Day 1 again I relapsed but not to porn ...

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It's honestly tough to say. What are you trying to achieve here? If your PIED is because your sexuality has become dependent on edited, impossible standards of beauty, then you could avoid that if your girlfriend's pictures are natural. If you're trying to not support the porn industry because of its inherent coercion and assault, well there probably isn't any of that (hopefully) involved in your girlfriend's pictures. If you're trying to not see women as merely sexual objects, that could also be avoided depending on how deep your relationship is. Honestly, though, I would advise you to set your standards as high as you can. Breaking porn addiction is tough, and doing it halfway doesn't cut it. It's a slippery slope, and pictures of your girlfriend can easily pull you back into porn. If you want to beat this all the way, you have to commit all the way. People over pixels, regardless of what those pixels are.

 

The first week really is the hardest. I'd recommend completely leaving it all well alone for a good long while. The pathways you've built in your brain aren't necessarily nuanced enough to spot who the person is in the pictures - they just associate sexy pics with dopamine rush. You have to treat them like a badly trained dog - firm, simple, consistent, controlled behaviour. It doesn't necessarily mean you can never go back (though I would argue that you probably shouldn't) but right now it's like saying to an alcoholic "you can only have drinks mixed by your gf"- not the most productive way of sorting things out IMO.

 

From what I've read that others have written, a full 90 day reboot, with absolutely no sex of any kind, is the best and fastest way to get you to a healthy sex life. Honestly, though, I have no idea how sex will affect your reboot, being a virgin myself and planning to stay one for the forseeable future.

 

From my experience, masturbating just ruins your sex life. You're more likely to get ED or PE and as far as I can tell,. It gets you into really bad habits in terms of technique

 

Yeah, I get that. This thing is hard, but I promise it's worth it. I'm on day 5.