Day 10: why are my thoughts about other women increasing? I really hate this.

Hi Charfonglee, sorry to hear that you are going through a rough patch. Your body is likely craving porn and the novelty it provides. Over time these thoughts should get better but you just need to stay strong and continue on with your streak (congratulations on making it 10 days!). The other things you can do in the short term are to avoid looking at other women and to consciously work on changing what you're thinking.

I know what you mean about feeling like you want to cry but can't. Life can be tough at times but it's important to focus on the positives. Depression can be really rough but don't hesitate to talk about it and get help if you feel like you need it.

Good luck continuing on with your journey!

 

It's horrible isn't it? It like by trying to desexualise your thinking you realise how much you did think sexually at every opportunity. I found it shocking . The thoughts are automatic, I have to counter them with , "dont look", or "you dont think like that now", or "will it be helpful to think like that? ". They can come thick and fast and repeat continually. They can also fluctuate depending on how stressed or tired I am. They are so less frequent for me now after 6 months of challenging them. I still have ups and downs but am able to cope and am building a good bond with my wife.

 

I feel you bro... literally the other night I had to tell myself in a dream to chill out...my biggest thing now is trying to prepare for the temptations I don't expect...like daydreams which I've now added to my inner circle as a nono...on my journey ive learned that this is an ongoing process that gets better over time as long as you actively practice abstaining from those thoughts and the things that trigger those thoughts.