Dating question

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Temujin, May 5, 2018.

  1. Temujin

    Temujin Fapstronaut

    So i was seeing this girl. We dated a few times and we ended up sleeping together and spending the day in bed just watching stupid stuff on YouTube/Netflix.

    After this she got studying for a big exam that she had, and i made the classic mistake of sending a few too many messages. She ended up breaking it off saying that she wasn't looking for anything serious.

    I said i completely understood and that it was no problem. I thought that would be the end of it.

    Ended up bumping into her the other day and we got talking for a bit. The energy still seemed to be there a bit. I think the fact that we hadn't seen each other for a few weeks gave her a bit of space to get over my over-texting.

    Been messaging again a bit and i get the feeling she wants to hang out again. I'm just not sure whether to start from the beginning again and invite her out for a coffee or to just go straight to inviting her around for Netflix.

    Like did our relationship fully come to an end and needs to be restarted from scratch or was it just paused?
  2. immadothis

    immadothis Fapstronaut

    just call her, being too 'needy' is a turn off, It's annoying , she was just tired, then she rested and she is not tired anymore, the relationship never ended
  3. elevate

    elevate Fapstronaut

    You're overthinking this. Stop treating it like a math problem.

    What do you want to do? How do you want to spend your time? What's fun for you?

    That thing that you want to do would be more fun with her doing it with you.

    It doesn't matter if it's from scratch or a continuation. What matters is you're interested in the activity and she's there with you.


    You can do what you want, but I will critique your choices a bit here.

    Coffee / lunch / dinner means a lot of sitting down and talking.

    Netflix is like something a married couple would do because they have nothing better to do.

    Maybe think of an activity that's more interactive and exciting.

    You want to be able to grow together. To try / learn new things together.

    Rather than "let's just be lazy and relax". That paints a picture of what your life could be together in the future. If you two aren't doing much growth or excitement right now, then what's your relationship going to look like 1/5/10/20 years into the future?
  4. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

    You got a second chance don’t fuck it up. Stop thinking.
  5. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

    Overthinking is as big a problem on NoFap as porn.
    sfmark12, Recovering1 and FX-05 like this.

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