because to fulfill some sudden plan at all cost.

    She then wrote me when she is free and when she is busy so I can contact her.

    I told her I appreciate her interest but I am looking for someone with stable opinion.


    Am I mad at her? No.
    Am I mad at myself? No.
    Am I disappointed? Still no.

    I am actually thankful it ended like this. Why? It helped me to accept my decisions and not to regret the bad ones. (more in reply to Rick C-137)
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    You are right, it's more about her interests, not age, the key is maturity. I thought all older women are more stable and know what they want (I took it as an unwritten rule you can apply to any older woman)
    I find young girls attractive, I also find older women attractive, so my tase in women is still same.

    One of things that changed during my journey is perception of woman in general. I don't see them as "oh, she is too old, I should not date her." but more as "Is she interesting? Is she nice? Is she attractive?" And if I like her, it's all about me, not friends, or family who would think I am freak.

    So I guess nofap learned me to stop give a shit and start doing what I want. I realized it's all in your hands. Talking to older woman taught me I have full control of my life. It boosted my confidence in all aspects, not only dating. If you want to achieve something, go ahead and try. It won't be always successful but experience makes the path. I gained an experience I can apply later in my life.
     
    Last edited: Nov 4, 2017
  12. Reborn16

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    In my opinion, her giving light excuses not to meet and asking if you want to cancel, sounds to me like the usual tests. Older women seem to do shit tests less, but they can do them all the same, though they are more elegant in their delivery to be fair.

    Of course I may have this wrong, you may just not want the usual BS tests along with a first date, in which case yes keep going and wait for a better date :)
     

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