Day 18. Feeling down and lonely. Any advice?

[Andersen1999]

Hey everyone.
So on january the first i started my NoFap journey. I have been extremely pmo addicted, 1-4 times a day for 10 years maybe. I’m on day 18 now, and it has been going well. The first 10 days or so was awesome! High confidence, high labido, overall hapiness was at the higest it has been for month. But after day 10, and especially day 15-18 i have been tired, depressed, low labido and felt very lonely. I have not had sex in nearly 2 years now, and it has been getting me down these past days, more than usual (which says a lot). It is weird to me because everything was awesome the first 10 days. Now i feel like my friends does not pay as much attetion to me, my confidence is down, low labido and i have had insomnia. I am of cause not planning on fapping at least until i have completed the 90 days!

I was wondering if anyone has experienced the same thing before? If so do you have any advice?

I should add, i have started MMA classes, stopped smoking weed every night. I go to the gym nearly every day.
I am a decent looking guy (with red hair though) who is alright with girls, but scared to approach and i rarely go out, which results in me never meeting any girls.

Ps. If you read all of this thanks!!! I’m new on the forum, hope i posted this the right place

 

[Gingham]

Hey man, I saw your post and it gave me incredible hope. I am here alongside you on this journey. I have attempted NoFap several times over the years, but the onset of the New Year is my latest and final attempt. Final because I feel confident I can overcome it.

Just like you, I have been masturbating 1-4 times per day for 2 years. Between the 4 and 10 day mark, I had a ton of energy and my thoughts were on fire. Incredibly productive. Around the day 10 mark, my feelings became anxious, and by day 12 or 13 I entered into the flatline. I'm not really depressed, but more withdrawn, tired, nonexistent libido. I have some insomnia, too. Overall I am pretty irritable and I don't find many things pleasurable.

It's hard to imagine masturbating at this point. I've edged a few times for maybe a minute at a time, but I quickly stop. Mainly because I realize I am doing it out of habit, and not out of sexual desire.

I work out too every day, and I eat really healthily. I have no idea when we will leave our flatlines, but I am hopefully that it will be soon. I think the first ten days is a look into what we can enjoy everyday once we get passed this hurdle.

So take in a deep breath and smile. Know that this is a time of quiet, and it will pass. You are not alone.

 

[Myfortress]

Your mind is going to try and get you to give it what it wants. You will find your mind wandering and rationalizing looking for excuses to give in. Resist and stay strong. It gets better. Your are also coming to grips with what life is really like. Sometimes you feel down and other times really good. This is how it is if you don't medicate with porn everyday. Besides, porn screws up your real sex life. To don't want that to happen.

 

[Deleted Account]

Why start fapping again after 90 days? That would be like if you worked out super hard at your MMA gym and got a 6 pack. Then after 90 days you decide to quit and go back to eating junk food and sitting in front of the TV.

To answer your question, recovery in the beginning can be like riding a roller coaster. There are going to be some rough days with raw emotions. The feelings are temporary and they will pass.