Hello, I'm new to this forum but I've tried to beat my addiction for years, numerous times, failing every time. I feel like apathy is growing inside of me and I slowly don't care about what I'm doing to myself, my feel of guilt decreases slowly... But I've gained some experience from my Sisyphean work and now I want to share it with you (sorry for my english): -Never think about anything related to sex or romantic love (if you are single) before falling asleep. When you are single, thinking about love before sleeping isn't making your decision (about nofap) easier, it just makes you want to have a relationship and when it's not avaible for you -> you feel alone -> you want to relive your urges, therefore it's very possible you will masturbate -Take cold showers. -Clean up your room. When I look around my room and it's messy, I don't want to do anything productive so I'm limiting my options and my brain goes: "You can't do anything on your table because it's dirty, you can't exercise inside your room because there's stuff everywhere, you already played video games for too long, you know what you could be doing right now? Masturbate" -Limit the time you spend on social media/internet. Sexualization of the culture is just too big to handle sometimes. Not to mention all the useless junk you can fill your mind. -Socialize if you can. I too have a problem with it, but when I can socialize, I try my best because I know that humans aren't meant to be lonely and in my case masturbation is often the result of loneliness. I think it's all I can think of now, thanks for reading and have luck.
Day 1: Apparently my previous post was "day 0" according to the rules so there's that; Everything is fine, I was busy all day so I couldn't even think about watching porn, although it was very visible how the previous masturbation still has an affect on me with me being socially awkward at the gym; Another motivation to keep me away from degeneration!
Day 2: I understand that majority of people wants attention from opposite sex, but come on... It seems like majority of girls on my gym is totally fine with shorts so tight that it seems like they wear nothing at all (or maybe I'm so thirsty). Because of that I had some trouble with keeping my clean mind-set but I'm fine now. Tommorow is going to be a busy day.
I don't understand the question dude, but I will answer anyway: this is a thread where I write about every each day of my adventure with staying clean from PMO - I wrote some of my advices in the first post so I could contribute a bit to the society here
Day 3: In the morning I was still thinking about the girl I met at the gym but happily I don't have this problem anymore, I hope she gave up on gym, I don't want to see her tight shorts again. A good way to forget about someone you met irl but you don't really know them in person is to imagine them being someone you wouldn't want to date. Also I'm pissed at myself, at my environment, at the Paradox™ and I'm really bored and I can really feel the desire to masturbate but luckily it's 21:00 where I live so I can begin getting ready to sleep. +For the people who can't stand cold showers but still think it's a good idea: Start from the head. The cold water will feel a little bit warmer on the rest of the body. Thanks for reading dudes
I really feel the desire to watch porn now. This day is so boring + it's the day when I should rest from the gym. Only Europe Universalis 4 and reading books is left. 9 hours to go...
Day 4: I survived! all thanks to playing video games. I came up with an amazing idea: It's pretty clear that I'm not horny all the time but I have an atleast one strong urge once a day, but what if I stopped myself from playing vidya or doing whatever fun (alone) so I can save it for this one moment of urge? So I can be distracted until it's gone? I think it's a good idea. Peace dudes
Day 5: It was hard, I felt apathy to the whole situation again but thanks to nofap I reminded myself why I'm doing this in the first place. I hope I will survive this weekend - I heard that it takes 31 weeks to heal from porn addiction, I have to be strong.
Day 6: Was much easier than the previous one, mainly because of working. No matter if it's weekend or not, you can't lay down in bed all day (if you are not sick), sex thoughts granted. Peace!
For me, I have a very similar experience as you: the first week is always hardest. It is difficult to get over 5-6 days. After that, my emotions go rollercoaster for some weeks. I can have really high days, followed by some really low days where I struggle. Good luck on your journey! Good to know you are here and fighting
Day 7: I feel good and handsome today. I didn't need to fight a single urge, nothing horrible happened, everything is nice, I'm not going to lower my guard though. Vice versa brother!
Day 8: I don't know why but I didn't have a single urge today either. My day was "meh" but aside from that I'm winning this fight, I hope I will heal quickly. Peace -
Day 9: I had a couple of oppositions but I closed my eyes everytime I knew that it will go in the wrong direction (sorry for engrish). That's why I can't lower my guard, atleast not for now, not until I will be completely healed. Peace dudes (again sry)
Day 10: It was hard at times, but because of some circumstances I regained my mind and I didn't lose. Always remember to look away when you see an attractive person you don't know. Still going, still stronk. Peace
Day 11: It was much harder than yesterday but not as hard as day 4 of my journey. I kept myself distracted by playing a video game (that I finished today and I feel like it could be a bad start because due to coronavirus my school is closed and I have much more free time) and by watching youtube videos. I already feel the discomfort from sitting on a computer for 8+ hours (I didn't even count). It can be a nightmare but it's not for sure. I hope I will be good - Peace dudes
Change the context; or talk with people; maybe go out - best time to go shopping right now Stay strong! You only need to make today. Tomorrow, is a new day and your urges will have vanished! You are maybe close to relapse, but when you make it over the hill this time, going downhill again, you will have significant momentum to make it far!
Thank you brother, I had nobody to talk to so I went to an anonymous website to talk about random stuff and it helped a lot! You are right, I'm glad that I was strong enough to defeat this urge. Day 12: I'm still going and I didn't lose - it will be hard (especially now because of free time) but if I want to be healed I need to fight. I already see how :my mind is clearer, my memory is better, my apparence is better, I'm more open to people; all in comparision with day 1. I don't want to give it all up just for a couple of minutes of perverted pleasure. Peace dudes
