day 30 - want to go to an escort to find out if my dick works

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by bayern12, Jun 9, 2018.

  1. bayern12

    bayern12 Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys, I am an PMO addict for 10 years. I am suffering from DEATH GRIP+PIED. When I take pills, I can have sex but suffering from DE.
    I developed an Performance Anxiety, and I want to be confident about Healthy sex.

    therefore, I think about Testing" my dick with an escort.
    I am on my 30 day of know PMO (stopped forever i think).

    thoughts?
     
  2. FlyingPizza

    FlyingPizza Fapstronaut

    I'm not a dude, so maybe that disqualifies me from offering helpful advice. However, I do suffer from a sexual dysfunction. Something that is very common with these types of problems is that they have a physical component and a psychological component that can make the physical aspect either better or worse. In your case, you suffer from Death Grip (physical component) PIED (both physical and psychological) and performance anxiety (this would be your psychological component). Let's suppose you go with an escort, your anxiety kicks in and you can't get an erection, can't maintain it or can't feel much. You risk getting worse, because you now have a history of performing poorly that will undermine your best attempts.

    I would suggest you give yourself some more time, at least the 90 days recommended for most people, and possibly more. Realistically, we cannot heal from 10+ years of porn use after 30 days. Furthermore, one of the goals of dumping porn is being able to connect with people. You might do that with a girlfriend or a woman you meet at a bar, even. With escorts, though, you pay to get sex. You are forgoing genuine human contact and attraction. I don't think sex with an escort would be the best setting to test whether you can get an erection or not. It's not an experiment with the same variables of having sex with a partner you are genuinely trying to win.

    Lastly, something you might want to ask yourself is if you're trying to rationalize this whole "I want to get an escort to see if my dick works" to get an orgasm. Now that you're not relying on porn to get you off, you might be looking for something else, and escorts might be a solution you have come up with. Bad idea. Stick to the plan.
     
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  3. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    I have opened a thread with a similar question. Someone talked me out of it. Don't solve one problem by creating another one. What the girl advised you is better than what you intend to do. I would abstain from any sexual activity for a longer period of time if I were you.
     
  4. Fireman1

    Fireman1 New Fapstronaut

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    I’ve been into both and escorts are worse... it’s a harder habit to break and costs a lot. Both financial and emotionally
     
  5. MetaGame

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    Finish ur reboot and let go of thoughts of hookers. They just bleed ur pocket, ur dick ( in bad ways) and ur emotions. Almost every guy here will tell u escorts are a bad idea. Finish ur reboot, find a real girl , relax.
     
  6. LetsdothisK

    LetsdothisK Fapstronaut

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    Finish your reboot. Worry about that later.
     
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  7. primaljade

    primaljade Fapstronaut

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    Solid.

    Yeah, if you make yourself comfortable with getting an escort, that's another extension of your addiction (and you could get poor/arrested over it). Future-bayern12 needs that money!
     
  8. bayern12

    bayern12 Fapstronaut

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    Im in a flatline anyway lol.
     
  9. MetaGame

    MetaGame Fapstronaut

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    Look up how to break flatlines. If ur in one for more than 7 days. I find it excedingly easy to break flatlines cuz im willing to actually spend effort to look for ways to do it and act on it. escort will just set u back money , progress, time and piece of ur sexuality. My best friend worst decision he ever made was going back to escorts on nofap.
     
  10. bayern12

    bayern12 Fapstronaut

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    If I wont find a girl till my 90 days, how can I test my sex?
     
  11. STAR DUST

    STAR DUST Fapstronaut

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    Nope that’s a nogo
     
  12. emmanuilteleshev

    emmanuilteleshev Fapstronaut

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    Escort girls helped me to deal with the psychological problems, truth be told, I felt that I'm needed and wanted- the key factors of my anxiety, perhaps
     
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