Day 276 giving up

I would say don't stop with nofap. I was a virgin until 26, and I wasn't bothered by this fact until this year. Life is not all about sex and I don't regret playing video games, hanging out with friends, reading books, enjoying my hobbies. Here is the biggest reason to stop fapping. When I was about to have sex for the first time, I couldn't get hard at all because of porn. Imagine yourself in that situation apologizing to your partner. Don't be like me. The earlier you are off PMO, the sooner you can have a better time when your time comes.

 

I know it can be hard to manage to stay a virgin and doing NoFap. But if you give up now, those 276 days we're a waste. Just think about that. If you plan on doing NoFap again, your gonna for sure go back to the mindset of PMO. But if you change your habits, adapt to the situation, TRY to learn from your mistakes while you're still on this streak, then for sure you will succeed. I guarantee it.

Never count the days. Today is your day and just give your 100%. Not even 100%, I say 200% every day. Don't waste your time thinking about these things. Focus on your goal. If you don't have one, then start something new. Try new things, go out and try new food places.

To be honest its actually a blessing to be alone. You have more free time for yourself. Being in a relationship means the woman will always be your first priority. It will no longer be just you anymore.

 

Yes that's it. Also, for thread starter, don't measure your quality by virginity. Newton and Tesla, smartest people on history even died virgin lul.

Just believe your spouse Will meet you

 

@itz_gioc i largely agree except for two point:
1. woman should never be first your priority unless you want to ruin that relationship
2. count these days - but use it to motivate yourself getting on yet another level - let's say you gonna make 50 youtube videos by the time you get to 400days, or you gonna make a $10M on day 1000 and you gonna be set for life from there!

 

Ok, so I'd say you are in a prison my friend, but now you can see the bars that confine you.

Fear. Of rejection, embarrassment, of being seen as weird.

Girls love weird. They love unique and different, that is a great place to be. All you need to do is go directly into that fear, out of your comfort zone. Feeling like you want to give up now and pmo is you finally realising the truth. And that truth is that you can now see a different way in life. Your old way, or a new way. What will you choose? To stay in your comfort zone, or dive headlong into the unknown?
You only live once. Don't take yourself too seriously, go and see what's out there.

 

Yeah I know women shouldn’t be your first priority. I’m just trying to give him an idea that not all women would always be happy. It’s the mans job to be supportive and love that woman. It’s also about choosing the right woman. They would also have to remain by your side and give you the courage to go through difficult times in your life.

You have the freedom to count your days. But through my experience all that motivation after 90 days was slowly fading away because I surpassed that goal. I created a new goal to reach a year but then relapsed. Because I was receiving doubts and strong urges. I thought to myself “wow 130 days.. I wonder what it feels like?”. That’s why I learned my lesson and giving my suggestion to not count the days. In this situation you mentioned the amount of days and you still felt down. So you still have the freedom to do so if it really does motivate you.

Right now I’m saying focus on yourself. Once your ready to get into a relationship. God will deliver.

 

Hope you are doing well. Sociability is a learned skill. I'm thirty eight and still learning. BTW, I was a virgin until thirty one. My time with that woman wasn't anything special. Haven't had sex since. My advice is to stop worrying about getting laid. When it happens, it'll happen. Approaching a lady for sex only makes our lives more difficult. Build your social skills with both men and women. Improve other areas in your life. The benefit of NoFap is not superpowers. It's all the changes we make in our lives to improve our selves. On another note, if you have any sort of unprocessed trauma in your life then I highly suggest dealing with it. Seek a combination of professional counselling some sort of support group. Using women or sex to cover pain isn't a good idea. As I don't know your history then this may not pertain. Keep moving forward. Reflect on the past, live in the present and look to the future.

 

Firstly No Fapping isn't a button you push that magically transforms your life, you gotta do other things.
Secondly I dont believe you have nothing you can say to a girl, no questions or anything. Whenever you have an interest in anything you have nothing but questions, so much subject matter. Why should a girl be any different?

 

@itz_gioc
I see counting days as just one tool, i guess one needs to keep expanding that toolset as well as one's comfort zone,
i had the experience several times that i thought i got into some good routine of doing things and that i'm good,
but then - something was missing and i began flatlining (around day 40 and day 90 especially) - then until i would
find that new puzzle to my game to make it interesting and refreshing again - i was in nasty mood, but after that
by not giving up, and really staying in and eventually overcoming that pain eventually lead me to new breakthroughs and moments
of brilliance and bliss that followed just afterwards, that why its worth it.

 

Life it happens. Hopefully, you come back and give it another try.

 

I know exactly what you mean, I notice a difference but at the end of the day It’s the same lonely shit