Day 300: Grow Up

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by SolidSoldier, Aug 9, 2016.

  1. Today is day 300 for me. Not 300 days of running from an addiction, not 300 days of being free of some mass scheme to hurt me, not 300 days of some never ending cycle of trigger avoidance and avoiding life. This has been one moment, 300 days ago, of GROWING UP.

    It took me till I was almost 30 to become a man. I lacked responsibility, service to others and purpose. The key to coming out on top is growing up, becoming responsible for others and living life in a way that moves you.

    Not thinking about others was my first fault. Not helping others and spending enough time in service was leading me astray. I had too much time and thought I was addicted to porn. I thought just like everyone else that porn was a plague of youth and was acting on me. WRONG. Porn is like eating sugar, is like spending money, is like buying clothes, shoes, and any other action of life. You got nothing to do, so you are bored, purposeless and fill time with a sense enjoyment. Guess what? Most people do that in some way and feel like shit afterwards. Stopping the whole addiction nonsense was key to putting the ownership of my laziness on me.

    I am not an addict, never was. I was bored and had no one depending on me. Want to get out? Want to grow up? Becoming a man from a boy is simply getting responsible. You need to fill your time with life, with learning and with caring for others. Once I looked at the bigger picture and starting realizing that the way I act affects others, I was able to man up, grow up and get some work done.

    Stop going backwards. Stop acting like a child or little kid who sees something and wants to touch it or put it in it's mouth. Become a productive member of society and get your hands dirty. Build things, learn new skills, meet people in real life, help change someone else by changing yourself.

    I chose to use porn. I chose to waste time. Not because my brain was triggering a need for some chemical, but because life lacked meaning. I didn't realize my potential and I didn't think anyone else cared. Guess what: they do. Right now someone needs you to be strong, someone needs to lean on you for strength. Be there for them and stop the childish ways.

    These past 300 days has brought 3 manuals of right living out of my mind. These past days have brought together hundreds of people that I rounded up who are now changing their lives and becoming the men they want to be. These days have also proven to me that I can accomplish anything, especially when the struggle begins in my own mind.

    Stop this silliness. Go outside and breathe some real air. Use your computer for good, not for waste. Don't run from tech, tech is a beautiful thing and has uplifted society in countless ways. Use wisdom, don't just get upset and down - actually do something that changes you. Make your actions reflect your values. GET SOME VALUES. I know you got em inside.

    My victory is just a part of the countless other cases of boys who realized that they were not teens anymore. The time had come to do some real work and start providing. I grew up and started my life as an actual adult. You can do the same because you have to. Life will not wait for you. Either you figure this out and get some damn courage or it will all float by as you waste away.

    Don't worry about porn, because if you are weak minded then porn is the least of your problems. People are going to pass you up, your health will fall by the wayside without training and nutrition, your job will not promote you, time will pass and you end up as dust. Getting work done means moving, get moving. Fill up your list of to-dos and become a powerful being of success.

    Relax, all you need to do is decide. If not today, then when? It is one decision to never go back to junk food, wasteful uses of your day, poor language, poor posture, not enough sunlight, it is all one big package. Choose wisely, because none of it waits for you. The great thing is, when you make that decision to step up, it is yours for the taking.
     
  2. RetroMike

    RetroMike Fapstronaut

    Awesome Job man! This was truly inspirational to me and for the longest I have acted like a little boy instead of a man! This was a great reminder to live life and not waste life by watching porn. Thank you and much blessing to you on your journey!
     
  3. VirtualEunuch

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    Great motivational post! Loved it! Still struggling to apply this to my life but only those who stop trying have lost.
     
  4. MadHatter

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    I learned just how much of a boy I was being, through therapy. It was a tough realization, and it stills frightens me sometimes, gets me down sometimes. But I really want to let the past go. It is the key to my future.

    Thanks so much for sharing!
     
  5. vLife

    vLife Guest

    Very inspirational. Thanks for sharing!
     
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  6. Oneness

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    You've seriously just blown my mind. Everything you have said was like a barrage of punches in my face of realisations about growing up, being responsible, filling up my to do's and being successful.

