Day 244 free, write me your questions and I will answer

[ThePerspicacious]

So I've been on this forum for a while, I just made it to 8 months of freedom, don't let that make you think my case wasn't severe, I used to watch porn for 7 hours a day, I'm not here trying to celebrate or saying I made it, I know I can relapse at any time, I wanna help you guys and aI don't really know what aspects to talk about.
Ask me any question you want about this 8 months, and I will try to help you with my knowledge:
whether it's about benefits, escalation, de-escalation, weird fetishes, flatline, porn use, tips or anything you want, I would be happy to help

 

[Kmob62]

Congratulations. Phenomenal achievement!

What's your number one piece of advice for how to stay sober for so long?

What's your best benefit from refraining?

 

[EscapingPMO]

how were you able to normalize a lifestyle without porn/masturbation?

Over time, does it just become natural and you feel like this is now the new normal?

 

[stmos]

How do you deal with strong urges?
I’ve tried urge surfing and it works to a point, but then I think I slipped into willpower.
And I only have so much willpower

 

[Jamessto]

Can you list the largest benefits you've noticed.

 

[Neolixm]

Did u used to fantasize?have u stopped it? How?

 

[ThePerspicacious]

Congratulations. Phenomenal achievement!

What's your number one piece of advice for how to stay sober for so long?

What's your best benefit from refraining?

1 advice to stay sober for so long: understand that porn is ruining your life and there iss no future for yourself with it, then find a purpose, you don't really need a life meaning, but just fix a goal, example: succeding in exams of this year, learning a skill, etc..

best benefit: I can live now, I had no life with porn

 

[ThePerspicacious]

how were you able to normalize a lifestyle without porn/masturbation?

Over time, does it just become natural and you feel like this is now the new normal?

I don't really understand what you mean by normalize, since I started Nofap, even when I was in active addiction, I knew that porn is bad and that I should not watch it, even when I was watching it 7 hours a day, but I kinda get what you mean, porn was the biggest part of my life, you try to stop, and then over the time, the urges start getting lesser and the fantasies start getting lesser, it becomes normal with time, I would say after around 150 day the new life became not just a phase or a challenge, but my normal life

 

[ThePerspicacious]

How do you deal with strong urges?
I’ve tried urge surfing and it works to a point, but then I think I slipped into willpower.
And I only have so much willpower

porn has nothing to do with willpower, for your question about strong urges, for the first 30 days in my journey, I adopted a lifestyle that made it impossible for me to watch porn, I would wake up, eat my breakfast then go to a library, then I would spend half the day or more there, then when I finish I go home, eat a snack and go out for a walk with a friend for 2 hours, I minimized the time of vulnerability, because man in those first 30 days you be doing everything perfect then suddenly you get an urge out of nowhere and then boon you are on autopilot, I think after 30 days, If you staw away from triggers and maintain a disciplined lifestyle, you will get urges, but not big ones that will turn you in autro pilot mode, I remember I had a big urge during around say 35 or 40, i just got out of my house and started walking, I kept walking and walking for hours, returned to the house after 3 or 4 hours, it felt better

 

[ThePerspicacious]

Can you list the largest benefits you've noticed.

i think I'd better make a post about it making a huge list

 

[ThePerspicacious]

Did u used to fantasize?have u stopped it? How?

I used to fanasize a lot and I still struggling with it but now lower, it goes away with time if youb try to stop, I think, contary to watching porn, fantasizing is a thing that is under our control and we can stop doing it, but ditracting ourself with something else when you feel like fantasizing

 

[Jain india]

Any suppliments you try on your journey ? And what's your age bro? And how many years of addiction you had?

 

[Hardwoker]

Does it really get easier month by month?

 

[Hardwoker]

How long have you been doing it? How did you stop it?

 

[ThePerspicacious]

Any suppliments you try on your journey ? And what's your age bro? And how many years of addiction you had?

no supplements I tried

 

[ThePerspicacious]

Does it really get easier month by month?

on the long term yes, it is not a linear way

 

[Rainbow Warrior]

Did you try fasting at all and did it help or contribute to a long streak? I tried the fasting method and reached 800 days till I got locked up and relapsed. Best time of my life. Especially the attraction I was getting from every woman that walked my way. I’m on day 70+ now. Doing okay

 

[badboyy_]

How did you get so many days, so what should I do to get so many days? What did you do? What was your daily plan?

 

[Vergil_S]

Does quitting porn make your real sex experience better?

 

[Deleted member 552265]

How do you sublimate sexual energy and transform it into creative energy? What spheres/areas do you invest it in? How do you pursue self-development? Do you create plans for the day/week/month/year, and what do they generally look like? Thank you for your answers.