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Day 35 of quiting porn

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Still quiting, Oct 16, 2019.

After this incident, do I continue counting from day 35 or restart from day 1?

  1. Continue counting from day 35

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  2. Restart to day 1

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  1. Still quiting

    Still quiting New Fapstronaut

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    This is my 35th day without porn, but today I couldn’t resist the urge to watch porn. But I realised that it was a huge mistake, so I immediately stopped and closed the web page.

    Is this considered a relapse?

    Lastly, anyone can give me some pointers and advice so as to stop this from ever happening in the future.
     
  2. ShadyPerson

    ShadyPerson Fapstronaut

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    I think it's up to you. After all the number of days in the streak counter is merely an irrelevant status symbol, which is meant to serve your needs and help you achieve your goals.

    Now there are two ways I can see this going wrong. First being that you'll keep going from where you are now and will feel like an impostor so bad that you'll end up relapsing out of guilt to reset your counter. The second is that you'll reset the counter and then think "Fuck it, I've lost anyways so might as well MO."

    Which scenario do you view to be more likely? I think you should go for the option that allows you to keep going without guilt, without despair and without relapse.

    I guess a porn blocker would help you prevent this in the future. Idk, I have usually had more trouble with porn substitutes and MO than porn so I'm not the best person to give you advice.
     
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  3. It isn’t a relapse but it’s up to you if you want to reset your counter. I think.
     
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  4. Still quiting

    Still quiting New Fapstronaut

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    I would love to reset my counter but I’m scared I’ll feel demoralised
     
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  5. IbrahimViking

    IbrahimViking Fapstronaut

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    Sooner or later, somewhere along the way, you will feel demoralized. Don't fight what is inevitable, otherwise the feeling of disappointment will become an easy excuse to relapse. Feel it, notice you don't like it, but continue with nofap. If you relapse once every 35 days, it's a huge achievement, if before you PMO-d every day, for example. You're doing great, man.
     
  6. Still quiting

    Still quiting New Fapstronaut

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    It’s great to know that there are people on the same journey and helping one another.
     
  7. ShadyPerson

    ShadyPerson Fapstronaut

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    Think about it this way: you aren't the guy who was too weak to resist taking a peek at porn, but the guy who was so incredibly strong that he didn't MO. Resetting your counter would also be a sign of incredible strength and strong values. And you could always keep in tour mind that had you not chosen the high road, you'd have 35 days added to your streak.

    But as I said, the streak counter is ultimately irrelevant. Do what aligns with your goals.
     
  8. Take 7 days off your counter. You peeked. That set you back for a week at most. But dont let this become a habit or you will see yourself at 0 faster than you think.
     
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  9. Still quiting

    Still quiting New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks but is there any way I can prevent this from happening again
     
  10. ShadyPerson

    ShadyPerson Fapstronaut

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    My advice would be to stop looking for a trick or a quick fix and insteas recognize the fact that you alone are responsible for your actions. Decide that you'll never do it again. Eventually you'll be strong enough to keep that promise for long enough times to make yourself proud.

    But that's just my two cents. Maybe someone else can give real advice. :D
     
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