Day 4, HELP!!

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by allistop, Mar 15, 2018.

  1. allistop

    allistop Fapstronaut

    I woke up today having a lot of work to do and stuff to finish. I had the porn thing in my mind since I woke up, I can't handle it, right now I'm too lazy, I have no motivation to do anything. All I'm thinking about is porn right now. I know that if I relapsed right now it won't be only today, it would take me a lot of time to get back here. So guys, Is there something I could do to make me more motivated and to get that porn thing out of my mind? I feel that I'm going into depression
  2. restaurant

    restaurant Fapstronaut

    sports sports sports. play games. do whatever you want. or just sit there and feel the pain (trains discipline). but dont touch porn!
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  3. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

    Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

    My suggestion is to think about why you wanted to stop in the first place. For me, I was miserable. When I am tempted, I call that misery to mind. I make myself soak in the memory of it, telling myself: "you want to back to THAT? Really?"
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  4. Hey @allistop ,

    I'm nobody special on here. Just a regular user saying, "welcome".

    There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

    My ESH is that NoFap is about action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it is about working my program.

    Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

    1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

    2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

    Learn the NoFap Program
    The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

    They are:

    You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

    Get Involved with the Community
    The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

    Remember, I'm just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can:

    • Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH

    • Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles

    • Pick a forum and make sure every post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.

    • Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
    Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

    --> L

    PS – I Think of pmo like a wolf. If I Stay near the center of the group with the winners the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, stray near the edges of the community by not working my program and the wolf can pick me off.
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  5. For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

    Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

    I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.

    @Gray Wolf

    Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles.

    So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself.

    Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles,

    --> L
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  6. One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

    I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @Alikersantti -
    @Reverent -
    @Struggle Bug -
    @BigDawg913 -
    @kropo82 -
    @tet2vd -
    @Protagoras -
    @JakeO5 -

    There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

    This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

    --> L

    PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal.

    The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page. Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time.

    Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar.

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  7. allistop

    allistop Fapstronaut

    Thanks bro, yes I'm trying now to keep myself as far as possible from porn. It's spring now so doing sports would be a great idea
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  8. allistop

    allistop Fapstronaut

    I always try to think like that. As you said that it was miserable for you, it was the same for me. I do not want to have that feeling that I had after watching porn. I will keep myself here whenever I can, I think that could help.
    Thanks bro
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