    Thank You.
     
  7. SoulSearcher

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    Thanks for the post. I'm just starting journey to over PMO and other BS that I let happen. It's time to take control of my life. No more excuses. Thanks for the links.
     
  8. Alk346

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    Can't wait to past that mark, thanks for posting.
     
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  9. Thanks and best of honor in your mission.


    It's never too late, but eventually one day the heart stops and then it is too late. Having to be reborn again for this nonsense is not a good idea. Finish what you started.


    Thanks Mad. Don't get down, get productive. I have tips for dealing with the past in my first body of work, linked in my signature: Manual of Success.

    Sure, will write again in another 100 days most likely.

    Yes we often are not taught this anymore since we no longer have role models, guides, wisemen or fathers. Everyone is off getting divorced and the tribe has disbanded. It's time to man up and take care of our sons.

    Thanks and best of honor to you and your journey. Every struggle is good. No strong man was ever built without resistance. Robert Speer.

    You are the same man today as this 300 day mark in the future. All you must do is start being that person. I was that person on day 2 as I am on day 302, just never looked back to the person on day 0.
     
  10. iHappy

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    @SolidSoldier Congratulation for growing up. I have enjoyed reading your story.
     
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  11. GeoffUK

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    Wonderful post and you have inspired me, @SolidSoldier. I relapsed today. I've downloaded your book 'Manual of Success' and intend to read it from start to finish.
     
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  12. Thank you for the congrats. Glad you enjoyed the tale.



    I'm sorry to hear about the lapse in judgement today but I know that from pain comes great success. The manual is long but in it contains everything one needs to finish what they started. The other two manuals go deeper into the final stages of success.
     
  13. breaking_badhabits

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    awesome job....great post and inspiring to novices like me, I like the sentence in the post which was my feeling many times;

    "You got nothing to do, so you are bored, purposeless and fill time with a sense enjoyment. Guess what? Most people do that in some way and feel like shit afterwards"

    I used to get pulled in to that habit loop with a small cue and craving for dopamine (reward), once I am done after few hours will be feeling guilty and as you said feel like shit.
    Without any relapse today is day 34 with NoFap, my short term goal is 45 days and long term is 90 days.

    Keep posting such good stuff...... thanks!!
     
  14. TheSolarShaman

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    amazing job @SolidSoldier very inspiring words! It's great to hear a strong sense of confidence now helps guide you in your life, I can tell by the way that you present yourself that you have not even a shred of doubt in this process, and that is respectable. Thanks for being here and sharing your experience!

    ~PEACE
     
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  15. FULLMETAL

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    Very wise words and so truly motivational, thanks for posting it.
     
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  16. zadvanceppa

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    WHOA! Glad to stumble on this!
     
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  17. loveroflife

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    @SolidSoldier. Just joined nofap community and yours is the first post i read. I hope you know how far-fetched the effect of your experience is gonna have on everyone. You have not only succeeded in finding yourself but are in fact doing an admirable job of helping others as well. And in the process of discovering more of yourself you end up making world a lot better. Congratulations and thank you, my friend.
     
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  18. Congrats for 34, perhaps by now 35, days of mastery. Each day is another day we affirm our strength over our instinctive mind. As it goes, the mind will try to fight back so you must be there waiting to strike. I do not believe there are novices or experts at this, only those who become aware of what is there the whole time. You and I are the same as the first day we started, we just never looked back.


    I went through years of struggle only to find that it was those scars that made me stronger. Eventually we grow back like a cut blade of grass or a shredded tree root. Each slice develops another callous of stronger material.


    I'm glad you found truth in it.


    Hopefully there is something to take away from it. Rebuild and rewrite your own story based on what works for you.


    And thank you for the fine words. It is no coincidence that this was your first read on this website. May you have strength and honor in your journey.
     
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  19. recoome

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    I liked this. its nice to help others n be useful.
     
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  20. Iwannabeme

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    What denomination are you? If you dont mind i ask
     

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