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DAY 250 - MORE BENEFITS

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by LifeWorthLiving!!!, Jan 29, 2017.

  1. LifeWorthLiving!!!

    LifeWorthLiving!!! Fapstronaut

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    90 days is just a start. The changes are dramatic in 90, but it's been my experience that they keep getting better. You don't hit 90 and plateau. It keeps getting better. I hit 250 yesterday no PMO

    1. CLARITY WITH SELF - With PMO I was not able to accept my strengths and weaknesses. I had to see myself as the best at everything in order to keep myself attractive to women. I did not accept any weakness. Now I am seeing areas where I need work and I'm ok with it. I don't have to be the best. I see myself as good.

    2. FOCUS ON BUILDING VIRTUE - for years of have tried to set goals that required things that were conditioned outside of myself. Now I am focused on one thing. Be a man of virtue ready to serve God and others.

    3. CONFIDENCE - I am so much more able to speak out my opinion because I have something to say. As a PMO addict I was part of the problem and had no room to speak. Now I can speak and do, since I have integrity.

    4. WORK ETHIC - I am getting so much done because I have a clear brain. I get a natural dopamine high from scratching off tasks for the day and it's great.

    GOD'S PEACE
     
  2. Sailor93

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    I notice too that I express my opinion more, because I am more confident. Before, I would have just kept my mouth shut, but since 2 weeks, I notice that I dont keep quiet anymore. I reply to people, and when they say something wrong I tell them what is correct. I enter discussions with people. Before Nofap, I would never have done that.
     
  3. LifeWorthLiving!!!

    LifeWorthLiving!!! Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the response. Comgrats on 2 weeks - keep that momentum going. You will get to a point where you're desire for brain healing will far outweigh the desire for pornography. You may already be there!

    Regarding your post, I agree. Think about how much energy is wasted in self condemnation. You want to be a part of the solution, but because so many world problems stem from lack of self control (and if you're watching porn you know that you're out of control ) - you shut up and dont share an opinion.

    I have had 250 days where I have been freed from the absolute slavery of a self condemning voice which whispered "you have no room to talk". YEARS of dealing with that voice. The list of benefits with a life of integrity grow every day. I get excited to see the new benefits.

    Someone wrote a great tip that said " when you're tempted ask yourself "where will the urge LEAD me, and where will it LEAVE me." I have been using this a lot lately. Also. I use authoritative voice of reason , speaking to the urge saying " NO, ABSOLUTELY NOT, WE ARE NOT GOING TO GO THERE. THIS IS NOT AN OPTION". I use an authoritative tone speaking mentally to the urge and it always works for me.
     
  4. AnulomaViloma

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    First of all congratz on reaching it so far! I am currently at 1/25 of your progress. Not seeing any changes for now. Now my question for you: is this 250 days without ejaculation? Not counting wet dreams ofcourse..
     
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  5. LifeWorthLiving!!!

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    I would have thought it impossible back in May of 2016, but yes, 250 days without ejaculation. Actually, I haven't had a wet dream in that time. Some dreams that were interrupted when I woke up, but no ejaculation.

    What I learned is that build up actually passes through urination. At times you can see it after using the bathroom. The urine will have a cloudy appearance.

    My average was about 5 days before. I thought that I had to do something or I would somehow do damage to myself because of build up. This would lead to constant relapse. Reality is that it passes through urine.

    Stay strong. You have good momentum going on recovery!

    GOD'S PEACE
     
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  6. Sailor93

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    Thanks for your reply. I am on day 68 now, but it's only since 2 weeks that I have this confidence gain. I wasnt clear in my post ;)

    Indeed, this voice that used to tell me to shut up, don't argue with somebody, even when they're wrong. It's gone and I am happy for that.
     
  7. DannyCool

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    :) Wow! 250 is sweet. Wishing you more and more happiness. :)
     
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  10. LifeWorthLiving!!!

    LifeWorthLiving!!! Fapstronaut

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    I have been getting more into affirmations. Positive thoughts that light up the reasoning in my brain. Passive thinking can lead so easily to negativity. Active, conscious, positive thoughts can really change things!

    GOD'S PEACE!!!
     
  11. LifeWorthLiving!!!

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    Keeping myself accountable.

    I was watching a movie this evening and a rather unpredictable scene came up. Automatically, I looked down and away. I don't want to mess up my progress.

    Over the past 8 and a half months, I have had that happen 3 times, where an unpredictable image crossed my path. I have been successful in avoiding triggery images.

    I want to bring this into the open by posting it. We are as sick as it secrets. Not that I voluntarily looked for it, but I still want to share that I saw it.

    I will do whatever it takes to heal my brain. Too many years wasted. I know where those images lead me, and I know where they will leave me. Porn is not an option.

    GOD'S PEACE!!!
     
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  12. jacob overcoming

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    you rock bro, stay in faith. Jesus is the reason i found this place. he taught me that porn addiction doesnt just require prayer n deliverance, it requires disciplining the mind. the word repent in greek means to change your mind, in hebrew it means to turn around. i came here to repent and i feel i truly am in yhis area for the first time in years. secular or not this site is a gift from god n so is this community of people.
     
  13. mks2

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    When did you reach that point?
    I dropped twice after 60 days. And I really saw the benefits. But it seems that after day 40 I catch a flatline and the pornography begins to outweigh.
     
  14. LifeWorthLiving!!!

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    I started getting a sense of that freedom a couple of weeks in. But I would still catch waves of an urge. Typically, my pattern was to set myself up to fall - passively allowing images to linger in my memory until I would say that "I'm too far gone - I have to give in".
    I am now very disciplined about images in my head - cutting them off immediately and using my intellect to address the urge, saying to the urge "WE'RE NOT GOING THERE. ABSOLUTELY NOT. " The urge backs down.
    I also pray. About an hour a day.

    You may start to tell yourself that 40 days is where it all goes downhill. But you have to get to it and press through the flatline. Mentally, you need to exercise reason - speaking to the urge.

    Let me know if you have any other questions. I'm happy to offer any advice that I can offer.

    GOD'S PEACE!
     
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  15. ImASinnerWhoJesusSaved

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    Amen brother! It's a wonderful community. Keep fighting the good fight.
     
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  16. LifeWorthLiving!!!

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    Agreed. I prayed a lot, but my Scripture also speaks of being transformed by the renewal of our minds. I was not a disciple before - now I am letting God disciple me. Discipline of the mind is key.

    GOD'S PEACE!!!
     
  17. Andyst343

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    Well done amazing 250 day! Do you consider yourself rebooted, reset, back to factory settings, what ever you call it?
     
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  18. Harry Maclad

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    Nice job on reaching 250 days. Thanks for the inspiration.
     
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  19. LifeWorthLiving!!!

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    Great question.

    The best way that I can describe it is that I have self control. I will get involuntary lustful thoughts, but I know how to deal with them. Immediately. This is the gift of rebooting.

    I also avoid any nudity on TV. Even in a film that has it for "artistic value"- not worth it. I recently dealt with a split second scene that hit in a movie, and battled with it for 3 days. Didn't fall, but it would have been easy to fall.

    Neuro-pathways from PMO have brain trails. When you make new healthy trails and forget the old trails, the old trail grows over. You stop thinking about the old trails because the new ones are so great. But it would be easy to clear the old and go back to old ways.

    I spend my time making new trails - daily.

    GOD'S PEACE!!!
     
  20. vibemaker

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    That's a good one!

    Congrats for your success. 250 days are amazing!
     

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