This article will potentially change the way you look at NoFap. I want to write about some urges that I’ve had over the past week. Recently the stress in my life has been getting to me, multiple areas of my life need some healing (financially, spiritually, mentally, and romantically) and it’s been hard for me not to revert back to pmo for a “quick fix” if you will. How I managed to get past the urges is by remembering how far I’ve come. Also it’s a respect thing. Respecting the house that I’m sleeping in is another strategy I used. Like, if I’m gonna watch porn, I’m not going to do it in “this” house. So by that logic there would be no where for me to do it. Last night I was contemplating how I am gonna be able to keep this up in the future. But I also had an epiphany. This is the wrong mindset to have. When your pet dog dies, there is no “seeing him again.” He’s dead. He’s gone. So you’re better off moving on, or getting a new pet dog if you can handle it. That relationship that you had with the dog, at least from a physical perspective, not so much spiritually or memories, is over. Maybe you’ll see him again in Heaven or something. But that’s it. To defeat porn, you have to be okay with that relationship DYING PERMANENTLY. To be “done with it” means it’s DEAD. The urges will always be there, same is the case when your pet dog dies. You will want to see him again… but that would literally be impossible. Because he’s dead. Imagine you were dating an incredibly attractive, sexy woman. You two have been dating for years. All of the sudden she dies one random day. Would it hurt? Of course. But what are you going to do about it? Bring her back to life? You can’t, it’s impossible. You just have to deal with it and move on. Easier said than done, death is no joke, but you get my point. This is the mindset you have to have to defeat pornography forever. You have to be okay with death. If the relationship dies… so be it. If you die due to the urges being too strong or something (lol) so be it… Thanks for reading.